Well the way I see it is that after all this is done, there are some big changes I am making for me as I wished. Everyone has a companion, I used to and that is past and at times like this gosh I have placed some in my life to the side. Not being arrogant at all.
Its about time you find your home ... its easy for you guys to find it, look for it. Unlike us, women ... we can't court. All we have to do is wait for the right guy ...
God, I need a husband! lol a GOOD one too. sigh................but, at this point in my life I don't know that I can put up with anyone right now OR that they could put up with me.
Jack it seems that your wish might have already been granted... there are at least two ladies in your blog here that are likewise looking for a husband.... :)
I think we are all at that age that we think about the risks however for myself this has been literally a time of thinking of what is important to me and what is within the future as it's all within our own creating...LOL anyone that thinks that life is great just being for the rest of there life alone - well it's not my cup of tea. I guess I just said it they way I think and feel.
Are we not on this to share as friends? Don't get me wrong but within blogging are we not all sharing our thoughts in a genderless manner with respect? :)
of course we are, and I hope you didn't think I was being disrespectful, because I was not. you will have a much easier time finding yourself a woman to become your wife than any of us older women who have families already. you may even find yourself a younger woman with which you may have some children as well. I certainly don't want to have to live my life alone for the rest of my life, but I have come to the acceptance that I most likely will be. us women get older and we aren't as attractive to men anymore, and those of us who are usually get some young boys who want us to be their sugar mama. ugh......no thanks.
Not only sharing but gently baring our souls ... yes ... with respect. And that is life. Everyone has its share of burden. Its better to share it, and ease the burden than pretend to have a perfect life and when its not.
... its Sunday. I have to give my respect ... gotta' out of here, and attend Mass. Hugs. maritess*
not at all I have repected people on here over the last three years often the words are misunderstood but there are a variety of people and within it all I think most of all is respect. Old school here I guess.
I opend a can of worms, all my friends are married with the exception of one, one may be getting divorced (they are not online) and well I know there are some that are on my blog that are married and it's tremendous in what they do have...
Life is happier with a well-suited companion. Period. It's as simple as that. Humans aren't meant to live alone forever...we can do so, but it's not in our best interest.
Circumstances alter our cases and we do what we must to make the best of things. If you are in a position to make the best of yours and that includes coupling---good luck to you, Jack!
The process might make for interesting blogging. :-)
As mentioned before here Sue, this situation after this accident has been a good reflection and it really is what it is. As this is a means of expression and after this entire incident and all I do find that there are something now after I have healed btw the week of Tylenols are doing fine, and thereafter this is the time of change for me. I find this to be a write of thoughts that are great. Literally I am healing and while doing so I after today I will get out but this has been a day of good contemplation.
I used to believe in that Tess. Not any more... if you want something in life you have to seek it, cultivate the possibility of it and then make educated choices. That is true of everything---even seeking a companion in life. We don't wait for education, prosperity or good health to just "find us if it's supposed to..." We seek it. At least that's the lesson I've learned in 54 years of living. *smile*
One places things off and after NY I did.....but from what I have seen from many cities was that there are some that it works for and others that it doesn't and then there I became avoidant of the entire situation entirely yet I am not online to find her. But it literally is something to make that makes the world go around.
Best wishes Jack ;-)... Say up a prayer, and make sure you tell Great Spirit everything you want in your Lady, this is so you don't regret what is sent your way ;-D. Make your list and say it right... make sure you say, 'if it be Your will' ..;-). I will get off my soap box now with a smile :-), a ((hug)), and Namaste' my friend ..
Smiling at you first is fixing things up medically and the same to you. I literally am not in no rush but at the same time through all of this a companion not co dependancy would have been nice. But it's a benchmark. It's all within spirit and one's own desire and will and a hug back to good friend.
wow..wow..wow..I am late. Did I hear some people call my name Life and Enjoy Life? He..he..he. Sorry,I just join this site again after been struggling with my research. Btw Jack, why did we choose to change our front page displayed at the same time? I like your new front page...makes me recalling the ocean and beaches...hm.hm.hm..m.m.m. I change to butterfly images now..please visit. Oh yes...you need a wife? I understand you..I do. Sometimes in our life path, we just want someone whom is dear to us,whom is know us better than others and yet he/she will be near to care to spend the rest of life together and make it colorful and happier. Marry at 40 or 50? Why not. It is a better idea than spending your time alone when you are growing older. I guess nobody wants to die alone without his/her lover besides him/her. I really appreciate this comments Jack, thank you for sharing. Regards, Ms.Life
Are you kidding? Honey don't you believe that for a moment! It's attitude lady! Those poor guys out there have their own issues and fears. They're lonely, nice, normal people for the most part. They have the most risk of rejection, not you and they would love to meet a nice normal woman.
