Seemingly they have always kept things alive and one man from a small town in Canada was coming home within his first years of being away. This Hungarian lady which was from the other side of the town he came from.
Most often back in those times people from very different backgrounds never married.
He came from a Norwegian family and she was primarily Hungarian. Fifty five years ago two people met at a dance.Then the rest was history. He had to head back to Calgary, Alberta and she stayed and waited for him while exchanging letters back and for nearly every day. My mother's grandfather whom was a tough natured farmer had many concerns of whom is second last daughter of a family of seven was in love with.
The largest concern as well back in those days was that you married your own type. Mom was catholic and Dad was Protestant. I guess each and every trip back to visit Bertha, he would have to talk for an hour with his future father in law. Then thereafter came the meeting of the two families. Both were the youngest within very large families.And one was as opposite as oil and vinegar. Yet these two were in love. After six months, my father asked my mother's father if he could have her hand.
Dad knew that the only manner to be able to get a yes was to do what he had to do with changing faiths. The two married in Calgary with a very small ceremony. And the rest is history. They went on to travel and certainly they were old school but they stayed together for all of these years. Within the good times as well as the hard times.
Meanwhile, many of their friends had divorced, some stuck together. Just imagine how this all started. It seems like yesterday that they were so much younger. But the significance is within the bond and relationship that two people had. The two of them still have there rituals of kissing and it's something. As those were the days were old school. Yet once upon a time there was a Norwegian/Canadian and a Hungarian/Canadian (there is a little Italian as well)... and one merely said, "would you like to dance". Six months later they were married and the rest is a story of love and history between the two of them.
They have been married for 55 years through thick and thin. Most of all they still love each other...
.congratulations to them,,quite an achievement.!
ReplyDeleteIt is where did time go as it really is a story onto it's own between these two Caroline.
ReplyDeletethis is just awesome!
ReplyDeleteThat is such a sweet story.
ReplyDeleteMy dad grew up in Calgary too.He was born in 1929. He came from a farming family and when he grew up he had to chop the heads off of turkeys.
His parents met in Russia and were married and came here. They went back to Russia, for a year and my aunt was born there. She was the only one of a total of eleven (nine made it to adulthood) that was born in Russia everyone else was born in Calgary.
I still have relatives that grow hay. There are two farms apparently near Cremona.
But, after my grandfather died my grandmother said those were the best years of her life. They didn't have the romance that kept your grandparents going for so long.
My husband and I have been married twenty-three years this year and I hope we will have what it takes to grow old together.First we have to survive getting old.lol.
Congratulations!
Thanks Tori, there are a few pictures I had taken and it's hard to believe that all of that time has gone by.
ReplyDeleteHow sweet! That's commitment!
ReplyDeletethat's a wonderful story-----
ReplyDeleteYou have a superb story there Erika. My father were both from this small town called Yorkton, Saskatchewan she lived on the outskirts of one side which were primarily Hungarians and slavics. And my father's lived in a hamlet that my grandfather named, which is called Orcadia. There was not much mixing of ethnicities back then. Yet they made it work. Often I recall at family get togethers within the family where mom will often say, that if they would have stayed in Yorkton they would have ended up being divorced. You know small town and all back in those days. But my father was stationed there - this was much before I came around. You are very fortunate as I was married once and it's a entirely different story...
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Nancy while I was around and older I did see the commitment and there were times I am sure that he could have had an affair but
ReplyDeletethere is something within the man that he never did that.
A great story of love and commitment.
ReplyDeleteSi they travelled as well and then when my father went on to be a civilian diplomate I think that was a chapter within
ReplyDeletetheir lives that they are very fond of.
Thank you Summer, I have my scanner in another city so these were taken by way of a camera but
ReplyDeletesomehow some just fit and some don't. Yet 55 years and going and all they have been through the
last ten years with cancer and all. It is. And thanks. I didn't know about it as I am so bad with dates
my brother called me and well, I have to do something for them and we shall see as they like to live life
rather simple now.
I am sorry your marriage didn't work out. It is tough out there. We are not rich so that probably saved us. People with money can have too many other interests and then the couple grows apart. But, on the same token if you are around one another too much you can start to get on each others nerves. So it is a balance of being together and not being together.
ReplyDeletelol.
