Last night there were several were a few blog on those that tell the truth. I see that there is a really great dialogue within many blogs and it's almost like a family of sorts now for me I am not over thinking it but here I am sitting with a coffee in hand at 6:30 and I have had some that I have taken off my blog there is one person that knows and can see all that has gone on and one does shape there own situation. But what do you all see me within me. Do you see me as a contrived person.....Basically there are some blogs of other friends that I know that do have a tremendous dialogue going on. And this is not work but as mentioned this is something that I do enjoy especially during this time within my life what does it take to have real good friends?
I guess I am asking what does it take to have that true communication back and forth. I know there are great people out there, then there are some that piggy back off your blog just to build their own. And we all do go through phases within blogging. My question is really how does one build on good relations as I have had my fill of passive aggressive. There was a write yesterday that I was reading with regards to this truth. And last night it did hit home to me as I have never encountered what I have over these last six months on here. Some of it is gossip, some of it is lip service, then there are those that are truly authentic and I enjoy that so much.
This was the read that truly made me think with all of this:
Has anyone else run into this problem? If so how did you resolve it?
I think I am not a confrontational type. I just leave. I have so many guests coming to and fro to my few blogs that were posted but I am too timid to asks for friendship ... some I visits, some are really good but the gossiping I could notice ... and that makes me turn away. But love to do some loose talks once in awhile ... but not the type that will put someone down. I want some honest good talks ...
ReplyDeleteI am on here for a little and it's not life but during this period I have many things that I am contending too and how does one enjoy this while at the same time gossip has lead one down. I truly have always believe that every person has there own thoughts without having to team it. I love it but for some reason it's a dialogue that is few and far between. Tess with many on here and there were some that were very good friends and then due to a few that lead groups it went astray.
ReplyDeleteI don't care who reads my stuff really. I write what's on my mind and according to my mood and mostly just for me, to air thoughts or just to be writing.
ReplyDeleteI read everyone else, no matter their views. Just because it's interesting and I learn things.
~~hugs to you Jack. Have a good day.
Thanks much - there is a wise person...
ReplyDeleteYeah, I understand that. And that exactly the reason why at times I shy away from it. but its ok ... I get a good laugh at times, so its not all bad things. I learned to ride and be happy at the same time thinking I didn't even know the person, coz I only have few but all of them I considered my treasures ...
ReplyDelete... wait, and that includes you Jack.
ReplyDeleteAs we do have dialogue we gained from it as we are very good friends and I consider others as well. But this was is my contemplation Tess...
ReplyDeleteOh it does include me and what I write and how I do things - most certainly... I have no problem when there is a need to post it and as there is always a remedy to every situation when there is dialogue on a blog or blogs.
ReplyDeletebe yourself you know the old saying to thine self be true-and you can't please all the people all the time-and soon you will find where you are comfortable-
ReplyDeleteHeidi, you know all to well what I mean and you have seen it with your own eyes. I am not stressed or angry, I just thought it was time to mention it and see what comes about as I am comfortable within it all...
ReplyDeleteAdult life has taught me, the more I know about people, the more I love my dog, er cats.
ReplyDeletePeople are like the weather, you just never know! Therefore, be yourself, follow your own rules.
I do...and people can take it or leave it.
So true..
ReplyDeleteI completely like the way you write, straight to the point without going overboard. Jack ... have to say goodnight. My server is coming to slow ...
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ReplyDeleteWell,
as you will know all i do on my page are write poems, whoever makes comments then i will visit their page and thank them, i am a people person, i am a good listner and love reading all about their way of life and always try and be friends to most people .Multiply is a way of meeting people from all walks of life and i am quite happy with my friends , i enjoy posting poetry and am always inspired by comments and this is what helps me write more , have a good day my friend hugs Rosiex
I don't mind that as I have been honest as well as polite with everyone that is on my blog - so I don't mind writing this at all...
ReplyDeleteI do the same as you know.
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ReplyDeleteGood day now, off to work.
I... like some others have mentioned here already, write my blogs to vent, or point out something funny/silly and other times something noteworthy/news type. Most of what I write is about my life though and I try to be connected with my friends here online and show consideration for them like I would want them to do for me. I like to read my friends blogs and when I get through with them I see other people who are not my contacts in my inbox and go have a gander if what they've posted piques my interest. that is usually how I make my friends here....it was by reading several of their blogs that they ha posted and I liked the way they sounded to me.
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ReplyDeleteIf you write about a subject and I feel I have an input I will make it offend or please.
If you ask me what sort of person I think you to be that is a different matter.