This is exactly right. Someone to share life, someone who could love you unconditionally just as you are. I don't believe it when someone says they don't need this do you?
I like these thoughts....not the debates. I know there are a lot of people like me outside, looking for the lover they could trust and share with ;-) Fox, you mean they say that they do not need love? Well, sometimes their life is already so empty and busy just to realize and enjoy what have been blessed by God....or they found something they love...not somebody..but something.
Yes. I've heard this from people of both genders. I believe it's a wall we all sometimes use to hide behind.
A few lines from somewhere comes to mind..... Oh the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person.....having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them out freely, knowing that a faithful hand will keep what is worth keeping and blow the rest away.
Again, I guess we better wisely hear and analyze why do they say so and what they intend by saying so. Sometimes their life is so miser that they prefer not to think and feel love anymore since they are afraid their life will be worse soon. I myself prefer asking a happy lover about love than a just broken heart lover...LOL
I literally have never seen such a debate of something of recent and from this area I am off to bed and after all I was reading I do need a wife now :)
Jack, are you trying to propose her by posting this blog? That would be very romantic :-) Who is the lucky lady, I wonder ;-) Contemplation....hm..mm..you are right, the accident ( or dying moment) could open our eyes to the deeper meaning of life....and after that moment we will forget it soon...like all of our new year promises...LOL. Wish you the best Jack, Life
No not at all I yesterday I just was writing......but yesterday was the first day I had been treated for the time being and I still think that within life we all are looking for someone. I found that I put so many things off. I certainly have jotted down some things that I will do after this is all over with medically.
And I wish you the best as well....but I am basically here writing my own thoughts as I desire. As we all do.
I dropped down here without finishing reading the comments. Don't rule anything out, people! I am 54 years old and met my fiance on the internet. It was a chance meeting in books and lit. Now, I don't recommend the chat room, but it worked for us. Don't. Rule. Anything. Out ! Chance meetings happen anywhere and everywhere. Even in the comments section of a blog! I was in E- Harmony for a while, and I saw a lot of interesting folks there. It's just that I met someone I was interested in just before I joined. If I had known how things were going to work out, I would not have joined, but oh well. At least I can tell everyone else it's worth checking out.
are you seriously surprised that so many women would respond to a statement like "God I need a wife"... really? we spend most of our adult lives listening to men tell us that they don't want to get married. and (personally speaking) i think that number increases with age (and the number of times they've been to divorce court).
to hear a man say they need a wife.. or better yet, want to share their life with a partner in a monogamous committed relationship (showing my own viewpoints here).. is enough to make us single women swoon.
The one thing I do know is that many men will take advantage of women online - I have never done that and yes I am surprise to be honest as I wrote this yesterday.
i think the discussion would continue.. as to what makes you think you "need" versus "want" a wife? personally.. i'd want someone that wanted me, more than needed me.
and yes, people of both genders play games. sometimes they do it intentionally and sometimes unintentionally. it's always a risk but i think life is made of risks. we value something more when we've had to work to attain it.
*puts soapbox away and goes off to make cornbread to go with chicken tortilla soup in the crockpot*
I guess I prefer need than want though.Since want might mean only for short time and secondary. Needed is primary and long lasting...Am I right? Personal opinion.....
what we want and what we need are definitely two different things...but, it is most wonderful when what we want and what we need are with that one single person who fills the bill! :)
I have read Men are from mars and women are from venus....all the series by Gray. The funniest thing ever is I got the wrong book also: "men are from penis and women are from bras"......I am serious.I got it in a book store made me LOL I guess it is the right title also. Don't you think?
