There are those times in which you do have to set things aside within family. I love within the eve to come in here and write along with everyone. Sunday did come as another changing point between myself and my old man.
I went there to fix things and while I was doing it all he uttered out - "you don't belong with this family". Seemingly there are always those crossroads. Where I ask myself why am I even bothering with it. I have never done him wrong nor do I wish to do him wrong but there is something to be said with regards to the manner that he tends to things. Obviously is something to do with his own manner.
I have respected the man but after making a visitation he was in a foul mood. I remember how he was like this several time and I don't know how she puts up with it. He can be the hardest man at times. I had to hold my breath yesterday when he made this statement. I was ready to retort. But I just leave it be. There is no point as the man is never going to change. As he has always been so used to being in power - yet I don't see that as being a means no way to talk to those from which do aid and assist.
He can be tremendously smart, I am not like him - but how ironic that father would at this point and time have this hate....I really don't understand the man anymore. I have always knew people and men of his age - women as well which are not of the likes him and boy he can be something to deal with.
He is creating again dessention within the family.
I haven't spoken to my father for over a year. Before that a year or so had gone by. I know I am a disappointment in his life and him not liking me is not my problem. I'm sorry you are being pushed farther away by him. Sometimes it's better to just keep them at a distance.
ReplyDeleteFrom here on end as I am not going to go into what I have done for the man but he can be the largest jerk ( I shall say ) it and I would rather just go about my own path as even during his good times he will play that control area but the words he came out with were not necessary. I could say that it's do to this or that but what is true is that he will say things and thereafter feel bad. He certainly can be something. When he is in that mood boy he likes to see if he can get a responce.....yesterday that didnt happen. And I leave it to him - Sharon it's not the norm of what I write but I don't buy into some of this crap which he does. But I am not going to say focused on this...
ReplyDeleteI found for me it was better to stay away from him. It's hard but sometimes that what you have to do. We all try not to, because they are our parents. God luck tip toeing around this.
ReplyDeleteI don't I have enjoyed the people in life online and offline....yet circustances - I don't harbor it. He does have friends and the likes and for each one I am told he has turned them away. I pity my mother but there are something in life which you have to just understand that there is a time to keep the distance. I have done nothing to him I have done more for him but that is what a son should do as part of the dynamics of life...but in a land of multiply where everything is supposed to be perfect I posted what I felt from yesterday. Distance does have some reasoning - taking all into consideration.
ReplyDeleteI understand completely
ReplyDeleteSorry your dad is as he is
ReplyDeleteHUGS
Yeah this is where Sheree I just turn the page......but thanks.
ReplyDeleteI can feel your pain Jack. It's best to bite your tongue, and just move on from how he treated you yesterday. As we age, we all have our good and our bad days. He was obviously having one of his bad days again. I'm sure he loves you, and better days will be ahead. I believe keeping some distance between the two of you for a short time might be in order.
ReplyDeleteIs he on any new medication? This could be the reason for his mood swings. Big hugs to you Jack.
I am sure your dad loves you Jack. It is that as we aged we tend to be a bit demanding and inconsiderate. For sure that day your dad was in to that mood. As we all say, it will pass. And a much more better days ahead is forthcoming we just have to learn how to deal with it.
ReplyDeletetight hugs.
I can't say it's been all good, my sister he wishes to protect till his decline. And she whall play it for all it's
ReplyDeleteworth.....I don't stand close to my sister as I know what she has and I know that when I walked in yesterday
that after she was playing it for all it was worth. I told her straight out that she is acting like a child....she
has something ------------------ but she plays it to her own worth. So it was a trickle effect Theresa.
My brother went through this. He just moved here and she was undiagnosed. My older brother would find
refuge with it all with me....I was engaged at the time but I placed him in a job as well as introduced him to his
future wife.
My fater is on 12 medications Tee....if not he would be dead.
Look up at what I mentioned if your able...
ReplyDeleteSo sad. A dear friend of ours is 80+ and still is pained over his father's rejection in his teens. Long before a decline.
ReplyDeleteI write honestly Grammy, maybe too honest and it had thrown me off. You do things in respect and he was
ReplyDeletein one of his moods. And little does he know of the things I do for him...which includes now a street in his
honor. But thats life. So be it and I don't think it's selfish on thinking for oneself. As I am, without anger.