From the little I know about you I have the impression you write from your heart. Agree or disagree it is the same.
You are you.
Carry on being you.
will be back later to commet
ReplyDeletei think we are building social networks here the same ways we do where we live.
ReplyDeleteAnswering your question - It takes time, honesty and acceptance to get to know the person who then you may choose to give that title of Friend.
ReplyDeletePeople on the Internet are like the people in our face to face life. Theres good, bad and ugly. It takes too long for me to make friends, cause for me its like making good wine, it takes time. I believe we attract the kind of people we are, most times, so I stick with what I am, what another is, is really none of my business. Most of what I write is Poetry, book review or short story. I enjoy the creativity that people show in their words pictures and thoughts. I like that common thread that I see within us no matter where we are from or what we do, eat or speak, we all have our passions and ambivalence, our glory and frailities.
Here just like in offline life, I trust my instinct. I read what they write or comment to give me a clue, vibe etc.. Its stood me well until now...
that is what I do
ReplyDeleteTo have true communication, one must be honest and not afraid to hear disagreement. Things may come out wrong in this format. People have had different experiences and once they are explained thoroughly, one's ideas can change. That is not always easy, but very valuable.
ReplyDeleteKeep the faith.
ReplyDeleteI think it's fair to say that we all write on our blogs without the need to push. So when there is one that has the need to place email addresses and continually push there thoughts - it's over and about what we write within our own blogs.
ReplyDeleteI just arrived home and blogging as I see it is where we all connect by choice and write back and forth to others in a respectful manner.
But true communication is by way of life itself yet at the same time all have different strokes. Unfortunately I have a few old members of a group I have no involvement in as I don't have the time but here I just arrived home and have had 12 pms.
Frank I think you know what I mean. You write and you leave it up to the readers to read and that is really how we all do it - maybe I am wrong - but I think I am right within this case.
ReplyDeleteI literally just arrived home and I do give the benefit of the doubt but it's a click delete...silly it is if you ask me.
Bill I respect you much and thanks it's basically what it comes down to is one owner of a group has 10 good friends - she is well into her 50's and I do not wish nor intend to be in her group as I have to much going on. So there will be gossip and so on but this to me is not what blogging is about - you get in and there is a push of PM's. I rather write and connect with those that I do enjoy writing with and reading, and I have never outsourced my thoughts by way of an email address.
ReplyDeleteIt's just not my manner.
And I will carry on writing...I bid you a good day there Bill.
Same here right now there is only the very early morning and then the evening that I can do this and I literally as you Rashmi write and never push it.
ReplyDeleteWe all flow and make our choices.
Heidi you know exactly in observance of what all is taking place without even having to talk to you. There are those that will set up another to just try to rock ones boat. I live on the midland right now.
ReplyDeleteAll is fine as this is merely something temporary....
Much different DJ.....much different.
ReplyDeleteWe all write but we don't set up another to push things by way of email addresses do we?
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ReplyDeleteJack, you blog on this topic quite a bit, but I say just don't worry about it. Who cares why others are here? Who cares if others play games? Who cares if there is gossip? I think time tells us who we can trust. Shrug off the rest.
ReplyDeleteSusan I am not worried with it - I write and it's all within the shares. I just write and I don't place that much weight into it. However I will do a write on this as it happens now and then and it's just very people that are self indulged - not all but a few. I literally just arrived home and I don't nor would anyone need nor want this.
ReplyDeleteI clicked your link to life2's blog, and it was well written, indeed. But we all have to remember - when we enter cyberspace, we enter a place of anonymity ; we come willingly, and we do it at our own risk. Experience becomes our greatest teacher, and time will always tell. [ Where would I be without cliches?? ; ) ]
ReplyDeleteWell Sue you do remember the time of the group back two years ago and how many there were. Ironically I understand it all goes with the territory but I set this blog up in a manner that was with people that I found interesting to write along with.
ReplyDeleteYup, I surely do remember!
ReplyDeleteYet back then Sue, the list of friends ironically some of which I had met and talked with every weekend I lost as you know I moved back from Edmonton and well you move forward not backwards. Such is life.
ReplyDeleteThere are time I wish I still had that group and the moderators and all the people that were from so many places but that's the way life goes.
I had several "rabbit trails" of thought on this but after starting and erasing each of them, I've decided to just let you know that I enjoy your comments and blogs and that is pretty much what it is all about. Reading, learning, understanding, building net friendships....
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Linda it's all good and as well fun...
ReplyDeleteI have not had this problem but then my friends and I know when to agree to disagree and we are always honest with each other but more importantly we always have fun and share! Hugs!
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