One of my best friends and I decided SHE needed "a wife" several years ago. A busy professional who worked 12 hours most days--her house was suffering from lack of the care and management she'd always afforded it before having to go back to work full-time following a messy divorce. She could never get to the projects so many of us have waiting at our homes--because she just didn't have the time (or the money on her single income to pay to have it taken care of...) The mess and delay of completing those never-ending projects was a source of constant irritation and finally depression for her---she finally said exactly what you did--- "God, I need a wife!" (Jokingly of course...)
She stayed single for 9 years and finally got married again 2 years ago. Her husband is a wonderful fellow--a few years older who is semi-retired. He makes a great 'wife.' (Of course they love each other like crazy too--that helps.) BUT he's the sort of a 'wife' most of us would like to have. Keeps their home spotless, cooks and takes care of all the things one cannot take care of when they are the primary provider & work 10-12 hours a day.
Laughing. Just replying to Suzy's " coming to the acceptance of probably being alone and of not being attractive to men. " Well, that's a close quote if not exact. I just don't believe that to be true and I hate to see women believing it. AND, I'm saying no one should rule anything out. Love can be found anywhere, even if it's not how or where someone is looking for it. It starts with friendship building into a relationship and it doesn't matter where the beginnings are. Like here in the comments, for example. Wink !
we are our own worst critics I suppose....but, I have to reiterate (sp?) each one needs to be able to be physically attracted to the other one, and I am not talking "hollywood" standards here, but each person DOES need to be attracted to the other one. herein lies the problem. what happens is one person is so completely attracted to the other person, but the other person is not....so what results is just a friendship if the one who is most attracted can handle it....otherwise, there you are.......still didn't find that "perfect" match. people will say, you love more than just someone's looks - YES, that is true...but, you do need to have that physical attraction along with it. it's a whole package deal.
Endless thoughts here Jack. You became an instant celeb here [smiles]. But, the only thing that matters here is the heart ... no explanations, only two hearts that speaks to each other more than words ...
Well, a prayer here might also work!
ReplyDeleteYou need to pray hard and asks God ... and it will be given ...
ReplyDeleteWell the way I see it is that after all this is done, there are some big changes I am making for me as I wished.
ReplyDeleteEveryone has a companion, I used to and that is past and at times like this gosh I have placed some in my life to the side.
Not being arrogant at all.
Its about time you find your home ... its easy for you guys to find it, look for it. Unlike us, women ... we can't court. All we have to do is wait for the right guy ...
ReplyDeleteAwwwww! *hugs*
ReplyDeleteLOL...Terri we all have had companions - it's the meaning of life.
ReplyDeletewishing you the best! hugs!
ReplyDeleteWIshing you the best, too!
ReplyDeleteoh no I got the sympathy! lol
ReplyDeleteBe careful what you ask for Jack... LOL!!
ReplyDeletenot me...lol now a husband that might be nice...maybe...I think LOL
ReplyDeleteGod, I need a husband! lol a GOOD one too. sigh................but, at this point in my life I don't know that I can put up with anyone right now OR that they could put up with me.
ReplyDeleteI have no remorse with that LOL...
ReplyDeleteIt's life...
ReplyDeleteAmen sister...me too and I am getting old
ReplyDeleteJack it seems that your wish might have already been granted... there are at least two ladies in your blog here that are likewise looking for a husband.... :)
ReplyDeleteI think we are all at that age that we think about the risks however for myself this has been literally a time of thinking of what is important to me and what is within the future as it's all within our own creating...LOL anyone that thinks that life is great just being for the rest of there life alone - well it's not my cup of tea.
ReplyDeleteI guess I just said it they way I think and feel.
Are we not on this to share as friends? Don't get me wrong but within blogging are we not all sharing our thoughts in a genderless manner with respect? :)
ReplyDeleteof course we are, and I hope you didn't think I was being disrespectful, because I was not. you will have a much easier time finding yourself a woman to become your wife than any of us older women who have families already. you may even find yourself a younger woman with which you may have some children as well. I certainly don't want to have to live my life alone for the rest of my life, but I have come to the acceptance that I most likely will be. us women get older and we aren't as attractive to men anymore, and those of us who are usually get some young boys who want us to be their sugar mama. ugh......no thanks.
