Of communication and not as a substitute for Action
Have you ever been with someone, having a conversation, and all at once you realize that their responses have nothing to do with what you just said? It is as if they didn't hear you at all. In fact, you can be quite sure that while you were talking the other person was not listening, but rather formulating their next statement and waiting for you to take a breath so they could jump in.
Have you ever been with someone, having a conversation, and they listen as if you were the only person in the world who ever spoke? Instead of jumping in with a response, they listen, process what you say, wait, and then respond. Their response tells you that you were really heard.
Once we learn to be more fully present with ourselves, in this moment, we are better able to be fully present to others...
And i am that one your reffering to at this exact moments Jack. Because my mind is thinking of something with regards to what am opening. It's giving me a big problem because my cook can't be with me for some immediate family reasons ... and am opening up on the 3rd of March.
ReplyDelete... hope you feel better. ok ... hugs
I have a card near my desk...a sign sort of thing. It says "Listening is Being There."
ReplyDeleteThis was wrote by way of a friend in Georgia who had lupus and went on to do some tremendous
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running that as well as writing books. I pulled it out of the vault as Linda was tremendous
in bring things together.
It is a nice piece. Glad you brought it out of the vault.
ReplyDeletevery good thoughts and repost, Jack. yes, I have had this done to me and I am guilty of it as well and on the other hand I have been there to listen with full attention.
ReplyDelete..especially...when thoughts ..turn into words...and then Actions...good blog..[[hugs]]
ReplyDeleteThis is a lesson I am in the middle of teaching my son, who ironically has a degree in communications and is getting his masters.
ReplyDeletethat is true..
ReplyDeletedefinately...hugs back.
ReplyDeletePam, I think that one can be as educated as they are but there what I have found is the most learned or wise
ReplyDeleteare those that predominantly have learned it within the experience within life. Yet everyone has there own
learning curvy. :)
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Just back on here and Nancy she was tremendous in how she could write things and the thoughts really are valid.
ReplyDeleteIt's easier for others to understand me than for me to understand them. Maybe I don't listen well enough?
ReplyDeleteI think we all do take that time from which to listen. Yet there is always that time factor. I understand ya
ReplyDeleteand I do look at what you write and when it's applicable I certain love to ~ read and listen~.
As we all do Nancy.
Yes it happens. Sometimes in conversations sometimes when people respond to a writing. I'm sure sometimes I've not really heard or responded correctly though as well. There can be reasons so I try to give people the benefit of the doubt and hope they overlook some of my blunders as well. Good thoughts. Listening is good to develop and compassion . Have a good weekend
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