Love to you? I have been married and I have been engaged in my early twenties. And we all do enjoy our companions. Those that are whom we are with and then there are those that have experienced a loss (divorce) and what is your own thoughts on love. I am not on here to pick up anyone. I just am about to prepare some supper and how I recall two doing it together. Do note that I am on here as I believe in respect with friends.
that is a broad question lol
ReplyDeletewhen two people compromise for each other, that is love~dp
Love is a great thing. Its something that changes your life. A relationship with someone whom you have common and different interests can enrich your life. For those who have loved and lost know both sides of the situation. A partner should not define who you are as a individual. Jack you are a good guy with or without a special someone in your life.
ReplyDeleteWhen you finally missed the person and the seconds became hours ... years. When you feel you can sacrifice just about everything ... that's genuine love.
ReplyDeleteI loved once got married. But sadly, almost all the years that i've with him turned into tears. I literally ... always inside the emergancy room for my blood pressure is always gearing up high, it even reaches 250 over 150. The good thing is I am healthy. And my body system took it with ease. I am well now. Sometimes it did occur to me too, to find that someone ... yet, there's this feeling of uncertainty of what ifs again. Am not ready to take another chance :)))
Very Danette and we all have a variation of what we are and what we yeah I do believe it is. And through the good and the bad, and with the luggage and all it's all within love and respect.
ReplyDeleteYes it is I have been there. Not desperate for one but in a review with all of the past year. Love is unity as I see it.
ReplyDeleteI think many are much like this but in life you can only go forward and well to each their own. Everyone feels uncertain I do at times but that is where at a certain time in life that companionship comes into play. Not co dependancy....mutuality.
ReplyDeletewow, this is going to take some time to put into words, but I shall try.
ReplyDeleteI was once married too, married young at age 18 and was married for 19 years! I had three children and wouldn't have changed a thing because if I had, well they wouldn't be here.
Love to me is kind and gentle and what it comes down to is unconditional. Finding that "perfect" person that fits us is the very hardest thing of all. There are so many aspects of love and different kinds of love, so it all boils down to what it is that each of us needs. Everyone wants and needs to be loved. There is the love of family from parents to siblings, etc. There is another love of your children and their love for you. There is the love of your friends and them to you as well. As for the ultimate love from a partner there is so much involved to me anyways. There has to be a certain chemistry of it. Each one has to desire the other one as much, they have to be attracted to one another for without it....you would just be friends. Can you overlook this person's faults? Can you forgive them their faults and still love them? Do they give you what you need? I am a very touchy feely kind of person and need for my man to want to touch me and not just those certain places....I mean all over. To me that kind of touch makes me feel beautiful and desirable and not necessarily does it have to lead to sexual intercourse...though of course that is wanted as well. Communication and respect has to be there as well. One can't be too serious all the time either, one has to have a good sense of humor and be able to laugh off some of life's tough absurdities. Love is also being able to be with one another and be comfortable with the silence as well. There is a time for interaction as well as a time for being alone with your thoughts, or perhaps one of your interests outside of the relationship. Love is an open hand cupped holding the sand and it stays.......
I literally did not think this was going to happen but you have said much and for what you have wrote it certainly is of essence of what I think many do feel on this area. Wow...
ReplyDeleteWhen I was young I thought security was love, I was wrong. Maybe love is a giving up of a part of yourself to another no matter who it is. There are many kinds of love.I think the word is used way too much without true feeling. Without some kind of love our souls would wither.
ReplyDelete"Without some kind of love our souls would wither." very nice statement...
ReplyDeleteSuzy nailed it Jack....one other thing though..know yourself and love yourself so as to be able to love the other for the unique and loving soul that they are too!
ReplyDeleteAlways come from Love...I like John Lennon's description and hope you don't mind me leaving his lyrics and a link to the song..
Love is real, real is love,
Love is feeling, feeling love,
Love is wanting to be loved.
Love is touch, touch is love,
Love is reaching, reaching love,
Love is asking to be loved.
Love is you,
You and me,
Love is knowing,
We can be.
Love is free, free is love,
Love is living, living love,
Love is needing to be loved.
Mim's he really had a great grasp on things, many think McCartney did but I think John as well as George of the Beatles as we remember them and him wrote lyrics that to this day we can still understand.
ReplyDeleteI think you'll find as many answers to that question as there are persons responding. Some elements are always present: trust, kindness, attraction--both physical and intellectual, common ground and stimulating differences in personality and routine, similar goals and beliefs that can mesh and respect the differences... equality and independence that can be readily compromised if it benefits your partner, confidence in one another and easy intimacy must be part of how one feels with that loved one...
