How would you handle a situation as Such?
Here it is on Valentines Day – I was finished my workout. I walk to the gym and walk back yet today I headed elsewhere thereafter or at least I was. As I do have some pain as mentioned with the need of dental work. I decided to go to the local supermarket here call the Co – Op Grocery store. It was 11:30am and Evelyn was driving by and pulled down the window and said, “How would you like to go see Lesley at the rink?” Evelyn is Lar’s wife. The people I have been staying with. I said sure and got in and went to the local rink here to see their son of theirs which is within the 3rd grade skate – it was some valentines skate. I took pictures on Evelyn’s camera of her and her son and then I took a few of my own. She gestured to take a picture of me. However, I opted out. We where at the rink and she was taking all sorts of pictures as well as videos. I just sat there.
After an hour the festivity was all done. Lesley went back with his 3rd grade school mates to school; Evelyn then asked me if I would like to go for lunch. I surmised that it was something that both Lar and she had communicated on. So I said yeah. We went to one Chinese restaurant and had a meal and then she arranged for one meal for a take out. We arrived home at around 1pm. At 3pm, I was finishing off my wash. Then there was tea on the table. I sat down as well as this Brad which always drops by and we where just shooting the breeze. Lar seemed rather perturbed. Evelyn was somewhere else within the house. Then Larry left the house to go get both kids. It’s just a few blocks down and he arrived home shortly there after. His daughters as well as his son were sitting at the table after changing.
Then right in front of them and as well in front of Brad – he raised his voice while he was placing away some plates. I quote; “Jack whose decision was it to go for lunch?” I looked at him and knew where this was going as he was not a happy camper. I answered, “I was walking on the road to the Co-Op to get some Ricolla lozenges as I was. What took me off guard was the fact that I thought that he would have addressed this wish his wife Evelyn rather than doing this in front of the children. He asked me the same question again. Then I was teed off as he was not considerate to all which were around the table. He could have done this with more couth. He went on while the kids where there and then after he was done, I said to him, “I would think this is something that you wish to talk to someone else about (his wife). He was ticked off and if there was no communication on a simple lunch – my thoughts are that he was barking up the wrong tree. The matter ended with my assertion that I don’t wish to hear it anymore and to take the matter to where it belongs. I went about joking after with the kids and talking with Brad. Upon finishing two cups of tea, one side of me wished to ask him to go outside to discuss this as I felt that I was unnecessarily placed within the middle. As well, I thought it was plain out dumb with the children sitting there hearing him blow off in the wrong direction in front of his kids.
I was on my way to the store to get some lozenges and I would never have thought that saying yes would have leaded into this situation. I am sure that things shall cool off but I believe I handled this well as there was no need in placing me within the middle, nor was it right to do it right in front of everyone. Her intention was just to enjoy some free time coupled with a lunch and it was at her request. I would never have thought anything of this. I enjoy them both and if I thought that being asked to go see their son at the rink would have opened up a Pandora’s’ Box, I would have opted out.
Obviously that was not the case and I was placed right within the middle and I held back but just replied to him that it’s the end of the story and to take the story were it belongs. I thought it was plain dumb and very unnessary.
Penny for your thoughts?
Tell him you don't like being put in the middle?
ReplyDeleteThese things happen , but you are right, he should have talked in private to one or both of you. Maybe this has happened with other people in their life before and you did not know it?
ReplyDeleteit should be private
ReplyDeletewow how awkward was that huh........sounds like he's a jealous man and that his wife knows this, ......It's sad that his parenting skills are such that he would bring a subject like this up in front of his children. or it could be maybe he has turned them on her before under different circumstances. If it was me tomorrow some time I would ask to speak to them both regarding what happened for it embarrassed you in front of your friends and his kids. ask for them to set the darn ground rules.......the whole thing sounds so stooooooopid huh.....lol hugs Jack......sounds like you need one tonight.
ReplyDeleteHow awkward that was for you. Didn't his wife speak up at all? Isn't that really odd too?
ReplyDeleteIt's not good that he cannot control himself.
I have within a manner as it was uncalled for.
ReplyDeleteJust had supper and he asked, How are you - I replied the real question is how are you. He went silent.
ReplyDeleteGot up and after finishing supper.
That was my thought and the reason I kept within a monotone voice.
ReplyDeleteThe children were right there I would think he would have communicated
with his other half rather that jumping to conclusion. I thought the audacity
on Valentines Day.
The Pandora’s’ Box released the jealousy witch! dear Jack. Oh my Gosh!
ReplyDeleteI could understand if there was some friction between them - then I would never have taken up the ride.
ReplyDeleteAfter watching their child skate with Evelyn, she wished to go for lunch and I would have never guessed
that this would come about. He might have thought about talking to her when they were alone when no
one was around and in so many words I indicated this to me as yeah I was placed right within the middle.
This shall fly by as for myself it's water on a ducks back.
I am just going about what I do. I don't fret on this any longer - as I don't have the time for stupid acts
like this. Yet it was unexpected and I have not paid much attention to their relationship but it has
been good and I am sure this shall pass but you do ponder the means and ways as this was a surprise.
She was somewhere yet we both entered in at the same time and he was right there.
ReplyDeleteYou would have thought that he would have spoke and communicated with her.
It was very odd Frani and this one friend which comes to the house said
to me before leaving that it was uncalled for. And it was.
Yeah but I am nor would I ever do that but apparently so.
ReplyDeletewhat does that say about their relatiohship and his personality? wow!
ReplyDeleteif the questioning was done in a rude manner then it only shows how arrogant he is.
ReplyDeleteThe eating out thing if there's a guest/s in the house should be talked and agreed upon not within the hearing distance of the guests.
Too many unknowns to do more than speculate -- his morning may have held unshared incidents or conversations that impacted his thoughts and set the incorrect mood. I would hope that it wouldn't unsettle the memories of the morning and the lunch.
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