Today here is Valentines Day and I had the intention to talk with a friend but things just didn’t work out. I am a single person my ex resides back in NY. That is long gone. No biggy there as it's long forgotten. Time can heal and it all seems to go fine.
Choices, to me, whenever love does come within my life it may very well just happen. I don't place that much weight into the day. Meanwhile, when I left off to meet up with some friends that are or have been good friends of myself as well as my family. I looked around and I could see all these people that were married, I looked at myself and thought about why I am single still to this day. There was a miss of something back while I was within the city previous to here and then things happen within life where you have so many things on your plate. But seemingly I am not the only one. Secondly, I would rather be single than to be within a relationship where it all goes wrong.
I am certainly not lonely. Well, as I was speaking with a friend in Ottawa that is the exact same way as me. Her response to me was that she is happy being single in comparison to being in a relationship where it's not right. So while looking around this mall - which I didn’t take any pictures as there is a time to take pictures and there is a time to just do life itself - like enjoy a brunch. I looked around and outside of the restaurant I could see a man walking the street just seemingly as lonely as can be. Now that is what I don't wish for. But within this day that came to be by traditional ways and is observed in many countries and is adapted within many. I don't place much weight into it. If I was married I certainly would.
What resonates in my head after this brunch was this song, "I don't know why". But really when it comes down to it each person has there own choices and I find that without trying there shall be a time and place encompassed within my own "space" whereby I do once again find something of a manner of love. This is merely my own thoughts. I certainly enjoyed what took place last night with the love that was share and most enjoyable within a platonic yet nice way. I certainly do hope you know what I mean. So those are the good thoughts on love. To all the ladies out there, there is a large difference between one that acts like a boy, compared to that is more of a gentleman. Actually it’s a two way street so to speak.
Yet gents can have a nice manner of fun with this as well. As for all the women that are on this earth, it's something that poetry could be wrote for day on end.
I think you know what I mean. Yet Valentines Day it has been.
i don't believe there is n-e-thing wrong with being a "single person"
ReplyDeletejust Have a GREAT day!!
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I've always been single. There is a huge difference between being single and being lonely. I am rarely ever lonely even when I'm alone. I've known married people that are lonely! I enjoy being single and I will enjoy being in a relationship when the time comes.
ReplyDeleteI dont know what to say. I have been single when everyone else around me was getting married, and no I didnt feel bad cause I didnt want the drama they had. After marriage, theres been some Great times, some Not so Great times, some So-so times but they all are Mine. As for lonely, there have been times, I have been lonely even when I was with friends and within my own marriage, but its something I am comfortable with. I feel nothing is always Up or always Down in life. We all come alone and go alone and in between if we can have good memorable times, its the best life we have.
ReplyDeleteI had a friend who was always wishing she would find true love and get married. I used to tell her I was very happy going through life solo. She reminded me that I had been married for 22 years and had children ... and she had not done any of those things yet. I understood.
ReplyDeleteThere's nothing wrong being alone. But i don't want to grow old and reach my 50's without special someone to cuddle with. I pray it will come in time when i am about just ready to have a new one. And i hope it will be forever and with a blessings from "UP." That would be heaven for me ... growing old with him besides me .... smiles*
ReplyDeleteIn my 25 years of being married, I have only been lonely once, about 2 years ago now, went through a rough spot. All is well now. But, on the other hand, I love being alone, my private time, as does my husband. Then we come back together refreshed, & happy to see each other :)
ReplyDeleteHi no there isnt and the day was good with all considered - yet I do believe within it but I am not driven towards it.
ReplyDeleteGG that is much the same way that I feel now. And I have seen the same with some of my friends some have had a long lasting relationship that is all well, and some have had it were everything went wrong. One was my best friend. And I would never wish nor want that again as he, went through a "he said she said" situation. So I am content. When it happens it happens.
ReplyDeleteRashmi, I find that I have come to be comfortable within it but at the same time I know I don't wish for a second to have no one within my life. We make or create the best within life maybe it's all within the creation - yeah.
