It’s late here nearing midnight and I was reading something with regards to age. For some reason some people hit a certain age and they feel like life has passed them by or there is that certain something that is missing. I am not sure of what the age range is within this blogosphere.
But I do believe that age does matter. Life does get more complicated far more in comparison to when we were in our twenties. And perhaps that is due to several things. Leading me to another person whom writes regarding people that have suffer situations in life medically and they have it over others in comparison as they came close to facing there own mortality. Just thinking here as we all do age, and we all do have things that happen in our lives.
I can attest to that as I have gone through things as well, and I never realized it till much later. Now that I am merging within my own life I literally want it all. But I know that I do have an “Achilles heel” right now where I have to slowly do things in order to obtain what I wish to do in my life. Yet I enjoy the days and then there are days in which I toss my hands up and ponder what is this life all about.
Simplicity. What is that to each and every one of us? Do we really understand that life is a process and that there are things that do happen in which we have to overcome or we can fail? I am certain that each and every one of us has gone through that period. And much like people that suffer in some manner and then get past it – there is a second strength within it all.
Maybe some have a harder time than others and perhaps some get over things easier. I am not sure where I am leading with this.
I have just immersed myself in several things and now I am re entering life by means of obtaining new friends in a new city. And here to I can say at my age it’s not that easy to be single and meet people all over again. I may very well be doing a jump from one recent position to another and I am not concerned with that but I guess it comes down to being planted. I see my one friend whom is married and then I have come into contact with several people that are single. They are not looking for love or maybe they are. But I think that at a certain age we come to find that we are looking for areas in which we can find enjoyment, and keep our minds off of the things in which we tend to dwell on.
I think of when I was young and I know that you don’t just do things the same way. Now here I am asking myself is that something that one should walk on eggshells in doing things. I don’t think so but at the same time one wishes to get involved with something that is entirely outside of work and within some gain in lifestyle. In the winter it’s much more difficult. Yet I have been invited to be on the board of directors with an art form that I mentioned and I don’t even know where the place is. But then I know I am over thinking it and the best thing to do is - just do it. Now that I am in this city – I definitely do wish it was summer time but that will come soon enough – and I guess I am in a transition of sorts. I have a good friend that is single and he has embarked on things. And then there is a friend of recent that I am just starting to know which is married and he drops by and talks about things and I think to myself he is going home to a wife. Please don’t get me wrong here – I am not writing this for the sake of finding love online. I am just writing this out and getting it off my chest.
I guess it’s about placement. Obtaining some placement and wholeness within life whereby one can find that balance that is not a forced situation it comes to be an ordinary pleasant style of life.
How does that come? I guess there are various ways. Most of all I think that it takes some time and taking up the things that are offered your way. Meaning, friendship, possible love, companionship, and the areas of life that satisfy ones wishes within their own lives. As I don’t think these are needs – or they could very well be – I am not sure on that. But there has to be a way. When you see all your friends are married and have children or are divorced and have remarried – they took on a challenge. I am not sure that is my challenge right now. I think it’s engaging in more intimate friendships. God, how I recall some people going to dating gatherings where you sit and meet other people. Or the rebounders that jump from one person to the next. Nope, that is not for me.
I think that I will start off with being on this board and see where that takes me. Possibly each and every person is like a part of a tree. You start at the trunk and it leads into various branches.
I guess that has some meaning and perhaps
it does for you pending where your placement is. Time what do we do and what with it?
For those that are on this side of the pond – Good Morning. And for the ones that are on the other side good late afternoon.
G’day Jack,
ReplyDeleteThe meaning of life, I would think if anyone really pondered that too deeply they would be sorely disappointed. To me it is just another theoretical question with no real answer, paralleling “how long is a piece of string”. I do think life itself flows in stages and the older we get the more complicated it can become, but if one is completely honest they will find that the depth of the complication usually depends on the choices made, save & except illness & disabilities, both of which have to be accepted for what they are & with courage & fortitude so many learn to work around them thus improving a lifestyle that could otherwise be subverted by the why me” attitude. Companionship is a natural part of life be it friendship or marriage we all need warmth to be really content within ourselves, but like every thing else it has to be sort after and worked at one way or another. I haven’t experienced that phase where one feels life has passed them by, although admitting to a feeling of limbo on retirement from the work force.
