Tuesday, August 10, 2010

Memories and Purpose and then Some...

Memories combined with Purpose:

I have never wrote as much as I have today. As some of you may know I returned back here from Montreal, as well (I will say it), I am was raised within America and then have been here in Canada for around some 50 percent of my life. Purpose is that commodity that what ever it may be you are doing something the combination of memories and momentary purpose are intrinsic.

This is not a bad story, my father has been declining for sometime and when I arrived back here only by way of family was I told that his treatments have been stopped according to family here say. Today, I decided to get to the root of the matter and meet up with the Oncologist that has been treating him for some five years now. As we talked he could see that there was a situation at hand and the gp basically just wings it. So I felt the need to go right to the source rather than let this carry on for another month as he is declining probably due to the thought that he now facing his end. Mind you he is not in great shape but he has that determination. So what I found was that with regards to the type of treatment that he is receiving has not changed, the oncologist has placed him with another oncologist which now takes it to another level I suppose. After we talked and it's ironic how I have not been in the picture but when I met with Dr. Hadder, he immediately said that he is going to have his head nurse call my mother and that he is going to have him in. When I left I was glad as sometimes you have to be an advocate. And sometimes how my father has been so relied on - it's not as easy as it seems to do. I guess that comes down to families. The folks never want to "rock the boat" however, I don't rock it, I just know that everyone has that given right to know what is going on. So the area of cancer treatment and that he is at his tail end with cancer is all wrong. As well, I left with a handshake and within the next few days my father will be probably be admitted back into the hospital by the this Oncologist to whom really is the center of all that goes on which will lead to internal medicine again adjust his medication. There after, I went and indicated everything to my mother and then to him and there is hope. Now I know that it's a tedious task but that was my purpose for today and I just went about writing on here as it kept me occupied. Hence purpose.

Different Subject - Jealousy

You can't please everyone there is a friend of mine that I came to know about two years ago, I am not going to name names. She knows whom she is and there was this question of jealousy. I promised myself that I would not occupy too much of my time to blogging as I have some of my own things in which I have to tend to but what I find is that offline and online there will always be people that are jealous. Now the way I see it is in real life, there are those that will be jealous for what ever reasons and play those mind games yet then there are those that have convictions. One that has purpose is busy doing there own thing while some well you know what I mean and so often jealousy stems from the either misunderstandings, envy, arrogance, misunderstanding and so on. When I left off for a while I knew that there were postures and postulations going on. Recently there is one gent that has a term wrote on his blog, "I will Not tolerate disrespect here..Play nice or dismiss your self." Makes sense to me. I recall while I was in Montreal how SOME would cast you off as they were the old school french of Quebec. I saw it happen so many times with a few that although I was in a bilingual and predominantly english area, there would be some that would start up a discussion in English with me and then one would jump in and try to turn the entire conversation in French as they had no desire to have what the ASSUMED was a english speaking Canadian. Arrogance at it's best. I would just excuse myself and go about my own thing. However that does not make up all. Yet there will be division and I am no perfect on here but this friend of mine that hails from Germany is a forthright person, and it takes time to know really whom people are. For the longest we have had some division but I have never hated her, I just knew she wrote in a manner of her own. JUST LIKE MYSELF AND JUST LIKE YOU.

When people can open up the boundaries and understand precisely what a person is writing that is when there is a justice to what this is about. So it was a rather tedious day yet it had purpose and then some. I love to write and I certainly do hope this is of value and some consideration, especially the later part here. As simple as it is, I LOVE TO WRITE AND READ and I don't belong to any group right now as I love to write individually. I am not selling anything here I am just I guess writing within a dialogue which I intended to do earlier and I literally don't want everyone on my blog yet there are some rather interesting bloggers on here to say the least.

This is an arena in which we all find of interests, but within a level minded interest. It does make sense to me and I hope to you as well.

So it's been a "me" kind of day and there is a merit within this write as you can't please all, you CAN have differences and commonalities as it's all within the manner of life. Peace and enjoy it for there have been some pretty good things within this modern age of "computing on the go". People will be people and with that said, I read a blog today that said, "I CAN".

Take that time to read and gain an understanding of those which can be good friends. I think it's worth it...maybe you do as well.

 

 

9 comments:

  1. Hey we are friends ... are we[?] laughs*

    All of us must have that "me" in us. That is the space we all need. But it is different when one writes goes personal pinpointing one's life. That i can never tolerate.
    Anyhows, I always read your writes and you knew that. And no matter how busy I am, I always find time, even in the wee hours. Your writes has always been my fave, Jack. ... sometimes it gives me some thoughts to ponder, and I even loved it more when you touch something about your life, a very humane attitude. And I do laugh sometimes too.
    I hope your father would still stay with you for some more years, and so is your mom.
    tight hugs :)

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  2. The only thing one needs to remember when one writes ... that one is writing for oneself. As long as we please ourself with our words, those who enjoy and relate to it too are the added bonuses!!
    Jealousy is is a strange emotion for me .... I personally cannot understand it!! We are all individual and different and rather than be jealous of someone one should rather enjoy the gifts of another. Jealousy is a weakness in my eyes .... its a negative. I tend to just walk away from those sort of situations because there is no way on this earth I am ever going explain or justify myself to another .... and there is no way I am going to allow another to pass judgement upon me.

