Romance is a staple at the movies, right up there with the picturesque falsehood but at best it’s not all skipping through the roses to a medley of romantic hits. The essence is something that even the best of writers will admit that within the best of love stories sadness and impossibility are within the center stage. You can see the hints of this within romantic comedies. Two people are made for each other meet, they do wonderful things like shopping and running to the malls hand in hand, fireworks are explode within the sky and there are always those moments within the park. Don't get me wrong I do believe in romance but we are lured by way of those romantic movies we do see. Of course there is always an argument and one character realizes at the nearing the end there is that realization of one of two characters that they have made a mistake. Followed by an action in haste where most of the times there is that final run and embrace followed by the final never ending romantic kissing. Yeah its romance at it's best. Oh yeah I forgot the rain. Rain is a large factor for some reason. And as well there seems to always be the running within the airport.
A few of the great vintage romantic movies that I can think of are Casablanca. It's the ideal love story, Humphrey Bogart and Ingrid Bergman have an affair and they are still in love. But they have to give it up for a greater cause. And then there is that old saying at the very end, "Play it again Sam. Moonstruck, the story of a women played by Cher, that gives up a reasonable man when she falls in love within an unreasonable one played by Nicholas Cage. The moon hangs low over everyone’s passions. The Titanic, very big story with very big problems, the poor boy falls in love with a very rich girl on a historical ship that shall sink. Hang on to your seats on this one. The heroic boy played by Leonard DiCaprio wins her heart and one is mesmerized and so captivated to see if they will survive or not. Better still one is left captivated as to if they will survive the sinking of the RMC Titanic. The key is that it's picturesque. Admittedly another imperfect source within love stories moves and so forth. Yet it's good lure possibly. I know I love some of them and I have my own favs…
Just remember to that the one that you take may need a few tissues and a shoulder to lean on. As fiction does have a very strong allure as we approach Valentines Day.
I do wonder though, if I were to look at myself and the "Beloved" I am with would it ever be as picturesque as it is shown in the movies? Would the Light be just right and the hair so beautiful and eyes really shining? oh and not to forget, the rain never bothering us or the Stars and Moon really hang so low? And then I think, if I could see myself, would I really Be Alive?
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ReplyDeleteNo it wouldnt in my opinion as even for the actors it's not that way. Yet don't get me wrong I am a believe in a good type of love. What comes to mind is that this allure is merely just that yet there is a different type of reality allure. So we are just whom we are. We don't have people doing all the proper lighting and saying, "lets do a retake on this part".
ReplyDeleteIt would be fun for a while, if Life did have a Retake or Redo or maybe Undo button.
ReplyDeleteThrough our lives there are many kinds of love, the trick is to realize this
ReplyDeletePerhaps Rashmi, or most probably. As I do believe in the merits of love, and there is that romantic stories that we all do have, and just possibly there can be a retake on it.
ReplyDeleteWe can't go back but we can edit the segments within our lives, it's something that I believe everyone does have desires as such
as I certainly do - but I can't go back in time but I feel that one can have an open mind within life. As life is love.
Friendship Love, Family love, Self Love, and Romantic Love.
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ReplyDeleteTo meet someone and actually find true love is wonderful, myself well, i did meet the man of my dreams once but sadly it was not to be, so, it is possible to find it and lucky when you can keep it. xx
Love can only be said as alluring if its not true love. If its the kind that we are all searching for, then it becomes our life ... our joy. Romantic love is just an allure an attraction, it cannot be classified as true love for it fades away after a certain time. True love stays ... it is there and it doesn't ask why, always willing and ready to accept anything ... unconditionally.
ReplyDeleteThe same here Rosie, I literally have a untold story a very romantic one but that was then and this is now. She is in NYC and I am here and this write was more about the allure of the movies. True love does exist thereafter one does keep it going and I am old school in the manner of which relationships can become. However, the Titanic, Moonstruck, and the likes - are ones that are of a fictional manner. Hmmm, maybe it's something more. As we see things in our own manner and the meaning of life is love. But is it like a produced film - I would think it's probably like that at first and thereafter two people do merge and become companions and keep the relationship going by way of keeping exciting. Of all you should know of this as you write on passion and love and have had two books that have been published there in England.
ReplyDeleteSo well said Maritess....so very well said if I may say so.
ReplyDeleteThe thing about romantic movies I've noted is that the ones that end unhappily are the most memorable ("Casablanca", "Bridges of Madison County" et al ) , but the ones where things all work out in the end (like "Sleepless in Seattle") make us come back for more. Asd long as people don't confuse these conventions with real life, as we too often do when young at least that's true for me, they are fun.
ReplyDeleteWell, as the saying goes, "It's better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all!" No love/relationship is perfect, yet, without love, we are incomplete.
ReplyDeleteI see it that way but at the same time there are some that are married and see it differently Doug to those that are single or divorced. But they are very fun. If they weren't we would not watch them. Grabbing a morning coffee.
ReplyDeleteVery true Maryanne, hey do you mind calling my ex wife there? Kidding...:)
ReplyDeleteI know this is a great song Michelle and well .... :). I just found this to be a write with regards to romance and how we can be influenced by what we see. Music is much different to movies....In my own opinion.
ReplyDeleteTomorrow is Valentines Day!
I can't help but think that the man or woman of one's dreams is not actually that if the relationship doesn't work out. Love is more than a dream. It's also the every day , down - to - earth nitty gritty of working together once one has found someone to love. I look back now at the one who I thought once was " the one , " and time has given me a whole different perspective. I am glad not to have married him! Romance is more than we see in the movies, as you astutely point out. Real romance is created with the one you love, and being soul mates is a process of building a life together. I have little patience with movies such as " The Bridges of Madison County " because that so - called love is based on infidelity. Give me plain old bread and butter faithfulness any day of the week instead of fake romance.
ReplyDeleteThat Sue is a definate reality on this subject. It is more than a dream and it's something done with sensibility really as you have already said.
ReplyDeleteThank you much - I am not much into the fake as you know.
.."Casablanca" is one of my Favourite movies...an interesting Blog .jack ..*I have been away..a few days .i hope that you are on the Mend?
ReplyDeleteMending well as I am in my second week of Physio and it's all going well. Casablanca was a great movie. It was just a write on the allure we get from the movies.
ReplyDeleteYet love is something that everyone can feel and is real.