I am not sure about you but I literally go by way of choice with whom I add on my blog. I have found this to be tremendous and I just logged back on here and I had 9 invites that were sent to me. Now they could all be very great people. I love the array of people from which seemingly are very varied. And it's very enjoyable that way. Right now I am up to 100 people and really I don't wish to have many on my blog. The reason is that you can only get to so many other blogs and write to those that you have. The second reason is that I do believe in faith all do, but here again I enjoy writing without it being based on one particular thing. So perhaps this one old friend that had a group or was part of one had good intentions but from all areas and walks of life I really do enjoy writing with. So you hate to delete and you hate to confirm and I am not anti christian but I am pro choice in several ways. So for those that are recently on my blog please don't push, I do write within this area of values and beliefs but here again I don't wish to have my blog up to 200 people again I love it right where it is right now as I can write and not have only one area/subject that is appearing within my inbox. There are a few that do know what I mean and just recently I had 9 people sent to me and I think that we do choose whom we wish to invite. I am not sure about you but that is the way that I do it.
Selectiveness might be a better word rather than particular.
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ReplyDeleteHi Jack...Always like reading your blogs because you write what you feel...(smile)
ReplyDeleteI literally look at what the person writes and then take it from there and I am please to have the variety here as it is now.
ReplyDeleteI do, I don't want to get real large and Julie I really enjoy keeping up with you and everyone that is on here now. I did get 9 invites and they all are faith based and there is nothing wrong with that but I like diversity. Before all of this with my family I was writing and doing as I wished and enjoying everyone else as well you can't get to everyone but I will never get my blog up to 200 again. It's work and this is not work it's enjoyment and then some within a variety of thoughts and so on.
ReplyDeleteAnd smiles as well - it's what makes the world go around - smiling :) yet honest.
Jack, if you are feeling guilty about just saying NO, don't be. If you don't want to have too many contacts then just say no. or ignore, delete. You don't have to answer to anyone but yourself. :)
ReplyDeleteI went for a 50/50 split and see what happens...not guilty.
ReplyDeleteI keep trying to make my contact list smaller, Jack, but it doesn't always work. Do what you can!
ReplyDeleteTerri it's done and now I am heading outside and going to look into the stars if they are out and then come back and write.
ReplyDeleteare you going to make a wish upon a star? :)
ReplyDeleteNo I like to just go outside on the porch and look up into the stars and sky :)
ReplyDeletedo you have a smoke while outside? I know many people who do that, they won't smoke in their house so they go outside and have a smoke.
ReplyDeleteit's been a long time since I have wished upon a star, but I think the next time I am out at night I will do such a thing, it can't hurt! :)
ReplyDeleteAdmission I used to smoke and I gave it up five years ago...
ReplyDeleteI really just like it so often I find that while the weather still prevails it's just nice.
ReplyDeletegood for you, I wish I could.
ReplyDeleteBack then all I did was carry a bottle of water with me....literally.
ReplyDeleteto quit smoking?
ReplyDeleteComes down to this....if you want to bad enough you will. It's as simple as that Suzie.
ReplyDeleteyeah, I know...........ugh.......sigh...........
ReplyDeleteI'm just glad you let me hang around. It's my pleasure to be among your online friends..
ReplyDeleteCharles and likewise!
ReplyDeleteParticular or judgmental ?I don't push my beliefs on anyone but maybe as a Christian we should as the world is going to hell and no one says anything except that they are something but stand for nothing.Pro choice of what ? If you post this out there anyone can read it so anyone can comment so I did.Merry Christmas by the way !
ReplyDeleteBut you just did...
ReplyDeleteOne never has to push I feel that there is a manner that we all can write and I feel that what we hold close within all areas of what we do within our lives is something that is truly something that is of a variety. From all areas and corners of the world. I have that right to delete and block on here and I am keeping this to friends and seemingly you will get all sorts I am glad to have whom I have on here and I sometimes think that we do contradict ourselves as we are human. I had 9 from a group and as I just had company and saw this I believe that a the world is not going to hell. If we all thought this way we would create something that is far from pleasant. And so I am all for freedom of speech but at the same time. I think it's really as simple as that...regardless of faith, creed, color we all have our own ways and I am not into fanatics online. I stand firm with this one.
ReplyDeleteThis is about enjoyment and exchanges.
i get pervs sending invites daily; am extremely particular about who i add!
ReplyDeleteI quit in 1985 and it was one of the hardest things I've ever done
ReplyDeleteThe above was a set up I could see it within the stream...
