Choices are one of the great blessings of life. Sure, choices can be difficult. But life would be dreadfully boring without them! We humans get to choose what we do. We choose how we treat others. We choose how we treat ourselves, too.
It wasn't until I was past 35 that I learned although we can't control what others do or say, we can control how we react to them. We are not animals who run on instinct alone, but people who get to make choices. We can only choose our reactions when we first prepare
our minds.
We need to acknowledge that our ability to think and choose is what separates us from animals.
Some people make choices based on their desire for control. Often, helping can be a form of control. The underlying and often unconscious motive is, "If I help this person, then they will not abandon me or they will be loyal to me or they will do what I want or they will owe me and I can cash in on that later."
Still others make choices because they are jealous of another's success. These are the people who choose to elevate themselves by cutting down others. The result is that everyone is diminished. These kinds of people make their choices out of a mentality of scarcity.
In their minds there is a finite amount of love, attention and success available and they find it necessary to grab their piece of the pie. However, if we operate out of a mentality of abundance, then there is plenty of love and attention and success for everyone.
From that example, we can ALL have these things, because they never run out.
The fascinating thing is this-when one makes choices out of a mentality of abundance an abundance of good things are the result. We attract to ourselves the very same good that we send out. It hardly needs saying, but I will say it nonetheless, that when one operates out of a scarcity mentality, everyone is impoverished.
I still find it amazing that some not all adults engage is choices based in scarcity.
I look at the betterment of society and life...
I agree, when you send out kindness and acceptance, it comes back to you. Being in a negative frame of mind brings everyone down who is around you. I am rarely down or negative, takes so much less energy to be pleasant and kind.
ReplyDeleteOh I fell back some time ago for a while but I picked myself back up. But within this writing I do things it does have something to say. As we all are human and all is within balance. And no matter where we all are from, we all live on this place called earth.
ReplyDeleteG’day Jack,
ReplyDeleteYes we are all human & have choices, but I have found over the years, that personalities can be set by events that have affected development as such that people are not aware of they way they come across. One of the kindest most loving warm person I had known was my mother in law, but in saying this her outlook on life was one of the most negative I had come across. She was aware of how I felt and would tell other members of the family that Wendy refused to listen to her when she said negative things, so there it was, she was aware of how she came across & never entered her head to change, she was happy within her attitude, thought I was the odd one but never spoke negative around me, not because she preferred it that way but because she knew I wouldn’t join her on that path. That to me made her a very special lady. Some times one has to get past the attitude & see the person, they can be very contradictory.
This is true but for the most part from what I have seen in writes and with people, I really do see some authenticity.
ReplyDeleteWhen I started this I would search for people with some manner that had similar yet differing thoughts. I think in life it's much easier in doing this Wendy, but for the most part I look for the betterment as within a blog and the writes. You just kinda know. This was a write that I did back sometime ago and I thought that it had some meaning. We are not perfect but we certainly can aspire for the betterment and yet obviously know how to deal with things and understand that we are not perfect, but we are what we are. Contradiction will show itself...but one does not look for it.
Nice blog with a lot of food for thought. I found the video very interesting.
ReplyDeleteWe humans...we are far from perfect but some of us try harder than others.
We sure do Lis....
ReplyDeleteA very good blog Jack & I enjoyed the Video very much. Very wise & gentle people aren't they? The rest of the human race would do well to try a bit harder to be kinder to each other. It is so much easier to smile than to frown.
ReplyDeleteYes by way of looking I found this one and he is actually very interesting, I was amazed with it and it is easier to smile, but I don't think he is going or would wear those close in the winter! Not what is coming. :)
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