Thankyou Maryann - True Friendship....

A few days ago after reading this a friend by the name of Maryann gave me the allowance to post this and I found that it does have great meaning...

 

 

A true true friend is someone who will be with you in all your good and bad times even if it hurts his/her interests. A true friendship does not demand something in return and accepts you with all your shortcomings. Sometimes, it is not possible to be in touch with the friend but it does not mean that it is the end of the friendship. A true friendship is a relationship which is ALWAYS alive immaterial of the fact that you are talking to each other on an everyday basis or not. It is just that mental connection that two people build and always feel secure. You know that your friend is always there whenever you need him/her.

The main ingredients for this kind of friendship are trust, faithfulness, loyalty, and a willingness to communicate thoughts, and feelings.  In true friendship, there are no negative thoughts, no backbiting, and no turning away. It is a relationship, which needs simple selfless and altruistic feelings. We can make many friends, but we will make few true friends.

True friends encourage and support each other during the time of struggle.  True friendship also demands forgiveness. If one friend has done something, which is against the friendship, a true friend will listen, and forgive. Just remember, true friendship is to keep alive forever, but only if you want to. Sometimes, misunderstandings do happen between two friends, but if the friendship is true, and you really care about each other, the words to a great song should come to mind:  "We can work it out!"  :)

And then, of course, there's me!  lol! I know that I am much too sensitive - forever taking things too personal, not knowing where I stand with a friend, and spending waaaay too much time thinking about it.

Yet, being thin-skinned has its positives and negatives. One positive for sure—knowing what hurts my feelings, makes me more sensitive about repeating any behaviors that could do the same to another.  For my friends that truly know my heart, if I ever have hurt your feelings, you would know that I certainly didn't mean to.  Friends may sometimes hurt friends, but the test of true friendship is a sincere desire to forgive one another.    Hurt feelings can be something very real, and may be caused by something as simple as a miscommunication.  It doesn’t matter, because it’s all painful.  Having your feelings hurt is a physical response that stuns you.  It feels like a punch to the belly.

Yet, there is a simple cure. It's the apology that is given and felt straight from the heart. However, first you must let your friend know that something he/she did, or said, has hurt you. It's one of the hardest things to do. Nobody wants confrontation. And that's why it's so difficult to let our friends know when they've hurt us.   But, always remember, a true friend is happy when you're happy,  smiles when you smile, and hurts when you hurt.  That's what friends do!

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"True friendship is like sound health; the value of it is seldom known until it be lost."

-         Charles Caleb Colton