Tuesday, April 14, 2009

Boundaries...Rendering Them...

I know my Boundaries

If there is one thing that I was fortunate enough to have was a foundation but as well a foundation based on an art and I call it Aikido. Although I am not teaching it I really do know where when to just flow with things and tonight for me the best thing that I could do was head out to the gym and burn off some steam.

I don’t know how to describe I got on here and most wouldn’t but I was not about to start making calls or anything like this as it’s not my way.

So within my way I will just let it all out and as well I do meditate, funny enough but within this gym on the third floor I will sit in what is called seiza and I will just breath thing out and let them go.

But all said I thank you for your comments and I have not made a quick decision but I had met with one good friend of my families whom knows the situation as he was my father’s attaché – yet he is much more of a neat man that has hobbies and so on and he asked me if something had happened. I told him and he told me a few stories and his wife prepared supper and with Mel, I got some solid advice and what to do at this stage and I already knew that was the best thing.

As well he said to me that there were many men that paid a large price if they were not perfect back in the “old days” and he like many of you – really said much of what is said here.

Thereafter I headed to the gym. Was more focused on just training as I have my own agenda of things that I am doing.

Each one of you – I really do appreciate this as last night I had it and I was ready to just take a trip to my friend in Drumheller. But rather I just went with the flow.

I don’t run away from things – but I do look for the good things that are happening and within my family I have always done my own thing much like my brother but there was a time that I was really doing much but that time has past and all things are set up with nurses and all – for myself – I walk my own trail and I am comfortable in doing so. It was a rough ride yesterday and no one needs to go through things like this over a period of eight years for but that is the way that I think about it. One thing is I know what I need to find within my world is a companion and stop holding off on it. I remember coming back from NY and my friend Knut said to me, don't go looking for women in other places let them come to your world or find one right here. Anyhow that is not the meaning of this write but this was is there are times I will stand my ground.

 

As well, I knew a great gal where I was living and unfortunately she I had lost her number as she was a very nice one going through something and it's high time for me to get that going within my life as well but not in a manner that one is chasing to fix problems but to just meet while doing things and who knows gradually it comes to be something.

 

It's all within a flow I feel.

 

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24 comments:

  1. Drawing boundary lines is a difficult art to master. At first, it seems easy ... Then, you realize that you've crossed a few boundaries yourself in an attempt to establish your own. Back and forth the pendulum swings until the lesson is well-learned and the balance is met. At least that is how I see it ...

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  2. Kat this happened and I really didn't think that how it all happened would. But your right and now I don't live in denial, I just understand it and get back on with things and forget it.

    I will always have one good older person from which I can contact and I will look to see if I am jumping to conclusions but this is a repeating cycle - which I thought was far gone.

    So I see it much like you but I find my grounding rather fast in how I go about things. It's not a passive aggressive nature to let someone take there own energy and make there own fall. It's an act of self defence - and I am not meaning physical but more in the manner of how it's tended with and then balanced out as you can be pulled right into it and for myself I know how to get out of that.

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  3. Yesterday is gone,tomorrow is a hope for,today is what matters the most.If you can fix it,then fix it...if you can not fix it..pray about it,leave it there and move on.Go through your papers,writings,find that young lady's phone number and give her a call and go with the flow.lol

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  4. Parrie, yeah it's been a thought since I got back here and after driving home and seeing others walking there dogs - I did that before and those are the things that I intended on slowly grooming into as I am not a person that chases after women per say. All that I know is while coming home from the gym there were couple of each a variety of ages walking there dogs etc...that said something.

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  5. Inspiring to me...going with the flow, having faith in the universe...seeing what is before me.

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  6. We have a tendency to look back and reflect when we see happy go lucky people walking their dogs,holding hands and throwing caution to the wind.(carefree) Oh how those days was beautiful,rather they were for 8years.Over the years,I have become settled in my ways,acepting life as it is,going with the flow.Take all the time you need when you decide to finding the lucky lady to share the remainder of your years with or let her find you.In the meantime continue to go with the flow. :))

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  7. Going with the flow.............. I like it ....
    This topic is discussed in detail in the following 3 books, and they give a lot of advice on the issue :
    1. Celestine Prophecy - An Adventure (James Redfield)
    2. Celestine Prophecy - 10th Insight (James Redfield)
    3. Celestine Prophecy - the vision (James Redfield)
    however, they have to be read in that order !!!!!

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  8. I agree that it is time to move on with your life instead of leaving it "on hold" until the next episode. Moving on doesn't mean that you are leaving your family behind, just that you have a right to have a life too.

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  9. I see well flow it is and book or not - it's morning a coffee and I can hear birds as the morning has just begun. These books look most interesting but flow it is book or not. :)

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  10. Lyn yeah your taking all the realm of all facets of your life and not just one in particular and like a canoe on a river your drift to the side and pull over and you summarize the direction and understand if you need to get out for an hour or two and then pending the waves and the current one decides on which route within the river and what destination is within grasp realizing all things - weather, current, boat, endurance...Then one knows they are going to be back in the water and flow to the next destination as the entire mission of the flow - was to get from one end to the other.
    Oh yeah the one most important factor is to see that there is diet pepsi within stock. :)

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  11. That is one part of the flow I wouldn't want to be without. Good luck on your journeys.

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  12. One never knows where they'll meet their soulmate.. they are usually hiding in the durndest places! lmao.. Mine was in an elevator.. Freaky, eh?? lol

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  13. Well within reason Lynn, have it at night half water and half diet pepsi as the carbonation I enjoy.

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  14. The sweetener gets me hooked, had to stop several months ago.

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  15. Well, I meet a few everyday and at 6 pm I ran into one at the gym that I have know for a long time and is a ordinary person. Friends first works for me.

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  16. I see - I like it for not the sweet but really the carbonation - I have ever since for sometime...I like the fizz if you will :)

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  17. Yea, it's the best. Nice that you are socializing a bit.

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  18. Slowly flowing into it. A friend that went back to university was going to get together tonight and he is studying for exams as he went back to school and is 40, but shall see what happens.

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  19. It's good to have a life, otherwise we get stale and cranky :)

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  20. Smiling with you as I know that you know the aftermath of last week and what came about is one that was hard - one mention - we all are human. :)

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  21. I'm going to go read a bit (mindless mystery) have a great evening. You should think about a cruise, it's the best.

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  22. Lyn your pictures of your cruise are something else. Those lawn chairs and the pool I would live there day and night :)
    Awaiting a call from a friend here...

    A great even to you...

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