Thursday, November 3, 2011

Action Speaks Louder than Words

I had rambled on. I do have a sister, which is so in need of help. There is the trickle up effect with those, which are of a meaning of which they do go forward. Myself as well.
There is nothing like one, which is, protected which gets in via the back door and the only manner of which she has is beyond me. I can't begin to explain it I just look beyond it but there is a time to understand when to there is a need to take action. As I again shall. And I have no reservations.

Over a duration of ten years and hospitalized with a fixation on myself. I don’t know how she gets away with it within a system as such. Maybe the folks protect her and I have never taken a picture of her, as it is abuse. I don’t speak much of abuse yet even with my cousin whom now is home and safe. She hates him as Delvin once listened to her and then spoke his mind. Along with so many other including my other cousins as well as others.

I know she is not well and she may never be well – but the manner of which she can turn from a Jekyl to Hyde and yet in her own mind thinks she is a saint. For the most part I have learned to turn her off. But it’s not an easy thing as she found out where I was working and it’s reminds me of when I needed to move for my own sake of well being.

This time I will not come close to having a nearly a mild stroke as I had before. I spent a good portion of my day speaking with the owner of this recording studio – he knew exactly how things of such can happen and ironically there is no advice except gets away.
My apologies to those whom may have been offended until you have been within the shoes of another – that is the time where you do find what things within family can do.

As I am not married to my sister but I will say that he is the most spoiled brat. With her health she can go so fast from one manner to another. Most often I find that it’s all within her own world of what she can do. I live in and within my own fashion. I don’t look to bring others down to do my life – we all have stressors. But when you have an antagonist as such the best merit is to make the right calls and make the right decisions.

I am not living my life to tend to the compounded situations within my family now – nor should I. Delvin now is at home which is nearly four hours from here and I listened part of the day to what brings on strokes or mini strokes. That shall not happen pertaining one of my siblings. In no way shape or form.

Over a prolonged duration it can or abuse as such regardless of where it comes from can have an impact on your own well being. I learned the hard way but this is coming to an end. Now as I don't have the time for it - nor would you.

 

 

15 comments:

  1. If you read this you know I am and I am Carol - you know this sitchy.

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  2. It is what it is yet that does not define me. No.

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  3. I fully understand what you write their are things in families that are hard to bare sometimes , I have had things happen with family too in the past so I can relate to your story in many ways Jack, take care with love from me Rosiex

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  4. Family is always a terrible matter, if we don't support our relatives, we are evil, if we support, somehow we stay so involved, we can't live our own lives. Find a balance point would be ideal, not only for you, but for everybody. As you know, brazilian families are very attached, we suffer together, stay a little away from the situations is hard for me.

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  5. Thanks Rosie as I was given a half day and I just wish to enjoy and do things within my own manner and way. As you do - yeah.

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  6. It is I focus out of it as what I find is that it's counter productive Eliane. Everyone has something but I thought I would share something which I had not in a long time. It's not my wife and ironically today I met with a fine person within which runs this company and many things were placed into perspective.
    I suppose this has been the reason why I have not posted much on myself - yet there are many days of tomorrows.

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  7. As a child I thought I was the only person on the face of the earth with family issues. In reality my family was really no different than many others. For many years when our children were young, I kept my distance from them for reasons only known to me. I wanted my children raised in a stable household...hope you find peace with your situation. (hugs)

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  8. I have done the very same Vicky stability is something of which is different to each and everyone.
    But the commonality is within peace and happiness - hugs back.

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  9. What you are going through makes us very grateful for the siblings we have. Hugs, Jack, as you continue forward.

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  10. Forward one goes and hugs back to you Grammy.

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  11. Time to think about yourself ... and time to be happy.

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  12. Each of us has its own when it comes to families. I hope you find comfort. tight hugs

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  13. Not easy dealing with people we come in contact with who have deep issues or disorders and with family it is much harder. I think many people with these issues/disorders usually have limited capacity to research their own condition. They don't see it. And like you mention many give them a pass--they protect them...for many different reasons. . which even makes it harder for those who they are affecting or targeting.
    It does little good to accuse individuals of what you think they might have done to contribute to this condition. You will want to direct your energies to taking care of yourself. The stress that comes from someone with deep issues or disorder can threaten your own well-being. It is essential, that you pay attention to your physical, emotional, and spiritual needs. I think your doing that. Even by letting it out a little here. All you can do is keep your expectations realistic. Of course, wrong acts to you should not be tolerated by yourself.

    Take care

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