there is a thread however, that I think that we do retain that never does leave. In my previous blog I had placed out something that is certain true. With regards to one sibling I have in my family.The one thing that I do know is that until both of my parents are passed I will remain a child to them in a sense. With family I do believe that one has to be courteous, patient, and co-operative with parents. That is how life is. Yes, yes I know this drives some of us nearly mad but I honestly do know that there are some things that I do as honour with them. And I won't stop - from the distance that I live from them.
To behave impeccably, to look after them in a manner that is requested, to back off and allow them to make their own choices, as most parents will get to an age that they just wish to do things there own way. As well to listen - especially with my mother when she does call as that is done in honour and love. Not to bad mouth or talk with regards to anything within my family that would be foul as it's a time that you RESPECT the people that brought you here into this life. And they did their best for each of us to have a good foundation, although we may not feel so - but I think we are far better off in doing that.
Regardless of any situation that exists within family, parents are deservedly to be treated with respect as well as love.
can't agree more..
ReplyDeleteas a mom, sometimes i don't feel treated with due respect..
kid in this age or the ages to come will not be like those in the old ones..
a reality that needs to accept with dignity..
very very well said.
ReplyDeleteI had found this to be true with my mother, my father has passed many yrs ago and my mother just seven yrs. She had a way of doing something and there was no changing her mind or way. I think honestly Jack we are more like them than what we know...I ask myself at times when I am doing something or saying something...when did I turn into my mother....very well said Jack
ReplyDeleteI have found it very hard as my dad aged and then passed last June being the "responsible" daughter with long distance medical management. My mom died in 1976, so I was a long time with just one parent. That "duty" was taught and expected, and I am glad I was able to fulfill it, but it took quite an emotional toll on me that is just now starting to resolve. I understand a bit of what you speak.
ReplyDeleteJust make sure your responsible for you and then as well you fill out the duties for whom you love. For myself that has been resolving only due to how I see it. I did not intend on writing on this however I did. Today I have a few things and it's early so the one thing I do know. Is that life has a direction. And within that we have choices. Good morning at 5:00am my time zone!
ReplyDeletevery well said, sir. i am so sorry to have barged into your blog like this.... I saw your comment on the Picture Perfect Friday and I thought you had an entry, instead I found this "illuminating" blog, though not the usual entry, it could pass for this week's theme nonetheless....
ReplyDeleteabout your blog, i bet you had very respectable parents, i on my part, feel the same way. but i cannot deny that as i grew up and my world expand through people i get aquainted with, it is not that easy to say these things, in general.... in my work now with the urban poor people in my country(philippines), very often i see and meet parents, who are themselves the ones who sell their children to traffickers and slavery... with these types of parents, i do not know if respect should be given... but surprisingly, children still give them unconditional love, the very children they sold... what an ironic world we live in... thank you for a very refreshing blog, and forgive me again for trespassing like this....
Thank you I had today off and just logged on here for a moment and thank you for your thoughts as yes indeed it was a write with regards to my own realm of my life, as well as a collaborative of thoughts.
ReplyDeleteParents can only give what they know, and have learned through their own journey, and they are human beings doing their best, and more, with what they have. They have their strengths and weaknesses, as we all do. Your blog is a beautiful testimony to your parents. They must be proud of the genuine man their child has become.
ReplyDeleteI think you are right in saying that in some ways we remain forever a child in our parents eyes. No matter what age we have reached, they still have years more experience than we do.
ReplyDeleteYes we are ....I believe so....A good Friday to you Norma.
ReplyDeleteYou are right, parents do regard their children as children all their life. I can still hear my mother, mother-in-law and even my husband's aunt referring to my husband and I (well into our late 30s or early 40"s) as "the kids are here" to announce to other family members that we had arrived for our visit. That used to make me smile and it still does. Now it's my turn to regard my children as children despite the fact that they are adults.
ReplyDeleteParents should definitely be treated with respect at all times, no matter the situation and I would add with kindness as they get on in years.
Sandpearl hit it right on the head i believe .when he said," Parents can only give what they know, and have learned through their own journey, and they are human beings doing their best, and more, with what they have". I was a spoiled child, screaming for direction and attention that wasn't there for me. Money was a temporary fix for lack of bonding. Both busy with their careers, life, providing for me. That being said, when I hit mid 20's, for all the wrongs I felt I endured, there came that day when I looked at them and understood, they're just "people" that loved me best they knew how and deserve respect, love in return from me as well. My life changed that day, They became my best friends, a deep love formed and to this day, I feel orpahaned by two of the best people God put on this earth! Love them while You have them!
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