By the time my parents were having children it still mattered who you married. But, it was usually for religious reason. My parents got married in 1959 and when we were born they made us protestants so the grandparents wouldn't fight. One side was Catholic and the other Lutheran.
Back in Calgary I don't think there were enough Germans to be inclusive that I knew about anyway. All but two of my dad's siblings married out of the German background.
My German grandmother on my dad's side was sixteen when she came to Canada from Russia.They lived in Strawberrry farmland near Saratov. My Irish Grandmother's family on my mom's side came over during the Potato famine.They went to Quebec and then to the Ottawa Valley area.
History is cool.So said the druid.lol.
I'm not it's been ten years and I think as time goes on yes time is a healer with all this. I have long ago forgot about her yet it was not a nasty break up she got the condo and signed off from further future claims. But here again I am content. There are so many that do have ongoing problems but it's more than religion now. It's a bond between two people that can decifer a bond of life from a long term date.
ReplyDeleteMy mother was always dark many thought she was spanish but I think it was by way of the genes which were italian.
I can't blame my father as she was a knock out...
ReplyDeleteWe have a little gypsy in us. My sister says that my gypsy side and my German side might give me the slightly olive coloured skin. Lots of people ask me what I am. lol.
ReplyDeleteMy maid of honour for our wedding was Italian. She passed away unfortunately. She got cancer. Her grandmother let me call her my Nona.
I will never forget that. Her grandmother was a sweet heart.
She has beautiful eyes. And wonderful eyebrows. I don't have any photos from when my German grandmother was young.
ReplyDeleteI literally get that more times than you know - not kidding. I have some on a site but then this was my mothers parents and they came right from Budapest. One generation to another. My grandmother worked her behind off and well with this term we call old school there are pros and cons to it.
ReplyDeleteThis was taken sometime in the 1800's. I am wavering off the subject but I thought I would place this in - why not.
I have on old suitcase that was given to me and it has letters and pictures from both sides of the family.
ReplyDeleteYet I never get around to really going through it all and I do wish to place them all on a disk for keepsake.
First of All Jack may I wish your wonderful parents a Very Happy 55th wedding anniversary.
ReplyDeleteA very handsome couple as are your grand parents.
I think you must keep all those old photos in a safe place for future generations.
What a magnificent history from their humble beginnings to preserve and share.
Thank You.
I find this post quite delightful indeed.
This is a beautiful photo.
ReplyDeleteHey Milli - thank you. I shall and I thank you there.
ReplyDeleteLove Prevails
ReplyDeleteI believe so Melody...
ReplyDelete:) me too ♥
ReplyDeleteWhat a wonderful love story, Jack! My congratulations to both of them. Beautiful shot of the bride and groom. It takes one heck of a couple to hang in there for decades ;-).
ReplyDeleteBeautiful.
ReplyDeleteThank you for the beautiful love story.
ReplyDeletenice story
ReplyDeleteWhat a wonderful story! Happy Anniversary to your folks!
ReplyDeleteGreat story of memories and love, thanks for sharing this
ReplyDeleteWhat a wonderful story, I hope you get through all those pictures and get them preserved. That is great to have them and I would love to see more.
ReplyDeleteWe celebrate our 50th this May. This makes me wonder how my children view our courtship and marriage. Please pass along my congratulations!
ReplyDeleteYou inherited much of your physical features from your mom, Jack. I could see your eyes in your mom's and her eyebrows looks exactly as yours, the only difference is your a man.
ReplyDeleteSome are a tad lucky when it comes to love and marriage. They cracked the jackpot pot as they say on their first try, few weren't just as lucky. At times I feel jealous why some found their gift on their first try. But I think that is destiny, a fate we all have to accept.
Please extend my heartfelt congratulations and best wishes ... and my warmth hugs to your mom and dad. God bless. hugs tight.
Sue thanks it's a true story and today I must get something symbolic for the both of them.
ReplyDeleteDJ that is part of my heritage and I would never have thought I would see this day my grandparents only got to 50 years as my grand father passed away. So they really have lived through thick and thin. And it did start with one dance request, mind you my father's friend whom is a judge within the court system now. Actually arranged the first meeting so this gentleman named Gene Lewchuk had something to do with this.
ReplyDeleteI am glad Judit that you could see and read this as my grandparents immigrated from Budapest, Hungry.