A stay at home Mum that obtained employment when the last child got a job, then to come to a sudden halt, due to illness at 60, but it was again a matter of personal choices, no longer feeling needed as a Mum, or an asset to the house hold budget, a new direction was in order, but we can do this if we want to.
Another very interesting blog my friend
Good morning with a coffee at hand and if you have never seen anyone that feels at some time in there life (people on home care, people that are even young but lost, and all arrays) Wendy maybe it's the term. But aside of that this is one of those posts which is touchy - meaning I think that it does hit to the heart and thanks for posting in depth.
ReplyDeleteG'day Jack,
ReplyDeleteI myself have the coffee here trying to wake myself, don't misunderstand I know that state well, how could I live this long & not, I myself was one of the young that was lost, I think in hindsight I have replied looking at it as a "why am I here" situation rather than a "why do I stay here " one
I understand much better now - with much respect.
ReplyDeleteI sense a restlessness in your spirit, Jack ... perhaps it's the newness of things around you or maybe it's that you are re-discovering who Jack really is ... it's a good thing to ponder life and focus on what we choose to dream about ... in youth, we knew no time limits ... in later years, we have learned value in things, especially in relationships ... whether we search for love or friendship, we all wish to find our place where we fit in ... walking on egg shells isn't my specialty anymore ... I did that for years, to the beat of other people's drums, but today I am content with following my own heart, and believing in myself ... If I search for anything, Jack, I seek that which will mold me into a better person, a stronger person ... in ways, my life has just begun ... I take the lessons from the adversities and turn them into strength for the purpose of living more, giving more, being more .. *smiles* Relax and take a deep breath, my friend .. you are on the right path and the answers you seek are inside you ... be bold and walk steadily through the fog ... the dawn is breaking and all is well .. peace, my dear friend .. this was an excellent blog ...
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ReplyDelete"Meaning, friendship, possible love, companionship, and the areas of life that satisfy ones wishes within their own lives."
As I acquire additional years and am approaching my 45th birthday, I realize more than ever...these things are definately on my NEEDS list. Not just something I want...it seems its important to my physical and emotional journey. I would be satisfied if those areas of my life came together, as well as other things. I do think these are very important but that's just my placement at the moment. LOL
Very nice post.
Hi to all who read this blog ..I am 58, I hadn't problem with my age ever..It isn't possible to generalize any subject .. neither life or love or our own life's experiences I think everybody is smith of own luck or how it is said in latin: HOMO IPSE EST FABER FORTUNAE SUE..:)
ReplyDeleteHi, Allipie is a worthy one. I wrote this late two nights ago and several thoughts came to me. I think that placement is something different to each and everyone of us. We all are people that respect our own needs and wants. And life is about both of those but how we tend to them is something of a "soul encounter" perhaps.
ReplyDeleteSeems to me Aclim that people at a certain age come to understand age. Thank you your a very wise person.
ReplyDeleteI'm not sure where the awareness that something is "missing" comes from or what triggers it, all I know is that it comes at one moment in time. To me it wasn't sudden but a gentle tide bringing me into the shore within my soul as I moved along the path of life. I believe it's a stage in which you realize that you've forgotten about yourself in pursuit of so many other things in life; family, friends and work. There is more to life than this, we need to somehow transcend the physical and materilistic sense of our existence and nurture the spiritual as well. That is what this new stage in life has done to me, for once I'm connecting to who I am and trying to fulfill my mission. Great post Jack.
ReplyDeleteWe are so alike in many manners or how we blog with the exception that you actually take it and inspire others as a writer - where I just dabble within a blog - but within what we transcend Clary one thins is certain with a mission, each one at different times has it's subtle completion - leading towards something more.
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