Sunday, December 20, 2009

Obligations during the Season

Obligation has many sides to it we do what we deem fit. And I am not sure it that is obligation or if it's something on just does. I met with my folks with the hospital and I just arrived home just an hour ago. One will go through many feelings and then come to understand it once they find that center of what they are and whom they are. So here it's that time of the year and I can honestly say that I am starting to come to terms with it all. Of course on is human and it can be very trying but you just carry on. I am in that state of being if you will that I am comfortable with it all and in some manner perhaps that is from something within. I have not had the time to take any pictures today as it's been a busy day. For myself there merits of life are those in which we choose. Hence, the glass is half empty of the glass is half full.

It's the option of the person to render the best of what can be rather than what can't be. In no manner am I feeling down with regards to this one has to just realize their own foundation and carry on. As that is what life is. I will be going back into the hospital tomorrow to once again speak with specialists. And these professionals are truly doing there best and it's very good health care I may add.  So you just place in the cadence and carry on in a manner the fits your own way. I thing that falls into the category of rendering the true independence of ones own being.
Over the last three days I have been fortunate to have some old family friends calling from primarily New York as I have always kept in touch with all of them as I literally was raised with them and one really can't just do it on there own. It's all within the spirit of the season and then some. Certainly I feel obliged to tend to these medical family matters, but at the same time the manner the manner I am dealing with them are within a cadence if you will. What may lay in the outcome I am not sure but this is were one really renders the best of there most inner self. So within the day it's been what one would call a busy one but at the same time you render the best of your own self without burning out. I think that is all within cadence. Certainly I do feel fine with everything and if I was to say I feel perfect with the situations that have been going on I would certainly be in denial. I know there will come a day that I can look back on this and see it all from a very different vantage. In the meantime, I have talked with a few friends of mine as well as have found that there are others that are going through the very same thing within their own families as well so you place it all up on a "mental" bookshelf and come back to it the next day and one does carry on.

Certainly I never expected so many things to come about during such a short period of time but where there is hope and acceptance there is always something good that does come out of it all. I think it all comes down to how one handles things is within sync with there own inner harmony if you will. Everyone seemingly handles things in different manners. However, I have come to realize that this could be taking place at any given time of the year.

24 comments:

  1. always harder to deal with such things during the holidays and more often than not it is the season that these things happen! hang in there! hugsss!

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  2. I think that I have come to some resolve with it all Arrielle as it's not holding me back now. I literally have found back that dynamic of thought that it could be at anytime. Some I have seen in the hospital very upset but at the same time when I walk out I find that I let it all go and really that is how I am dealing with this. So it's actually as good as can be but looking forward to reading a writing after I get some lasagna out of the microwave....truly, and thanks.

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  3. My Dear , you are carrying a heavy burden with both parents in the hopital i will for sure keep you in my prayers, this is what i am seeing every day with my alzheimers patient , his one and only daughter having to deal with losing her dad to alzheimers and then death, This is taking a toll on me, i can just imagine what his daughter is feeling, you are ceretainly in my prayers,,

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  4. I know what you're feeling right now Jack. Yes, acceptance if i may say so is the best armour at the moment ... just carry on ... and ... let it go, my tight hugs.

    By the way, my Lasagna is righ in the oven right now ... gosh! Can't believe your eating lasagna at this moment. Please keep that smile, whatever happens.

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  5. It's good that you have family and friends to lean on and keeping the glass half full is the best thing to do ...and taking one day at a time is all you can do......

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  6. ,some--things we just have to accept ..and cope the best way we can

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  7. I BURNED THE BOTTOM OF MY LASAGNE-----we ate it without the bottom layer----a day early as the solstice is truly when we sit as family but tonight we are mostly here so we ate........................we take the moments as they are amigo---si?

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  8. Yes it could. I'm glad to see you in a spot you are comfortable with. {{hugs}}

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  9. Actually it's fine, I thank you but I literally just place it away and leave it be and for some reason I have rendered something that I have before and I am not in denial but it's something that is just happening right now one every person takes it differently and I find that I have come back into that mindset, but Silvia I do thank you. And as well prayers go out to you there.

