I will be honest with you and I do hope for some of your prayers as I took my mother today back into the hospital she had the surgery yesterday - which I myself thought could have been put off, as she was fine. It was a cataract surgery the second of that went drastically wrong. I felt that she could postpone the second one till "other things" had come into place. Unfortunately back some four months ago a "practicing" young doctor here placed her on hydro - morphine while her main doctor was out of the country. He was in South Africa as his one parent of his passed away. When he arrived back he was livid but has been slowly titration of this medication, as she should have never been placed on it in the first place. According to him and he is one of the main doctors within her medical clinic and has been her doctor for some eight years. So the process has been an ordeal. As he was furious that she was ever placed on it. Yet there is nothing one can do. Then she being the one that wishes to tend to everything and thought that she could go ahead with the other one. I thought that with all things concerned that she would be far better off to post pone it for a month. Yet she had it done and she is down to nearly 90 lbs. right now and I was called back in as I thought she would be in there getting the proper care - yet here is were when the one specialist was coming close to being off for the evening - he gave her some salve and I said to follow up with her own eye specialist. When a nurse pulls you aside and sakes her head you know your on your own. That is not appropriate medical ethics. The emergency eye specialist pushed it over as he was at the end of his day and asked her to follow up with her own eye specialist tomorrow. This truly baffles me. And believe you me I have been in more hospitals with family than one would know. Ethics! Gosh I an angry...yet very concerned, very. The last thing in the world that I wish to take place is for this lady my own mother, which was entirely healthy as of 5 months ago to go down any further over this evening. I know it's going to be a case where another family member is taking her in tomorrow. But while I was talking to the nurse before I left she was nodding her head with the entire situation.
I have postponed my own second meet with a specialist (my knees), on this coming Friday as at this time I have seen things happen where the family acts within denial of sorts. Sorry if this did not come out perfectly right as I have a headache beyond belief.
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I would kindly appreciate your prayers. I truly would...
Jack,your mother will certainly be added to our prayer circle,prayer is a powerful tool,and am so sorry to hear what your MOM is going through.You were there for my daughter and I shall never forget it,and I along with all your friends,I'm sure will be there for you,and with prayers for your Mother. May God be with you both. Rainbow
ReplyDeleteMy sincere prayers goes with your mom Jack ... and so with you too. Take good care of your health always. God bless and hugs tight. maritess*
ReplyDeleteNot kidding here she should have been kept in and this truly amazes me here. And tomorrow I am sure that she will not be going to the specialist but back into that the same hospital and I know somewhere on here I do have a picture of her but I do thank you as this is obsurd. All I hope is that she is alright for tonight. Then we shall get things done.
ReplyDeleteI have seen others do this and I guess I am.
Me no worries I mean that but with her - aside of the fact that she could have postponed this for another month as there are a host of things to tend to my father as well. It's like a revolving hospital, but I do thank you Martess...as you know I have been held off on these things and I am on of my own faith, and for what it's worth for tonight I just wish for one prayer. She is the foundation of the family and always has been.
ReplyDeletePrayers whispered, Jack. Hoping for the best for your mom---and you!
ReplyDeleteSue you have known me for a very long time only by way of blogs and you know how much I have placed into my father I think. She has always been well. Till now.
ReplyDeleteI do really thank you Susan.
I'm so very sorry. I don't pray, but I promise to send all the love in my heart, & good energy your way.
ReplyDeleteYou're right about the cataract removal, it's done only when vision is seriously impaired. The second some time after the first, & when all health conditions are good.
Ethics? I call it the hypocritical oath. I spent five years in pain 24/7 because three doctors didn't believe the disease I thought I had, existed. During this time I was severely handicapped. I saw a new doctor last November who diagnosed me with fibromyalgia, & since I've been on medication, I've improved 75%, (although it can never be cured).
Whenever I go out, (I couldn't before), people always chat with me. I've been able to spread the word about the medication...most of these women were on pain meds & anti-depressants instead of treating the disease.
You have my sincere empathy. I personally know of how negligent doctors can be under other circumstances as well. You have the very best wishes I can give, & that's a lot. Plus a hug.
you and your family will be in my prayers
ReplyDeletethinking of you and I hope she gets well soon :)
ReplyDeleteIt's a sensitive issue as I have faith. But don't wish to go there. And I thank you Lucija I understand this much and do appreciate it. One eye was done then the other was. But this last one went wrong, the first one was all fine. The nurse said that she might have a tear within this eye that was done and she is within much pain. It literally makes me livid. I don't wish to go within this province and the manner that medicine is done as it the only one tier system in Canada. So who know what the outcome will be tomorrow but all I know is that this specialist was coming off duty and passed the buck. That is not medical ethics.
ReplyDeleteAside of a headache I am fine, I made a few calls and then I had a cold hard talk with my father as well as my one sister. Thanks Lucija, I don't know why I placed this on maybe it helps maybe there is a energy....maybe there is higher power. I think there is some higher power yes. I thank you....Woulda, coulda, shoulda...comes to mind.
