Acceptance is the Key

Everything was fine some things really went well for me today and then my father arrived home and thereafter soon my mother was crying and he was not making any sense.

I sat down with him and he was not cognitively functioning. I called his specialist that had done the work on his operation and he told me to take him into the emergency. I had to get one friend of mine to come over so that we both could convince and lift him into the car and I called the emergency and told them I was bringing him in.

So quickly he was placed into a bed and then doctors started asking me questions and as well as all the history of him. What seems to have taken place so far from what I can tell is that he had a tremendously high fever along with an infection from the one splint placed into his kidney. So I spent five hours tonight amongst doctors and then left at 11pm. The one doctor told me what she is doing and that internal medicine will be taking over in two hours and that I should go home and get some sleep.

So this is something that has happened before but to get the man – my father to go was something beyond retention. After he heard all of them speaking to me then he said “Jack we are back were I was before”. This was with regards to the first time anything happened with him and cancer. It’s not cancer and I must have called four time to my mother to tell her everything was fine, and now he will be in there and it’s time to let internal medicine and all the doctors do what is necessary.

He realized that if he had not gone in, that he would have died tonight – the doctor mentioned this and then she pulled me to the side and told me that he is not out of the woods as of yet.

I left my father with a handshake and he said the things that he said a few years ago and then I told him he would be fine – just have some faith. He apologized for all of his anger in allowing me to take him in and I told him that he can thank me when he gets out. He told me how much he cared for me and that he understands how much that I have always been there for all that he has gone through. A very proud man grabbed my hand and told me how much he loves me. Yes it was my father. While at the same time mentioning the code of what to do in case of the worse. I could have waited for internal medicine as they were coming down after his tests, scans, you name it - but this time I decided that I was going to leave. The nurses and the three doctors gave asked for my number and they all said it's very good that he has someone that understands and knows all the information medically regarding him. They too said to go home and get some sleep.

We shall see what tomorrow brings. My parents celebrate their anniversary in two days and he will not be out of there for some time – but acceptance is the key. It really has been a day. As earlier I had success with something but right now that can sit on the wayside.