There are always things in our life that come about – it comes and then you let it go.
Families can be one of the hardest things as it’s something close to you and pending what your roots are you still – let it go.
When encounter seem to be the worst I know that in time they will gradually glide away.
When in any giving situation never make a quick decision, find someone that you know and get there feelings on it then – let it go.
As we have only so much time there is that choice that we can make to let it enter and stay with us or just breath it out and – let it go.
I am not one two people or there
I am on whole
One whole is me
I am dedicated
Not even tough
But I am dedicated to my stuff
Yet it’s of the soft kind
My stuff is fast and yet it is slow
It’s of a cool kind
Aikido it’s my stuff…
My first writing when I was all of thirteen. I some manner I have experienced several things but when one looks back into there past you ask yourself from right now and looking at all the past was there more good times than the bad.
Then you think about what is in front of your for the forthcoming years and there is only one person that can make that picture or "life direction". As we all have that choice as well we all have that ability to think how we wish our own movie of life to be. Sometimes you have to edit some things out, but not really but it's a matter of being proactive in what you want for the future.
I never had a family life as such and with my mother dead I was kicked out at 15 with no where to live etc. I have always felt hard done by but looking at it from your point of view maybe it was a mixed blessing after all. Timing was off though.
ReplyDeleteIt was a Sunday one hour after war started.
Hi Jack,
ReplyDeleteI was trying to read between-the-lines in your blog, rather than plainly absorbing its message on its face-value. In doing so, I think what you intend to say here is probably what you wish be the case, rather than what it is... I may be wrong in this assumption, but is it so?
The reason why I interpret your blog that way is, IMHO, I think a Director's responsibility is to oversee, lead, manage, sequence, and above all, control or steer (or direct, to be precise) all events he faces toward a preset/planned goal (or a dream)! Is it not? Even if it is not so to the fullest, definitely "let go" an event and take the residue as it comes as destiny (the easiest route) is not what Directors do! Yes, we do face events that are completely beyond our control, well, a discussion on that topic opens a can of worms, as "when to hold and when to fold the cards", as the great gambler says, probably never comes from a book, hence never has an answer... :)
On the contrary, if we assume the directorship of our lives (which I don't, of course, as you already know :)) then we should make sure we take control of the events in our lives, at least most of them, so much so that, we don't "let go" anything (by branding them as "well, its meant to be..." :)) and jeopardise our goals consequently; rather face them, grin at them sternly, but never let it go pass on us! Please don't misunderstand me, I do read all your blogs sincerely and I know what you are going through, but my response here is a pragmatic approach to your statement independent of you life itself; I am not good at English hence I may not be conveying my thoughts clearly here, Jack... :) so please bear with me. All I am suggesting is that you lift yourself out of your current context (a hundred thousand feet above your life, figuratively :)) and read those same statements in this blog again! ...am sure you probably may rethink of wiping-out those "let it go"s (at least some of them!) :) or rephrase them with "face them and regret"; believe me, its healthier than letting them go! :)
Take care,
Tamil
I have a wonderful family that I am close to...I simply love them. Even my extended family is great. Maybe because I'm Italian and we grew up close. Maybe I'm just blessed
ReplyDeleteI think it comes down to the level of importance we place upon situations and our reactions to them. After we have processed the emotion involved, we can prioritize whether we still need to ponder it or move on. We can forgive past behaviors, but they have still impacted us and we are changed because of them. We get to choose our direction and level of involvement when the situation presents itself again, which it usually does.
ReplyDeleteBob, amazing story. How things are so different then to now.
ReplyDeleteTamil,
ReplyDeleteTaking everything in consideration with life - all the realms of it. A person is a director - meaning control. That is within right now I have the ability to decide on what I wish to wear when I leave and what whom I will meet and at what times. A producer of a movie is one that will have the final say as to how all comes out but the director uses all five senses and brings about all the areas that he/she intends with life. It's a thought as in life you can not edit out things. You can amend areas. But one thing one can do is decide on if they wish to have that movie of life and how they wish to have it.
A movie is something that is of film, life is something that is not tangable yet one can cognitively bring about some things within there own realm of ideas and it gives way in doing so - to many things.
I understand completely about the letting them go - I am nor will let them go but I do have that choice in which and how to work with or without them pending my own life.
So I look at what the time is then I decide on everything that I have to do and imagery combined with some reality is allowing life to move, not regress.
Thank you for stopping by it's been a long while,
Jack
This is good!
ReplyDelete"We get to choose our direction and level of involvement when the situation presents itself again, which it usually does."
ReplyDeleteYes...
Stuff happens.
ReplyDeleteThe closer you are to the happening, the more it impacts you. Some of those things are random, as in the innocent bystander. Others are the products of inevitability, as in receiving treatment in kind to what you've given.
An explosion at a distance causes less immediate harm, but can be devastating to you if it destroys your place of employment, or completely harmless as in a controlled demolition. Yet, standing too near either can have the same deadly result, intentionally or not. It's safest to be farther away (Is it best? It's a You've yet to wear these moccasins kind of thing).
I love my very human family. It's the only kind available. We've had ups and downs. Some extended family have not been as close to me as I'd like them to have been, and even my siblings are more geographically distant to me than I'd like (Disagreeing seems to be a kind of sport with us, as if walking as close to the edge without falling off sort of thing. Foolish child' s play, no doubt, yet...). But whatever comes or goes, within or without my control, I have only One real choice. I choose to determine whether they are worth it. And... they are.
I never make another person's choice, and I do not envy them the choices they feel compelled to make knowing how difficult many of my own have been. I am thankful for the small choices. Potatoes or cauliflower tonight?
Otherwise, stuff happens.
Go with the flow.. unless you spot that rainbow on the opposite side!
ReplyDeleteEasier said than done but yes - very wise words Lyn very...
ReplyDeleteThat is a quote!
ReplyDeleteStuff always happens Charles...each one of us has different things that come into being. So last week was something that was kind of different to the "Potatoes or cauliflower", yet things return back to a flow.
ReplyDeleteFor myself I can say...
What I'd like in my coming years is to spend more time with my children and grandchildren. They are on the other side of the country from me, too very far, so I must savor every moment, evey minute, every hour that I get to spend with them. Time passes too quickly and they are grown and gone ...
ReplyDeleteSo true. Time does pass quickly...
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