I just wanted to add how vastly important it is to have an advocate. My medical directive is with my Power of Attorney, who has been in the medical field most of her life. Several times when I was in ER, she literally saved my life by preventing them from doing dangerous things, & advising what to do. They listened.
ReplyDeleteHer husband was a well known surgeon.
Thank you Danette, so wrongfully done by way of an eye specialist. (You know I never write these things).
ReplyDeleteThank you Heather.
ReplyDeleteJack, there is power in good energy. Please believe me; I know from experience.
ReplyDeleteI'm glad you posted this so we can all be "with" you.
Lucija, I have done it more than you know literally. I moved back here and I don't have it in me to tend to all these things with everyone. But with her I do. It's a who knows who. But I had been gone from this city for three years and most all have moved on. So I don't rock the boat, not now.
ReplyDeleteI know....literally I could be really depressed within all of this but I just wish for the evening for things to be alright...this in no manner was fabricated.
ReplyDeleteI am glad I did as it's something that rather than keeping it in I have let it out. I have called a few but I never jump the gun. Yet I know she has declined, and I want this to be the last situation on her plate.
It's best to let it out. Keeping it in can cause depression. Your body is telling you you're under stress. You can't really help her if you're depressed; when my husband was dying, I focused everything I had, on him. At times, as much as 48 hours straight. Knowing what he needed, smiling when from time to time he woke up...watching the IV as there wasn't sufficient staff, getting crushed ice because his mouth was very dry & he couldn't swallow. (I was his only caregiver, none of his huge family did a thing.)
ReplyDeleteI think most have pretty much summed me up in a sense. I have had an ordeal here for a while, but things for me have been getting better. We all do have these times within life but seemingly I keep it on the upside. But I am not too proud to say that these things don't effect me. As they do. So I render the best within spirit. Sound eclectic.
ReplyDeletepraying with and for you and your mom.peace
ReplyDeleteThank you Parrie - I am fine...yet very unexpected this secondary thing with her.
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Those were past situations and they were tended too with a big push....by myself. Honour thy mother and father. In all aspects of life.
ReplyDeleteYou and your mom will be in my thoughts and prayers, Jack.
ReplyDeleteFrani, thanks Canada is beating the Russians! - Thanks I mean that, I do.
ReplyDeletePositive energy and prayers. You have mail. Hope you feel better too. I'm so sorry to hear of this unfortunate event. Peace be with you xx
ReplyDeleteThanks I we didnt realize that "online friends" doesnt show all....thanks Cinn. I will check my email...
ReplyDeleteSending you thoughts of strength and Positivity.
ReplyDeleteA very good friend sent this:
ReplyDeleteI rarely argue with people about the existence or non-existence of God, I feel each has to believe according to their needs and temperments. I am not a very Religious person but I do pray. Prayer to me isn't about rituals or begging or fearing that which pervades the entire Universe. It is a tool to understand myself or find the answers to the questions "Who am I? Why am I here? What is my purpose? How can I achieve it? Where can I be of use?"
I use prayers to get myself through trying situations and to give thanks for all that I have in terms of tangible and intangible things. Prayer is a way to bring myself to be aware of things as they are and use what I have to be able to deal with them and learn from the event or people around me. Sometimes (wish I remembered to do that more often) I use prayer instead of complaining or whining or generally get through the "why me?" syndrome.
Some prayers are my favorite. I use them at the start of journeys, to remind me of why I pray, to help me stay on some decision I made or to help me gain control over hurt/anger/helplessness/fear at someone or some situation. Here are some of my favorite ones:
This is a Mantra that is used traditionally as a prayer for Peace.
Sarveshaam Svastir Bhavatu
Sarveshaam Shaantir Bhavatu
Sarveshaam Purnam Bhavatu
Sarveshaam Mangalam Bhavatu
Sarve Bhavantu Sukhinah
Sarve Santu Niramayaah
Sarve Bhardrani Pashyantu
Maa Kadhchit Duhkhabhahg Bhavet
May good befall all,
May there be peace for all,
May all be fit for perfection, and
May all experience that which is auspicious.
May all be happy. May all be healthy.
May all experience what is good.
Let no one suffer.
This is a prayer I use when I am overwhelmed with the things I do in my life. It helps me focus and makes me acknowledge the things I am; I can be and can do.
I am a Daughter, sister, Friend, Wife and Mother.
I am here to serve.
I care about those who come into my life.
I give to others because I can give.
I have a tender heart so I can lend comfort to those in need.
I believe in a higher power.
I am connected to those around me.
I make my best effort to be there for the ones in my life.
When I begin to feel misery when I look around at the JONESES and feel, I got the lousiest end of the stick I remind myself of the things I have with this:
Thanks for the feeding my hunger,
Thanks for quenching my thirst,
Thanks for a roof over my head,
Thanks for giving me a family I love,
Thanks for letting me have the people I need,
Thanks for letting me have the basics so I could think,
Thanks for the extras that I have so that I could give.