ReplyDeleteNot only sharing but gently baring our souls ... yes ... with respect. And that is life. Everyone has its share of burden. Its better to share it, and ease the burden than pretend to have a perfect life and when its not.
ReplyDelete... its Sunday. I have to give my respect ... gotta' out of here, and attend Mass.
Hugs. maritess*
not at all I have repected people on here over the last three years often the words are misunderstood but there are a variety of people and within it all I think most of all is respect. Old school here I guess.
ReplyDeleteme too...and I agree most men want younger women and younger men want well never mind
ReplyDeleteI could literally write on four people that married in there 40's, 50's. I kid you not Danette.
ReplyDeleteI opend a can of worms, all my friends are married with the exception of one, one may be getting divorced (they are not online) and well I know there are some that are on my blog that are married and it's tremendous in what they do have...
ReplyDeleteVery well said Suzy.....I'm with you girly
ReplyDeleteoh no you didn't, really! this is a good discussion with good dialogue. :)
ReplyDeletebtw....what have you made for dinner? :)
I had leftovers from yesterday's dinner: mac n' cheese with fish sticks and some creamed corn, very tasty!
thanks Cat! :)
ReplyDeleteJust finished eating! :) not kidding.
ReplyDeleteLife is happier with a well-suited companion. Period. It's as simple as that. Humans aren't meant to live alone forever...we can do so, but it's not in our best interest.
ReplyDeleteCircumstances alter our cases and we do what we must to make the best of things. If you are in a position to make the best of yours and that includes coupling---good luck to you, Jack!
The process might make for interesting blogging. :-)
If you are suppose to be with someone it will happen, if not enjoy life the way it is.
ReplyDeleteAs mentioned before here Sue, this situation after this accident has been a good reflection and it really is what it is. As this is a means of expression and after this entire incident and all I do find that there are something now after I have healed btw the week of Tylenols are doing fine, and thereafter this is the time of change for me. I find this to be a write of thoughts that are great.
ReplyDeleteLiterally I am healing and while doing so I after today I will get out but this has been a day of good contemplation.
Tess I never expected this and I just popped it on as I have been on and off....
ReplyDeleteI used to believe in that Tess. Not any more... if you want something in life you have to seek it, cultivate the possibility of it and then make educated choices. That is true of everything---even seeking a companion in life. We don't wait for education, prosperity or good health to just "find us if it's supposed to..." We seek it. At least that's the lesson I've learned in 54 years of living. *smile*
ReplyDeleteFind her if you want her, Jack.
One places things off and after NY I did.....but from what I have seen from many cities was that there are some that it works for and others that it doesn't and then there I became avoidant of the entire situation entirely yet I am not online to find her. But it literally is something to make that makes the world go around.
ReplyDeleteGreat food for thought and this was a share that literally came about with the "blick of a thought", I kid you not.
ReplyDeleteBest wishes Jack ;-)... Say up a prayer, and make sure you tell Great Spirit everything you want in your Lady, this is so you don't regret what is sent your way ;-D. Make your list and say it right... make sure you say, 'if it be Your will' ..;-). I will get off my soap box now with a smile :-), a ((hug)), and Namaste' my friend ..
ReplyDeleteSmiling at you first is fixing things up medically and the same to you. I literally am not in no rush but at the same time through all of this a companion not co dependancy would have been nice. But it's a benchmark. It's all within spirit and one's own desire and will and a hug back to good friend.
ReplyDeletethen try to look for her, Jack :) you deserve to be happy..wish you the best. Don't forget to ask for God's help,it always works out. Really.
ReplyDeleteYou think you do. ..
ReplyDeleteI think life is mutuality yeah...
ReplyDeletewow..wow..wow..I am late. Did I hear some people call my name Life and Enjoy Life? He..he..he.
ReplyDeleteSorry,I just join this site again after been struggling with my research. Btw Jack, why did we choose to change our front page displayed at the same time? I like your new front page...makes me recalling the ocean and beaches...hm.hm.hm..m.m.m. I change to butterfly images now..please visit.
Oh yes...you need a wife?
I understand you..I do. Sometimes in our life path, we just want someone whom is dear to us,whom is know us better than others and yet he/she will be near to care to spend the rest of life together and make it colorful and happier. Marry at 40 or 50? Why not. It is a better idea than spending your time alone when you are growing older. I guess nobody wants to die alone without his/her lover besides him/her.
