My folks have been hospitalized ....and that is the way it is...So couple to that I called a few relatives yesterday. It's rather something but I would like to leave it there as what can one do. My father is very stubborn. I am no kid here and my mother was going downwards I used to take pictures in the most tragic of times but I don't have it in me as it's just as within family.
So my small vent and the intention of getting on here is to enjoy. I have met with a few friends and then placed out calls to my relatives and it's amazing the dysfunction that was always there underlying within my family especially within on my father's side. I am not down as I knew that was a day in coming but at the same times sometimes one wishes to keep it all to themselves.
Yet you do reach out in a good manner to a few and that is basically it. So that is my expression and I shall just leave it at that.
So each person is different within her and I find that to express something is not all that back.
My expressions after four days..
I feel your pain...been there...enjoy your time spent here...I think we all have dysfunction in our families, some of us more than others but it seems to be everywhere...take care Jack.
ReplyDeleteI hope you enjoy your time on here. {{hugs}} Sorry, can't hang around tonight. Have to work in the morning so going to bed early.
ReplyDeleteDanette I agree probably another day would be best to write on this but I do thank you and you are so very right.
ReplyDeleteThanks GG, I have just been walking around on how to write this but well my brother will be out here within time and that
ReplyDeleteshall be good...hey I am human...and never within denial. I enjoy writing and sharing with friends in these areas.
.that was a hard Task for you ..but the best ,,you could do......for both of them...we are all human and react differently..you can only do ..your Best!!![[hugzxs]] for you:)
ReplyDeleteMy family is the ultimate in dysfunction... from divorce to incest. So I understand. ((Hugs))
ReplyDeleteIt will be OK you do what you can do and need to do within your means and then you rest as you are able. Peace
ReplyDeleteCherly your something....
ReplyDeletethis is like a triple whammy to you right now, right after your accident and then both of your parents having to go to the hospital. you did what you could and that is all that you can do. I am glad to hear that your brother is coming and you will both have someone to lean on together. take care of yourself and I wish you and your family the very best.
ReplyDeleteI could expand on that..
ReplyDeletemy thoughts are with them as well as you my friend
ReplyDeleteOn to other things and I thank you....yeah...
ReplyDeleteAwwww! (((((((((JACK)))))))))
ReplyDeleteMike I think you know what I mean and it's not been a typical things and I love writing on other things.
ReplyDeleteby hospital do you mean that they are ill or in what we call here assisted living?---dysfunction is only a word used to explain why none of us are like the television shows of the 1950's---it does take courage to admit that all is not perfect---but with that courage comes the liberation of truth and within truth we find inner joy and honesty----si?
ReplyDeletemy thoughts and preayers are with you Jack.big hugs to ya too.try to relax and enjoy your weekend.
ReplyDeleteThey are very ill both of them. There is consideration for him to be placed in a home now and dysfuntion yes I know it well and I don't really care as I was not raised with them all. "With courage come libertion" yet honesty is the best method of honesty.
ReplyDeleteDon't know you but I saw this an' stopped in with ((hugs)) and blessings on alla you...
ReplyDeleteParrie I shall and if there is one great thing in all of this there is a very great person that helped me out and that is coming back to you in spades. I promise.
ReplyDeleteIt's not easy writing with regards to family..yet that is me.
You must be Terri's friend and thank you.
ReplyDeleteYes, Jack, Martha's my friend!
ReplyDeleteBest Wishes.
ReplyDeleteMy thoughts an prayers have been an will continue. I'm happy you are here for r&r and that you are writing. Xxx
ReplyDelete.its a role reversal ..in the falily .we gradually become accustomed..not easy :)
ReplyDeleteThanks well one can't focus on this but I wish to write a little.
ReplyDeleteYeah...but it's a part of life..
ReplyDeleteIt's certainly not easy. I found it hard to deal with my parents illness as well, especially when you have to deal with relatives who are prickly at the best of times. As you say, all you can do Jack is reach out and then leave it at that.
ReplyDeleteYeah .. I know Doug..hope to move on from this now and right now the Beatles the Television...
ReplyDeleteSounds like a nice diversion from care. :-)
ReplyDeleteYep you can't fixate on this.
ReplyDeleteSo true,
ReplyDeletehugsss! hope you get some rest and take care of yourself as well!
ReplyDelete*Hug* my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
ReplyDeleteThanks...gosh one is off for a few days and you know you tend to forget some names but thanks...
ReplyDeleteLOL! You forgot me?
ReplyDeleteI have great faith in your resilience and your ability to forge ahead and cope with anything our Lord may ask of you. Alleluia.
ReplyDeleteKaryn thanks and shall be over tomorrow we all do and we all would....