ReplyDeleteAs well, I am glad that you can read in english. Thank you very much I find the pictures of Budapest to be
significant.
Thank you Mike a true story of a Sgt., meeting a lady from his home town.
ReplyDeleteThanks Terri, I have to go out and get theme something I wish he was in good enough shape that I could arrange
ReplyDeletea second marriage or something creative. I might call a cater to serve them italian. They are set in there was now
and I am very happy with how they lived there life. This morning I had to call them and wake them up and wish them
a Happy Anniversary, so I will head out and drop over there and then come up with an idea.
Your most welcome Tee. When I saw your pictures and when I had this call from my older brother I thought I would do it.
ReplyDeleteI think the name of the movie is "Notes", and in some ways not all entirely it's much like this.
I do have a half brother that came on the scene a few years ago and my father told my mother before they were married
that he had a son by accident. So he was straight up with her, and she accepted him as I guess he wished to get
everything out on the table before they were married - so honesty he was with her and she was with him.
What a wonderful story Jack. Extending my wishes to them for a very Happy 55th Anniversary. I think it would be lovely if you could arrange a nice lunch or dinner for them to enjoy together :)
ReplyDeletePatty I am the 3rd with my name, ie: jgs III, and when my father's father passed on I inherited many things as well as one very unique
ReplyDeleteold suit case in which I have all this. Yet I am going to get everything placed on CDs. I shall place a few more picture pending how the day goes.
It's a true one Theresa and I shall. I think that the best thing will be pending what I see when I make a visit there to them. I am sure that they are getting there rounds of calls from relatives and friends. Again thanks.
ReplyDeleteI am sure that they see it the very same as I do as your 50th well that is something as within these times some don't get past five years.
ReplyDeleteI shall take over my laptop and show them what I have done and I am sure they will be elated. I am grateful in how I was raised and I am
glad that these two are still around and are my parents and it's ironic you get to an age and you look at something and it does not take
you back in time ---- it does make one realize how fortunate one was. I would never wish to change one thing except my father's cancer.
But aside of that one got home after work and the other made sure we all were off to school.
Yes think the " Y " chromosone was dominant with me and my brother. Oh these two did date before hand. My father as mentioned offered to marry one lady that by accident had a child of his. Yet she declined, and then he went on and kept a secret from us kids (but not my mother). As well, he paid for all the schooling of this accident and not till 6 years ago did he appear on the scene. So he is my half brother but I don't really don't see him as a brother. My mother dated and almost accepted a proposal from a government leader by the name of Lorne McClaren but she said no and then on one night he she was a tad timid and a gent comes over and asks to have her hand to dance.
ReplyDeleteAs well, this was a trip that we made to come back to Canada to see the relatives and between these two
ReplyDeleteit's evident that there was something good going on as there he was looking at here and she was smiling.
Who knows what they were thinking then at that time during the late 60s. As we would come to visit every
two years this small town called Yorkton - and this picture was taken at my fathers sisters home. If I recall
correctly I was the one that was the designated one to take pictures.
Yet you could see that they were both in tune with each other. Then and now.
i really love this one photo. Look at your dad ... it's in his eyes, no words ... that looked says it all, Jack.
ReplyDeleteYeah it does that was so many years ago and today he had the very same smile when he knew what I had bought.
ReplyDeleteHe had that grin on his face and I told her and him not to open it till after there supper.
Beautiful Jack,
ReplyDeleteI made it to twenty years only before I bailed, It was not a great marriage and did well to last that long, sheer stubbornness I believe.
my parents made it to fifty I think they had their fifty first not sure my mum died either right before it or the year after. They had some rough times
in that marriage eight kids and as many miscarriages. I miss my mom!
I envy people who find it and get it right when it comes to love, it is not easy to keep it alive but if you are in tune with each others needs it is not a great chore for either partner
most of us are probably just lazy or is it that we really do not care enough?
I congratulate them on this day!
Happy 55th Anniversary to your Parents!! Jack.. This is such a wonderful piece of Sharing. Thank you!
ReplyDeleteThanks Nancy as last night was a supper get together (as well I have read all that you said). I can't say I am perfect nor can I say that I envy others.
ReplyDeleteYet yesterdays was a day that was worth the celebrating for the two of them and we did.