Thanks for the restlessness that pushes me to explore my limits.
Thanks for the anger that helps me seek justice.
Thanks for the awareness that I have what I need.
When I begin a journey, either going to some place physically or starting some discipline mentally I use this one.
As I start this journey,
May everything work out for the Needs.
May I remember that I can only do my best.
May I remember that the fruits are not mine to keep.
May I take the lessons from what happens,
Without losing Hope or faith in my abilities.
May I always remember to do what I do, with the awareness that it affects others.
May it always be in accordance with peace, happiness and harmony.
Do you pray? If you do, what are your reasons? Do you have a favorite prayer?
I thank you.
ReplyDeleteSending you lots of positive healing energy. Hugs
ReplyDeleteThank you Michelle...this is where there is a faith that comes into play...
ReplyDeleteYet I am glad I wrote this. Not my usual style but I am human.
I wish to say thank you to each person within here. I do, it's not my way to write on personal matters but I am glad I did so. I truly am as this was not something to get a large amount of replies, I just thought I would write it out and I thank you very much from the bottom of my heart.
ReplyDeleteYou certainly are going through some difficult times there so my prayers are with you and your family. I'm glad you did write this post so I will know & be thinking of you & praying for the best.
ReplyDeleteThanks Cheryl, I see it this way. I am not married, I do have family here as you know and the foundation has been this women and she really has been through hell the past while and this was the last thing needed but there is resolve. I am glad I wrote this as well and what comes about tomorrow, I swear, if I see another young doctor do what was done tomorrow I will chew him out. Yet I don't jump to conclusions. But tonight this women my mother never needed this she is too nice. And I am not a mean sort of guy but I have done this before and come hell or high water I can tell you she will get the right care tomorrow. I said it..and I don't take it back.
ReplyDeleteYet for some reason I am not stressed out....
prayers going out for your Mom and peace for you..... hope everything turns out well and that you can breathe a sigh of relief soon.
ReplyDeleteTomorrow is a day that shall be a turnaround. No one needs this kind of medical treatment as you know here in Saskatchewan we are only a one tier system.
ReplyDeleteIt shall work out. I am good, really if not I would say otherwise.
Whispered prayers are being sent to your mother on ~Angel Wings ~ She will be ok, all is well.
ReplyDeleteThanks Caroline....I bid you a good night very nicely put as I just am ready to close everything up and head to bed.
ReplyDeleteGoodnight and thanks...
Your wish is my command and the prayers will come to you from Oregon right now.
ReplyDeleteWill keep you both in my prayers.
ReplyDeletehttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zF7nonVSw84
ReplyDeleteOh, I hope you get this!
she's in my prayer...
ReplyDeletealso get well soon for your knee as well...God bless u and fam..
I shall look I just arrived on Lucija....
ReplyDeleteAll worked out as her Ophthalmologist from his downtown office treated her as she had some complications within her left eye and all went well as he went back into the eye and examined it and now has her on antibiotics combined with predisone - so thank fully she is fine. So I thank you. She is doing fine. And as mentioned she has to titrate, as she was doing from this hydro morphine, which is morphine, and she will. As now she is down to 2mg a day. I ranted last night but I do thank you, as there is nothing like watching someone that is within allot of pain. So I am glad. I certainly do thank you and I never have jumped to a conclusion, and I have seen many things within health matters. So I do thank you very much to each and everyone.
ReplyDeletequite the ordeal! glad she is doing fine now. hugs, thoughts, and prayers that she continues to!
ReplyDeleteGlad your mom is now doing better. Sorry I had not seen your blog yesterday night. Sending good thoughts and prayers for a prompt and full recovery. Hugs to you Jack.
ReplyDeleteThanks Danielle you know how the system does work maybe there it's different. No worries that was past and I was livid....she is doing fine - Merci madmoiselle. You know I am not sure everyone here really understands this nickname you have for me called "Mem...". :)
ReplyDeleteJack, I have just read your message, and I am so sorry to hear this news about your mom. Of course, I will be sure to lift-up your mom in prayer for a speedy and full recovery. There is nothing so strong as the power of prayer, especially when two or more come together in His Name. May God bless and watch over your mom, and you as well, my friend! God bless!
ReplyDeleteThank you MaryAnne, she is much better now. I thank you...
ReplyDeleteI am not sure about you but I am getting a hoot out of these Winter Olympics tonight!
But sincerely thank you.
I'm glad to hear you've received some good news about your mom since this first post Jack. Your mom will be in mine and many others' prayers tomight.
ReplyDeleteThanks Doug, it's all fine I just have been watching these Olympics tonight.
ReplyDeleteSorry for being late cause I had being online problems. As I always pray for everybody whether I know or not , so she was in my prayers already. I hope by now she is feeling much better.
ReplyDeleteI read this as I just logged on and went to your page and saw that you had some problems, but things are good and she is doing well. I thank you good friend from Turkey.
ReplyDeleteMy Dad is going to have cataract surgery next Monday....I don't know who is more nervous me or him...Hope things are well with your Mom
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