I really appreciate this comments Jack, thank you for sharing.
Regards,
Ms.Life
Are you kidding? Honey don't you believe that for a moment! It's attitude lady! Those poor guys out there have their own issues and fears. They're lonely, nice, normal people for the most part. They have the most risk of rejection, not you and they would love to meet a nice normal woman.
ReplyDeleteSorry I did a post and life there is a tad of a debate going on there...
ReplyDeletehttp://initiativestain.multiply.com/journal/item/791/The_Health_Care_Bill_Passed....
This is exactly right. Someone to share life, someone who could love you unconditionally just as you are.
ReplyDeleteI don't believe it when someone says they don't need this do you?
You seem to have a knack for starting a debate Jack. :)
ReplyDeleteNot really I just write and do it with respect...there is a huge difference between debates an thoughts...:)
ReplyDeleteI like these thoughts....not the debates.
ReplyDeleteI know there are a lot of people like me outside, looking for the lover they could trust and share with ;-)
Fox, you mean they say that they do not need love? Well, sometimes their life is already so empty and busy just to realize and enjoy what have been blessed by God....or they found something they love...not somebody..but something.
We all need love that is what makes life abundant....
ReplyDeletehehehehe to cute but true lol
ReplyDeleteright on it is a subject that needs to be talked about more really
ReplyDeleteWelcome back to your home take a look at my current blog...Obama got the bill passed.
ReplyDeletejust read it actually called daughter and she was thrilled as a peanut that it passed
ReplyDeleteYes. I've heard this from people of both genders. I believe it's a wall we all sometimes use to hide behind.
ReplyDeleteA few lines from somewhere comes to mind.....
Oh the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person.....having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words,
but pouring them out freely, knowing that a faithful hand will keep what is worth keeping
and blow the rest away.
I just visit it. Some good debates are opening. I like a good debate :-)
ReplyDeleteOk, I've added more than my two cents worth. Backing away now and heading to bed.
ReplyDeleteBest to you all tonight.
Again, I guess we better wisely hear and analyze why do they say so and what they intend by saying so.
ReplyDeleteSometimes their life is so miser that they prefer not to think and feel love anymore since they are afraid their life will be worse soon. I myself prefer asking a happy lover about love than a just broken heart lover...LOL
I literally have never seen such a debate of something of recent and from this area I am off to bed and after all I was reading I do need a wife now :)
ReplyDeleteAside of that a great Sunday to all..
Have a nice sleep and hopefully you will get a nice dream about whom will be your wife.
ReplyDeleteSmiling ( that was some debate ) !
ReplyDeleteJack, are you trying to propose her by posting this blog? That would be very romantic :-)
ReplyDeleteWho is the lucky lady, I wonder ;-)
Contemplation....hm..mm..you are right, the accident ( or dying moment) could open our eyes to the deeper meaning of life....and after that moment we will forget it soon...like all of our new year promises...LOL.
Wish you the best Jack,
Life
No not at all I yesterday I just was writing......but yesterday was the first day I had been treated for the time being and I still think that within life we all are looking for someone.
ReplyDeleteI found that I put so many things off. I certainly have jotted down some things that I will do after this is all over with medically.
And I wish you the best as well....but I am basically here writing my own thoughts as I desire. As we all do.
I dropped down here without finishing reading the comments. Don't rule anything out, people! I am 54 years old and met my fiance on the internet. It was a chance meeting in books and lit. Now, I don't recommend the chat room, but it worked for us. Don't. Rule. Anything. Out ! Chance meetings happen anywhere and everywhere. Even in the comments section of a blog! I was in E- Harmony for a while, and I saw a lot of interesting folks there. It's just that I met someone I was interested in just before I joined. If I had known how things were going to work out, I would not have joined, but oh well. At least I can tell everyone else it's worth checking out.
ReplyDelete@ suzycute....Don't you believe it for a minute, that women are not attractive to men when they get older - don't you do it! It's absolutely not true!
ReplyDeleteOh no says Mr. Bill! Sue what are you saying lol :)
ReplyDeleteOk........hmmmm ok if you say so!