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  10. Exactly Maritess, I am just going with the flow and to keep thinking on it does not give way to anything but to carry on with my own life while accepting this is something I found and came to realize a few years back - so I am good and the lasagna was as well. It's all within how I decide to deal with it now and I am doing actually very fine. And I am not frowning. Actually I wish later today I could have got out and took some pictures but c'est la vie.

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  11. Julie you would be amazed with how many friends I have that are like family that reside in NY. That coupled with some here as well as a hospital that is tremendous as I know so many of them by now it's all working out fine. But truly, I have been getting calls from friends that are like family that I was raised with back in NY and for me that is fine, but there is a time I will turn off the phone and just do my own thing.
    Why not - it can wait till tomorrow.

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  12. Yeah very much so Caroline, I found that when this was all happening it was really getting to me but now when I left today there is a story of when I came back to Canada and at some time I will right on it but we all have a variety of things that happen and this is Christmas. So I am going to enjoy it within my own manner and acceptance is the key and I am not all bent over with this as I am starting to become adjusted to it if you will. Tomorrow I go back in and talk to the doctors - for now I leave it all up on that "mental bookshelf" if you will. You can pull it out when you wish too or you can place it back as one deems best.

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  13. Si you know my written spanish is not as good as it used to be so I will say that you heat it up to 450 degrees and then just enjoy! We do take it as it comes si. ROLF

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  14. GG I am in that zone. It's hard to explain in a small amount of words. But I am not down and out over this. But I wish to write tonight and it's actually a great thing. I was hoping to have a song done over the weekend believe it or not for this time of the year but I didn't have the chance but this is that time of the year yet it could be any given month yet I will enjoy it and am very comfortable within my own shoes.

    How is your weather? The entire East Coast in United States and Canada were hit very bad this weekend. Here we don't get that kind of climate structure but I remember it very well from when I lived in Toronto as well as in NY.

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  15. Times like this I find that having a wonderful circle of family and friends is a true treasure. Take one day at a time Jack.

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  16. Thanks Kelly it's all fine...and your very right and I am going to read but this has been ongoing so I am getting used to it, well I think you know what I mean. Thanks all the same and going to look outside and see if we have snow here as has been taking place on the eastern coast of the US and Canada. A circle there is a thought from which to write on.

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  17. I wish you the very best this Christmas and I hope that you will be able to spend some fun time with friends as well as taking care of your parents. You are right, life does go on and so one must take care of themselves in such a time of hardship. {{hugs}}

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  18. Oh I shall Suzy. I am just enjoying the variety of writes...

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  19. Things come up so unexpectedly in life. The last couple years here have been especially difficult . I have kept a few things packed in a suitcase in case of emergency so many times when I have had bad reports from home with my parents health. If the phone rings late at night or early morning the first thought I have is to wonder what is happening. I like what you wrote about hope and acceptance. There are things beyond our power to change as much as we may like to so we just do the best we can. No one knows what a day may hold so it's best to hold on to the joy that one can find and care about the people around us whom we can encourage in some way. When things look bleak hope will shine a light and make it easier to go on with life. We can find the strength we need as needed but it's best not to fret about the future..prepare for perhaps the best we can but worries are not good for anyone. Have a good night rest well

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  20. Your so right Cheryl and within it all all you can do is be prepared and at the same time hold on to ones own things that they find precious. I am going to hit the hay in about an hour or two and but tomorrow it tomorrow and I truly have realized how to find that as I am sure many have I have been reading a few blogs and there are some that Christmas brings several things with. I remember just a while ago working shifts within the Airport and being on the tarmac and well, it was from a distance and within a call I would be there but this is different, but you find the most in what can be. I believe in Christmas but I find that some that I have read are very exhausted over this season. Perhaps we something abundant is within everyday. Just a thought...

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  21. Fortunately, this storm has pretty much gone around Michigan. A few areas got about 12 inches last week but here where I am I have only maybe 2-3 inches in my yard. The temp has been hovering around 30F. It has been a light winter so far, thankful for that.

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