ReplyDeleteFrani, I really don't know how people can be married and for so long and then break up. I truly don't understand that to be honest. Yet I one of these friends that I was with broke up after 20 years of marriage and then met a very fine man. Ironically you mention this as he was the best thing for her. They just arrived back from Mexico and she is now semi retired while he has his own practice as an accountant where he brings in the money and he is tremendously nice, while there are times as I know her better and I know that she can have her own tangents. Yet I know her better but I know that he is more of a amicable person - but at the end of the day seemingly they are very content. So she made and the transition. His wife had passed away. So there are the good things that do come about.
ReplyDeleteI don't want to grow old without, but at the same time I wish to do things in a very different manner - slowly first friends and then see how things go as time goes on but when you enter into a relationship there is that "tic toc" if you know what I mean.
ReplyDeleteCat that is the meaning of a union of two as I see it you get through the good and the bad, or maybe I am just old school but I know many people that still have that same situation as yours and kudos to you as maybe just maybe within our society things are just too easy to say " I quit ". Just my own opinion.
ReplyDeleteWell .. this could be explain well by the song "Save The Last Dance For Me" one of your fave ... the last is the sweeter as they say! Well then, as i am saying bye for now. Have fun laughs* [but avoid those toxic drinks ehem* i'm mothering here ... and good night to you there as i am starting my day.
ReplyDeletehugs tight :)
Don't get me wrong - there are a few that I have known and well. it's all not an angst this really was something of a thought when I arrived home this right before supper here. I do love music, yeah. And I do have enjoyable fun - sometimes I find that one can think and have thoughts on this area of Valentines and be very down about it but I good with in. I don't subscribe to toxics...
ReplyDeleteTime does heal and people grow stronger and wiser in knowing what is most important to them. Better to be sure about a serious relationship . I think the best relationships often happen without looking but I'm kind of old school I met my husband of 33 years come April ( Happily Married)before dating services like e harmony ..or people had home computers though that could work for some , nothing really wrong with it. I wish you all the best. I was just looking at your winter pictures they are really nice. We are under a winter storm warning so snow , snow and more snow. have a good night
ReplyDeleteYou have a great outlook on life ..I heard something put in an interesting way this morning ..To Live Life on Purpose..because we each have a purpose..You have gifts and hobbies you share and I think every one has people in their life that they influence,,You never know how much sometimes the smallest kindnesses mean
ReplyDeleteThere will always be a "tic-toc" in any relationships, and this is somewhat makes the love even stronger after surpassing all the obstacles. The only thing that makes a relationship bitter is, if one goes astray while still on it ... and that what happens in mine. And if trust is no longer there its time to call it quits ...
ReplyDeleteso many have been said, i just want you to be happy on this eve. Have clean fun ... please. bye :)
Very true gosh I am not a good multi tasker...yet I like it this way as I do have this facebook but within purpose, I have wrote on this it's somewhere within my blog. Purpose is a definition of ambition, that something that is relavent within each and everyone of us. I have an outlook, and it's not a repeating one it's one all done. Yet that is another blog Cheryl.
ReplyDeleteI must say for the first time this has come into a new demension.
i'm very content being single on the other hand i LOVE love and will continue to seek it out until i find my soul mate, which i will! wishing the same contention and happiness for all!
ReplyDeletehttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aS6-b7CONDI
ReplyDeleteSassy, when you meet your soul mate, find out if he has a sister.
ReplyDeleteWe have a saying in Turkish , ' Being single is being a Sultan ' ( Sultan is a kind of king ). I'm single too and complainment.
ReplyDeleteThe exact same goes for me. Literally...
ReplyDeleteI've been single for 19 years, and personally, I'm getting a little tired of it.
ReplyDeleteAnd "then do something about it" is easier said than done, for a number of reasons too personal and wordy to go into.
It's all relative and life is love... I really do believe in that. Yesterday I ran into an old girlfriend that I knew before I left to NYC. Ironically we talked - she is greek, and he husband passed away right before the holidays. We sat down for a while and we updated our own lives as the last time we saw each other was some years back. Yet I we both smiled after and said we shall catch up another time again. It's not easy yet we are not the lost older generation. Sometimes we can be our own worst enemy. Even the most confident people. Actually the most confident are usually the most the most negligent.
ReplyDeleteLa vie est belle... oui! Thanks to you Jack.
ReplyDeleteThe picture is gorgeous, love it when the trees are all white like that.
Bien/Good :)
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