ReplyDeleteI sometimes get random invites and I very rarely accept. Mostly I have friends of friends like you... *smile*
ReplyDeleteYeah I think a better word would have been selective but and now I am going to read a few and as well maybe get in one more write.
ReplyDeleteThere do seem to be some new (dare I say younger?) Multiply users coming on board??? Not sure why...
ReplyDeleteI agree before adding someone, determining some common ground is a reasonable thing. Adding names just for the sake of having a greater number on ones "Friends" list seems a bit juvenile.
I had some visitors and well there was a few things that took place when I came back to look at this and I do like this diversity and as well I think we all do have common grounds and different times and all. I was way up there back one year ago and I really don't wish to have that as I like to write and then visit others pages as well. And as well I see there you got some snow. I never thought you ever did down there, as here it's cold but it's still nice. We can't really see each other on here but within the words it's all good. And yes there are and then there is an entourage of other areas - but I still do believe within the writes. I really look before I add and I don't go and send 9 people to another as was the case here tonight yet who is to say...
ReplyDeletethat's really weird, for a while there were a bunch of spammers, leaving comments on my poetry and such. The nerve of those people, just dropping links everywhere!
ReplyDeleteLiberal myself smiling
ReplyDeleteLiberal naw! :)
ReplyDeleteI am kidding....
ReplyDeleteYou have to hate it when you have callers from all over and never leaving a message and be darned if I am calling back to all these area codes! Not kidding so there :)
ReplyDeleteJust opened my inbox and guess what ... there's a lady asking where is this fine gentleman, gosh ... am here thousands of miles away from Canada. Can't figure that out why! Of all the people why me ...
ReplyDeleteBeing on someones friendliest, is NOT among the human rights. Just refuse those you don't know, and also those who don't communicate with you, and you will end up with a great bunch of people who really want to stay in touch with you. It's not a big problem, as I see it.
ReplyDeleteI've been deleted ... I've been accepted ... I've followed my 'gut' ... and I've sometimes chosen haphazardly. Bottom line is that you never truly know someone until you know someone. This takes time and trust is a tricky issue. No worries. Ultimately we end up making the right decisions. Go with the peaceful flow and listen attentively to that little voice. Have a wonderful day Jack! :)
ReplyDeleteI usually go with that " gut" feeling of who to accept or not.I haven't been accepting any more contacts as I have so many and would like to enjoy the contacts that I have without stretching for time..Just follow your instincts Jack and choose who you want to have as a contact.Have a great day and stay warm...( your weather temps.are f-f-freezing) :-)
ReplyDeleteI don't accept everyone that sends invitations either. I have about the same number as you have 115 but there are about a 3rd of them probably more I never hear anything from. I think no matter where your list gets to in numbers you'll still have a small number that remain close.
ReplyDeleteThere's really a very small percentage I communicate with on a regular basis and I am enriched by the friendship
ReplyDeleteVery similar to myself and yet I love the variety Cheryl and I do go by gut instincts or is it intuition I don't know. I will give you an example in a very genderless manner. There is a very fine writer named Rashmi, yourself, some from the past of earlier day and then each and everyone I love to write along with and I certainly do trust as I will read before I add - don't you remember how we met, I was reading someone that was very creative had a great way. It's the same with many. There is a Carol from Ireland, there is Frank from Malaysia, Frani from Georgia, there is Doug, Mike, Maggie, GG, DJ, Hiedi, Tess, Susy, Susan, Grey, Karyn, Terri, Brenda, Silvia, Susan - Susan seems to be a very common name and literally it's been grand. Cinn, I forget the name of one person from Chile, Parrie, Peeks, Lettie, Terri, Jimi, and Arielle. I can't write all the names but it's truly tremendous...and then some. And for the most part how did I come to be conected with them was by way of just reading and then adding as there was value....and of recent there are some oldies that were in a group but it's all good. Certainly I do have some that I find truly amazing with what they write. Dannette come to mind from Florida and well it is what it is and then there is this myself as a person not a group.
ReplyDeleteAnd I LOVE IT.
Oh, a serious subject. From the title, I was thinking yes I am very particular and selective about my chocolate. :-)
ReplyDeleteI try to stay in a frame of mind of acceptance (because that has to do with universal love and not judging), but I also look at the person's blog. If they don't post or what they do post seems to go along lines I do not wish to follow, then I don't accept their invitation. Many of my connections here are not posting regularly. I don't "live" on the net, so I may miss some posts, but I generally try to read my friend's posts, particularly when it is their own writing. I rarely have time to watch recommended Youtubes.
When we share things we feel strongly about, it may be difficult to find that balance so that it isn't pushy. I do not expect my friends to say yes, yes, unless that's how they really feel.