Friendships....by Silvia

I thoought this was truly worth posting I am not sure if she is on but I know there is a very good understanding with this very intellegent young lady. She knows who she is and I thought I would post what she had wrote as it's extremely intellegent and well it's worth the post....As well, as something to think about.

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Recent days I noticed some interesting human behavior. Not meant to criticism but in fact it made me learn more about life and friendship itself.

What we called a friendship? Friendship is the mutually cooperative and supportive behavior between two or more people. In this sense, the term connotes a relationship which involves mutual knowledge, esteem, affection, and respect along with a degree of rendering service to friends in times of need or crisis. Friends will welcome each other's company and exhibit loyalty towards each other, often to the point of altruism. Their tastes will usually be similar and may converge, and they will share enjoyable activities. They will also engage in mutually helping behavior, such as the exchange of advice and the sharing of hardship. A friend is someone who may often demonstrate reciprocating and reflective behaviors. Yet for some, the practical execution of friendship is little more than the trust that someone will not harm them. This one I got from Wikipedia. But is it all? I think it’s not as simple as this definition.

I just noticed my friends recent days and how they treat people around made me surprise. I just wondered with some kind of friendship behavior that I found and I don’t know why I didn’t realize this long time ago. I felt disappointed with some of my friends. Maybe because I trusted them as my friends and I always care with them and it’s a kind of respect I give in the friendship. But I don’t know why some people I met didn’t have these all? I have one best friend that close than another and she often shared her thought and her worried with me and I always be there for her and gave her some advices as best friend usually does. The friendship is ok until I realize recent days that in my bad time, she became so egoist and only thinking about herself, not mean to hoping the return I ever gave but where is her empathy. What is a friendship? I felt disappointed with her and it makes me open my eyes about her. She is not true and always said a good things in front of others which I think is not a good friend behavior. Now I understand what she ever told me before that why she difficult to found a lasting friend. Uh, let’s forget about her!

Also some of my intelligent friends, who you can share each other about work or global issues used to be very nice. We made friends for years and I also realize them long time ago that maybe not to close is better. They had habit to talked bad things about others behind (when the people they talked about is not there) which I don’t like at all. I think that don’t talk people bad behind is better if you do not want others to do the same things to you. They speak like a style not respect the small people (staff or even friends). You know, not everyone have an intelligence as good as yours, right. And I think that it’s not their mistake to don’t have such an intelligence, so why should speak not honor with others? Everyone have their own thinking and I know that if they also want us to hear them and understand about what they are thinking. If it’s not suitable us, we can advice them and try to give understanding and not by speak loudly with a not good voice as I heard just now. 

In fact, I also find another side of these people. They do have lot of friends! Sometimes they become so nice with others. Sometimes always try to sacrifice for other (I don’t know if she sincere or not) and some of them become near to other because need something (this one I know for sure!). The point why we made friends for years because I do not thinking much about them and because we are in the same environment, you can not just ignore them if you want to create a good environment. In other side, I don’t wish that I have a behavior like that and thanks God that I never be like that until now. I ever tried to talked about this to them but finally I think it's not a good idea.

I have another simple friends who I called best friends. We made friends since we were very young. Although they are not as intelligence as my friends above but I feel save and happy to made friend with them all. They are just so honest and sincere. We share for others and always care without any needed inside. If have something not good, we never talked behind. We said honestly and it makes the friendship lasting until now. No pretend and no gossip behind. Mostly of them married already and moved to another cities but we still contact and sharing each other. Sometimes when they went back hometown, we met together and they were the best moments of friendships. 

I agree with someone that said “Friends can find easily, but best friend who we can understand each other, respect, sharing, and available in every good or bad situation is the most difficult to find” and now I really get it and understand that maybe the first kind of friendship is not worth enough to being called best friends than the last one.

 

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