ReplyDeleteare you seriously surprised that so many women would respond to a statement like "God I need a wife"... really? we spend most of our adult lives listening to men tell us that they don't want to get married. and (personally speaking) i think that number increases with age (and the number of times they've been to divorce court).
ReplyDeleteto hear a man say they need a wife.. or better yet, want to share their life with a partner in a monogamous committed relationship (showing my own viewpoints here).. is enough to make us single women swoon.
seriously? you're seriously surprised?
The one thing I do know is that many men will take advantage of women online - I have never done that and yes I am surprise to be honest as I wrote this yesterday.
ReplyDeleteNot all men but I have seen where literally men and women do play games and I love this as I love writing with people. I truly do.
ReplyDeletei think the discussion would continue.. as to what makes you think you "need" versus "want" a wife? personally.. i'd want someone that wanted me, more than needed me.
ReplyDeleteand yes, people of both genders play games. sometimes they do it intentionally and sometimes unintentionally. it's always a risk but i think life is made of risks. we value something more when we've had to work to attain it.
*puts soapbox away and goes off to make cornbread to go with chicken tortilla soup in the crockpot*
Yes this is true....
ReplyDeleteI guess I prefer need than want though.Since want might mean only for short time and secondary.
ReplyDeleteNeeded is primary and long lasting...Am I right? Personal opinion.....
If I had voice I could explain better...Maybe it's something to write about tonight.
ReplyDeleteI am waiting Jack. Tonite? I guess I will try to read it this afternoon since our time 15 hours different :-)
ReplyDeleteI am here I just wrote on it Life....
ReplyDeletehttp://initiativestain.multiply.com/journal/item/795/Love?replies_read=2
ReplyDeletewhat we want and what we need are definitely two different things...but, it is most wonderful when what we want and what we need are with that one single person who fills the bill! :)
ReplyDeleteAll I know is Venus and Mars are alright tonight...
ReplyDeletelol : ) yep
ReplyDeleteI have read Men are from mars and women are from venus....all the series by Gray.
ReplyDeleteThe funniest thing ever is I got the wrong book also:
"men are from penis and women are from bras"......I am serious.I got it in a book store made me LOL
I guess it is the right title also. Don't you think?
One of my best friends and I decided SHE needed "a wife" several years ago. A busy professional who worked 12 hours most days--her house was suffering from lack of the care and management she'd always afforded it before having to go back to work full-time following a messy divorce. She could never get to the projects so many of us have waiting at our homes--because she just didn't have the time (or the money on her single income to pay to have it taken care of...) The mess and delay of completing those never-ending projects was a source of constant irritation and finally depression for her---she finally said exactly what you did--- "God, I need a wife!" (Jokingly of course...)
ReplyDeleteShe stayed single for 9 years and finally got married again 2 years ago. Her husband is a wonderful fellow--a few years older who is semi-retired. He makes a great 'wife.' (Of course they love each other like crazy too--that helps.) BUT he's the sort of a 'wife' most of us would like to have. Keeps their home spotless, cooks and takes care of all the things one cannot take care of when they are the primary provider & work 10-12 hours a day.
Laughing. Just replying to Suzy's " coming to the acceptance of probably being alone and of not being attractive to men. " Well, that's a close quote if not exact. I just don't believe that to be true and I hate to see women believing it. AND, I'm saying no one should rule anything out. Love can be found anywhere, even if it's not how or where someone is looking for it. It starts with friendship building into a relationship and it doesn't matter where the beginnings are. Like here in the comments, for example. Wink !
ReplyDeletewe are our own worst critics I suppose....but, I have to reiterate (sp?) each one needs to be able to be physically attracted to the other one, and I am not talking "hollywood" standards here, but each person DOES need to be attracted to the other one. herein lies the problem. what happens is one person is so completely attracted to the other person, but the other person is not....so what results is just a friendship if the one who is most attracted can handle it....otherwise, there you are.......still didn't find that "perfect" match. people will say, you love more than just someone's looks - YES, that is true...but, you do need to have that physical attraction along with it. it's a whole package deal.
ReplyDeleteEndless thoughts here Jack. You became an instant celeb here [smiles]. But, the only thing that matters here is the heart ... no explanations, only two hearts that speaks to each other more than words ...
ReplyDelete