    I sincerely hope your father responds well to his treatment ... at least with hope ... there is a good chance ~huggs~

    Sincerely hope that your father is

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  3. I have enjoyed reading your Blog, sensible writing and insight. I too wish your Father well with the onset of new treatment. The giving of hope is a wonderful inspiring thing. Hope can move mountains, ok not literally but with a certain strength that comes with it.
    Sometimes getting to the person dealing with a situation and taking control is a very positive thing, you may have had a connection with the Doctor and having this is always helpful moving things forward.

    I dont suffer from jealousy, I understand how it can manifest itself.
    taking everyone on face value and also taking the time to know what makes then tick, what wonders lie within, who could be jealous, we are all amazing in our own right. some people just have to see it.

    Love your Blog, will wait in anticipation for the next.

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  4. "I literally don't want everyone on my blog"

    Me neither. Over 6 billion readers and their comments? I couldn't handle that. :-)))

    All the best for your dad.

    I try to remember and act upon core values--love, forgiveness, peace-making, remembering our individuality and trying to transcend culture.

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  5. Thanks Lynne, he shall and it's good that this is settled now. He is a stage 4 as you know and we are not buying time but everyone has been so stressed out and to see the man - well that was my main thing to do was find out the reality of things and all that is going on. He does not get the typical chemo, he will get every six months an aspirine small type of chemo as his immune system can't take it and then some antigen cocktail, this keeps his immune system up and he has switched from the ordinary type of chemo therapy to this some two years ago. So it's worked but I think as once done before that when this all takes place he will be sent to the the specialists of internal medicine. As yesterday enough was enough - to know as I thought I did, well it's all explained above. Thanks much.....as he shall....and I have a few things to take care of for myself which I have not mentioned my legs are and have been a problem I used to run an hour and a half every morning and right now and as well while in Quebec, even before that I have seen it get worse and worse. So I am awaiting to see the rheumatologist that injected a cushion of sorts within my two knees as I am bone against bone right now but this too shall pass.
    Jealousy, there are people that love ya, and there are people that hate you. I wrote this after seeing what a friend had wrote and I could understand it all to well. I think people (some) do. But for all the wrong reasons. But so be it online and offline I remember a mentor of mine telling me the higher one climbs the ladder the more others will actually look forward to the fall. But the way I see it is one can sit and live according to everyone, or one can live there life according to what they aspire to do.

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  6. Thanks Karen, I look forward to reading yours as well. I know several specialists here by way of being appointed as medical next of kin by my father when he had his first cancer that nearly killed him some ten years ago. And I literally wished to be a doctor thereafter but now as I see it. Now I have an entirely different point of view. Not knowing or not knowing right from the source is taxing to say the least. To know regardless of what the outcome is - is really the most un stressing thing. To know something is to be able to process and accept it and move along. So we shall see how things go. Thanks much and it's nice to have some new folk on here to be frank.

    Jealousy is really all that you have stated, even on here there are people that can be. But I find that all too often people judge as we do live within an age of image. But it's life, one can have differences, yet not resort to anger and I do hope that she did have the chance to read this as she even the between the two of us we have had differences, yet we have always reconnected. A good one to you there today it's early still, and it's getting lighter since I was up and about it. And this is a foggy day to say the least. Yet purpose as mentioned, one has to keep busy. I look forward to reading yours as well and I do write but I do read as well.

    I can stand to be corrected but say hello to Scotland, your country for me.

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  7. I am not one to judge but I can't nor could handle it yet if you noticed I am starting to write to everyone. Yet I do like a foundation of good friends, and I love the read and writes and you know as well as I that I came back from Montreal and right now I have some "doing" to be done. I don't know if your on right now DJ, but do celebrate Ramadan? I sensed that within your write yesterday.

    Regardless it's all good.
    Ironic that you have brought that up with regards to core values and next week I am starting a session for a month in which all this does come about. Ironic that you bring this up, and thanks with regards to my father.

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  8. I like those 2 words. Nice to focus on what we can do and take the steps needed to accomplish goals. Those are positive things, and positive drives out the negative ..I probably need to read over this when I'm not so tired. It's been an tiring but productive day . Wishing you and your family all the best .

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  9. Thank you Cheryl it came from one persons blog by the name of Karyn whom is from Scotland. When I saw the title I knew it was something really interesting. Wishing you the best as well. These indeed are the positive things here it's been productive as I finally have all in place now for myself and the beginning of work on my knees so I am glad about that as well I just received a call with regards to my old man/father and he will be going into the hospital with one specialist on the 19th, and well better late than never.

    A long but good day!

    ~ I CAN~ kinda equates to ~ WHY NOT ~

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