ReplyDeleteNo, I just so often go by way of the images and when off for a tad I will forget I am human and no disrespect intended..
ReplyDeleteI had a feeling you might be going through something difficult. I wish you all the best. Just do what you can, your duty so to speak and let the rest flow, the others are responsible for themselves once they have been informed.
ReplyDeleteWe share perhaps that reluctance to post the difficult personal things such as grief.
Last night yes DJ....I was tired and I had been on the go and I think that one often is better in being able to write about something after it's surpassed but thank you for the understanding...So I expect my brother in this Sunday or when ever that takes place...but for me I had the I just got up here as it's early very early in fact and I had my first very restful sleep....I will write on this as an update. My grief has been that this was far too long let go, nearly six months ago my father took a fall and my mother tried to lift him up now this medication that she was placed on made called Hydro Morphine - was from a very young doctor right out of university - where as there family doctor is from South Africa has lived here a long time but unfortunately he had to go back to South Africa as his his own folks or one had passed on. So my grief was that my mother was as well as could be till placed on this medication for six weeks I had wanted to take here into emergency.....but now we shall see.
ReplyDeleteI have gone through something myself but I am working passed it and now my car is resolved, and the other things :) > put together with spare parts! :)
There is a reason for everything that happens. Somewhere in this there will be an answer and a comfort. Good thoughts to you my friend.
ReplyDeleteI'm always with you through prayers Jack ... knowing you are there for both your parents in these trying times shows how you were brought up by your mom and dad. You're truly a wonderful son.
ReplyDeletePlease don't dwell too much on that dysfunctional thing, Jack ... we all have that in our family one way or the other. Its given. There's no perfect relationships, but we have to adjust for us to be able to lived in a harmonious relationship with our loved ones. I know how difficult these days for you having two parents to cared for ... while you are alone yourself. But please keep in mind that everything has a reason why it happened or happening. Tight hugs. maritess*
... smiles* now please ... and don't put yourself in a very stressful situation, it will pass. :)
Oh I do know that and I just arrived home, I have placed down the camera with all things and from groceries, and so on Jim it's all within how one looks at things.
ReplyDeleteJim your a good man.
Tess not I just got through believe it or not cleaning and all and I think and well it's Saturday and tomorrow I shall go up if my brother as I expect my brother and well - I have been here before but not with both only with my father and well - what comes about is only by way of knowing how things are and one can not get all down and out over this.
ReplyDeleteI shift it and literally find that source within me and the one way to beat stress of this nature is faith and keeping busy...
There are really some very good people on here and I don't take it for granted - literally.
So don't mind me if I express now and then as it's a good thing to do for the mind body and soul. So it's noon here I ate and just thought I would log on - my I never thought all this would come into play but I don't hang onto it....if anyone has PBS - Wayne Dyer has been on.
Hello my friend, I am sorry to hear this. I will pray for them both. It is especially hard when family arent to coperative. Bless you for looking after your parents.My thoughts and prayers are with you. hugs Brenda
ReplyDeleteThank you Brenda..
ReplyDeleteThat's want I want to hear from you Jack. But if you wanna' shed a tear or two do it ... its your dad and mom ... warmth hugs from me ...
ReplyDeleteLast night I did get over tired and I will be honest I had a call from my brother and he is not coming from St. Alberta, Alberta. So that hit me coupled with my mother's situation but one thing....I said as I am and the one thing is that at this age you can not fall. I have one cousin that when his mother especially passed on and last night I was in that stinky thinking.........I can shed a tear, and I have but I do carry on from all this. I have a cousin that he went from being a very good and has a few albums out - a country singer and then it's been two years now that all he does is walk streets and will not get psychiatric help.
ReplyDeleteThat is not me, but I believe in expression. I do in life....not in front of everyone but yeah I do and actually last night I was and turned this machine off - but yet I can smile and well that is just me....
Am sorry to hear you brother couldn't come ... but why its your mom and dad ... he must have a very urgent reasons only him knows. Take it as it is Jack ... we can never tell. He might be experiencing some personal problem too like everyone else. Your cousin really needs help. Where are his family. How about extending some help to him Jack ... he needs it very badly, you could still save him given the proper attention.
ReplyDeleteYep, with all these problems that are besetting your life now ... look up the sky and pat your shoulder and yeah ... smile. That is life ... this is life. Hugs. maritess*
A new day it is....
ReplyDeletesorry to hear this, you've had a tough time of late, but sounds like you're keeping your chin up. Hoping the best for you and yours, will keep you in my thoughts. hugs and smiles
ReplyDeleteIt's life....and thanks. Par Ardua Ad Astra...
ReplyDeleteI'll say a prayer , Jack.
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