I think they could have separated or divorced, I don't really know but what I do know is that they have reached this height within all these years.
It seems like yesterday that they were celebrating twenty five years.
* I would think from this end that it's more of a combination of both caring as well as the art of companionship that does take on much.
Thanks again..
Thanks much Rashmi...
ReplyDeleteCongratulations to your parents and thanks for sharing their story . They are blessed
ReplyDeleteHappy belated anniversary "Dad and Mom"! 55 years is wonderful, and may they enjoy many more together. Times were different way back then, weren't they? Look at how time was spent with the parents, and the parents getting to know the youth. My father went from Catholic to Lutheran to marry my mom. Commitment is a key word, and learning to love each other even if things don't always go the way one wants it to. I'm very happy for your parents!
ReplyDeleteThank you I just arrived hom but thank you
ReplyDeleteThis one was different and I know what you talking about Nancy but here to to each
ReplyDeletetheir own. I think they just wished for a very simple thing.
Salaam brother!
ReplyDeleteCongratulations!
You've posted nice photos! May you all always be in peace!
Salaam brother!
ReplyDeleteCongratulations! May you all be well and happy!
And about privacy!
That's what we read about them these day on the news very often.
It is about people. When reading different blogs on the internet, it could be seen how different the definition of privacy could be for different people. Respecting them is the good way.
Thank you Faye, things were different back then. Those times were certainly different yet we learned from the past. Commitment seemed to be the key word. I thank you as I there are great recollections from that time. I guess that is why some people will say they are old school - yet really it's about what can be within today's times but I think there was much more placed into it back then Faye. I thank you as it was this last weekend. There are very fond memories and when as a family and I as a kid, I was unpacking things after all was done and I accidentally opened a box (we had moved back to Canada and I was just a kid) and well by accident I opened a box that were the love letters of my folks before they were married. I read for a little but as soon as opened them up I closed them so fast - I kid you not but here were too people connecting by mails to each other and this word "honey" was used so often.
ReplyDeleteBut yes those were times which were different than today and this is a times that I think there was more to getting married, maybe so maybe not.
Yet I thank you as it was a nice celebration and these two people seemed to make it work. Which is commitment at it's best.
I would never place on something that is privy to my folks, I maintain that with personal matters - I think most predominantly feel the same way Ali, thanks and it's been a while since seeing you here on Multiply but I thank you. This is my grandfather from my father's side.
ReplyDeleteThis here was my grandfather from my father's side. He is standing right next to the car that my father bought which was a Pontiac Bonneville. The place is at the homestead and it's rather neat when I opened, just today.
Your fortunate enough to still have the photo of your grand dad, Jack. And i thank you for sharing the beautiful love story of your mom and dad.
ReplyDeleteThank you Maritess. I hate it when I get on and I wish to remark back and then grab a juice, but thanks and it is.
ReplyDeletewhat is that that you hate about ...
ReplyDeleteJack ...
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ReplyDeleteI don't hate much Maritess so there you go...
ReplyDeletethat's a cute one. And very outstanding Jack... - 'grabbing a juice instead of a wine' when you feel not good. Only a fine gentleman would do that.
ReplyDeletei will. thanks much. you too. tight hugs.
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ReplyDeleteMaritess don't play that game, I am not one to buy it nor. So please do as you wish.
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ReplyDeletei don't understand what you are saying Jack. And i don't and will never play games much less put myself or others into a situations that I myself won't. I have so many things to do and think about and the last thing that i will do i is mess up with others peoples lives. Am happy with my own little world. And if i giving my comments, that's how feel. The only problem with me is that am being truthful in giving my thoughts to a fault not leaving anything for myself. again thank you.
ReplyDeleteI thank you from from the bottom of my heart. And Godbless. tight hugs.
My apologies then Maritess as recently within the last week, I have seen some friends that have been having some negative experiences. It's really not what it's about. I had a fine day and I hope you are doing well and look here we are already at thursday...
ReplyDeleteThere are so many people that are so interesting to read, my reflex was that there was a thought that I was drinking. I don't drink Maritess, I have been training so my apologies. As of recent I have seen some rather negative things which are within that negative context. I am not much into it. I enjoy this in the eve...
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ReplyDeleteBlessings and tight hugs. ~ maritess*