ReplyDeleteIt is a thing of great substance and influence but impossible to be exact about---because the definition lies within the heart of the one in love.
The good thing--there IS always a Beatles song you can listen to about the process! :-)
So true - I do mean that Susan...I think we find the answers after we have come to understanding that enough is enough - and we move on as I have never been on and off here as much as today.
ReplyDeleteAnd regardless of time zones, I am going to write something. But this was interesting to say the least. It's interesting how mostly women can express themselves so well.
And some gentleman as well. But this became a forum out of just a quick post. It must be the Tylenol - no kidding aside all our aspirations seem to come when we feel that we have had a situation happen and it's time to make the change.
Gosh I myself could write more but this was interesting to say the least.
John was my favourite and I think I will need to se the new movie out soon about him, but my thoughts about George will always be that he was such a good human being..I loved him too!
ReplyDeleteWell, other than the weather, we humans probably spend more time talking about and seeking to understand love than any other element of the human experience. Why should your blog escape that? *grin*
ReplyDeleteNever did...
ReplyDeleteIronically a great post from a friend that I promised to read his write and this I am sure he will not mind that I posted what he had to write his name is Frank...
ReplyDeletehttp://frankyx.multiply.com/journal/item/162/Being_Single?replies_read=103
So many kinds of love wow! Could be a very long series of answers. I think about my great niece Meghan when we were up in Michigan this summer and we had my Grandma up there and she is well into her 90's 96 now...Meghan is something like 5 . She stayed right by Grandma's side and kept looking at her and smiling. She had the most adoring look on her face. Long story about all that transpired but needless to say love can see past the outward and sense the kind and gentle spirit. Meghan sure did, she knew she was loved by Grandma too.
ReplyDeleteLove is also something that we choose. There is no magic. It grows like a seed that is planted in the Spring and nurtured. It weathers the storms with the right attitude and determination. My oldest son went through divorce and that was a painful thing...but even now there is a (love) in another way for his x wife ..she's the boys mother too and he cares what happens and they have both matured enough to get along. My son has custody of the boys and they work out times for the boys to be with her. Life has some hard times but love continues if we choose so. My son is remarried now as is his ex wife.
Love is patient and love is kind, it's not boastful or rude. It's not self seeking and it doesn't keep a record of wrongs..We all fail in all of those things ..so love is something we grow into ....There is trust and hope ..but when people fail love is also forgiving
"Love is also something that we choose. There is no magic. It grows like a seed that is planted in the Spring and nurtured. It weathers the storms with the right attitude and determination. My oldest son went through divorce and that was a painful thing...but even now there is a (love) in another way for his x wife ..she's the boys mother too and he cares what happens and they have both matured enough to get along. My son has custody of the boys and they work out times for the boys to be with her. Life has some hard times but love continues if we choose so. My son is remarried now as is his ex wife.
ReplyDeleteLove is patient and love is kind, it's not boastful or rude. It's not self seeking and it doesn't keep a record of wrongs..We all fail in all of those things ..so love is something we grow into ....There is trust and hope ..but when people fail love is also forgiving"
Thanks Cheryl....it is like a seed when planted as the way I view it.
this is a great blog and I am enjoying everyone's thoughts here as they are all right. love is a many splendid thing....
ReplyDeleteI loved the music video of John and Yoko Ono...you can really see their love for one another in their expressions :)
Now and then it happens I usually will actually be pro active with it but this here literally was the first template I had when I started on Multiply I kid you not.
ReplyDeletehehe.....I can almost hear your voice with the way you express yourself here, too cool. :)
ReplyDeleteLove? Somethn invented by Hollywood. ..
ReplyDeleteFank I posted your write in here...I hope that is ok if not I will delete it. It was a superb write!
ReplyDeleteNot a problem at all. Everybody's welcome over too:
ReplyDeletehttp://frankyx.multiply.com
Great as your a great writer Frank...
ReplyDelete*Blushes*
ReplyDeleteI agree 100% with this statement my friend.
ReplyDeleteSometimes when hard time have happened we just want to give up and stay away but when we have separated...we will know how strong our love is. Kind of weird for some people that some of us remarry with our ex-spouse again...but it is a choice and I do understand it.
Love is a thing to enjoy. In general aspect, without love our life will feel so empty.
Regards,
Life
Suzycute said a lot of what I was thinking.
ReplyDeleteThere is also a kind of love that we can choose to give to every human being, regardless of all else. How to define it, I don't know, but it is a powerful energy that can change the world if we let it. It is not an emotion. It is more a state of being.
Oui!
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