One does never like to create a commotion or any ill will. What I said was what I said and over the last two days there has been much happening with my father. Couple that with my mother as well. On Sunday it had reached it's point where I was going to write on it. I am rather personal with much of what I do write as I used to post many things pertaining with my folks. When you see illness it can be most upsetting. Mind you you go about a routine and for myself I have been pushing it in all directions.
I will come on here and read and then write but I don't place all that many pictures as I had before as I have been running in many other directions. As there have been several good things that have been taking place. Yet regardless of that there is nothing that is harder than emotional stress - that is stress within a family.
So now I mentioned it as yesterday I was so played out. But all that I know is that there always is a resolve of sorts. By no means what this what throttled the previous post. Yet family matters can be those that are most difficult - yet for myself I move on and everyone is different within how they handle things yet for me family matters are always something that always gets the best of me, as it did yesterday.
So I was going to mention this on Sunday yet I was much too tired and was on for a brief period.
Taking care of others is tiring.
ReplyDeleteToday is fine and going well yet I know I have been pushing it and now that's over with and
ReplyDeleteI found from my own experience I do as best as I can to just lets some of these things go.
Yet yesterday was very trying.
*hugs*
ReplyDeleteYes all those things can be emotionally draining. Have a good night and rest well.
ReplyDeletehugs back and that was yesterday and thank goodness that day is over. As I was really tuckered out.
ReplyDeleteYeah you know what I mean Cheryl. Yesterday it's hard and what I have learned as older as they get
ReplyDeletethey are rather stubborn. But I have learned to adjust with it.
hey Jack, not sure what I missed, but my thoughts go out to you and your family. take care as best you can, remember that there is much beyond our control.... hugs
ReplyDeleteNot much this was just something I was going to write on yesterday. They have many that have offered to take them places and so forth but they will call me to tend to them and that can be trying especially when a few will pull you on the side and say, "You know we have offered your folks any help they need". Which what they are saying is they would love to go and get them and take them out. But they are rather proud. My father is a living stage 4, and my mother went through troubles. So it's hard to say, "I am busy when they call". But I do exercise it now and then. Yet there are times that you know where things are at and why they want one of there own to assist them.
ReplyDeleteSuch is life. And I have my own areas of life as well. So it's a sensitive area - family that is.
Make sure you have some emotional support from somewhere.
ReplyDeleteHey, I do Summers, I do and have maintained that since back three months ago. So I just render that allowance and I stay true to my own goals.
ReplyDeleteIt's partially within a faith base and the other is with a some friends I have hear, I mean outside of here lol.
I couldnt resist :)
ReplyDeleteI do know how family, especially aging parents, can be stressful. Been there with my mother as her caregiver and decision maker for 9 years.
ReplyDeleteSick parents are so emotionally stressful, My mother has a dnr in place, and she is ailing. My father passed thirty one years ago and was in hospice the last four months of his life, daily visits and prayers, took a lot out of me, its hard when all you can do is love them and watch them leave this earth.
ReplyDeleteIt is Nancy. I took one day to just relax and when arriving home I called a few friends. One is a socialogist that works within Oncology. Then another two work within other medical areas. It is taxing seemingly the weather brought it on. As one very good friend of mine that resides in another state/provience here he indicated it just the way he knows. As he knew my folks and as well my sister and he said I am dealing with two with there own problems with aging and then one that has a deasease which is atypical. I dealt with it for ten years and moved on. Regardless I went about my day and took one day off. A good day never the less.
ReplyDeletePam, they used to hang on to me and there was this mentality, "If you don't then". Well, I got over that a while back as that was then and this is now. I am making some considerations with all of this right now as I am not defaulting as one can be entrenched within this or one can make a few lists of what they wish to do and as harsh as that seems. It's not selfish. I within the creation of one. I have a cousin that has spent most nearly all his life handling his folks.
ReplyDeleteI never thought it was fair to his own being. His father ended up within the same place but when that time came he had no understanding of what is own life meant as he spent all his time tending to being a caregiver. So....I am not sure of what remedy there is with family. My brother stays far from it, as he knows the natural process of family. My half brother is really out of the loop. So I just render it, as it's been an education within itself. Not now, but well you can see how things take a turn. Not many would be familiar with stage 4 non Hodgkin's, 38 percent renal function, coupled with vascular dementia. The dementia is something that is terrible as it takes away the memory.
I knew he should have tended to this, he thought it was something psychological and in all that he did over his life, coupled with all that I did within the past. He is there but probably due to situations it's beyond anyone control. So I just render what I am doing now since I have arrived back. Not to mention that I did have a near mini stroke. But with the exception of some of these cold days, I have merged with some friends and have slowly taken care of my own health.
It's a very hard call to make within family. I honestly say. Even writing about it can be one that does drain you. As you remember them in the manner that they were.
But you keep your chin up. You merge with others and that is life. "Ebony and Ivory", I placed on here last night as I thought there was some merit within the song. I still do think there is.
ReplyDeleteThe above song was a reflex. When you listen to the lyrical content sure this song was an ideal. Yet why did it sell millions?
family is the one who gets most under our skin.. scary how it gets us.. but yes.. everyone got its own way to go around things.. all we do is breath, step back and love life as it is..
ReplyDeleteYep as that was Sunday and seemingly all is fine with them. Thanks all the same Tori.
ReplyDelete(I'm working my way backwards on your blogs) Glad things are better today. You do have to take care of yourself so that you can in the end do any care for others.
ReplyDeleteHey the day is now eve and yeah the day is and has been a good one. I will often look backwards to go forwards :).
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