I just have gotten a call from my mother regarding my father's health. Never say never yet it's been very taxing on myself. I don't have a picture of my father it's somewhere on my blog and he is all there but unfortunately he was hit with the type of Cancer I had mentioned before. 3000 miles back there and well before I do anything I am going to sit and just see what comes out of tomorrow. You can't plan all things.
This is nothing new with regards to him yet one often figures all the good it good and so forth. After a call, I leaves me with an agenda yet there are a variety of feelings with that.
So there many things to consider. But over one day one usually comes to the right answer. I have been taxed with the back and forth and as well as many other have this may very well be the best answer in just heading to what you call back "home". Yet I have never thought of home being in one place. Yet maybe there is something to this ideal or concept of home.
I do hope to write on this man whom is my father when the time is appropriate.....it's not a negative thing now. It's more of a family thing.
ReplyDeleteThereafter I shall write on him as right now there have been so many times that he has been told that he would not make it. So for now I am going to leave this but come back to it. As he as done great service to more places and within his time as certainly done more than I can write about within a blog.
I relly feel for you Jack. I know my father's diagnosis came in November '99, he died May 2000. I'm so gratefulI was there with him every weekend, until the very last day as I held his hand while he breathed his last breaths.
ReplyDeleteHome is where the heart is. Prayers peace an hugs
ReplyDeleteThere is no such thing as planning much in a situation like this Jack. You have to go with your feelings of the time. Nothingh I've learned prepares one for the potential loss of a parent at any age.
ReplyDelete,you will know when to do the,"right thing" [hugs]
ReplyDeleteJust checking in to see if there was news about your father.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Doug. In situations like this, (also others), we can't plan...we just do what we feel is right when the time comes.
"As he as done great service to more places and within his time as certainly done more than I can write about within a blog."
I look forward to reading about him.
I wonder if someone is 'with' him now.
Your home is your heart, Jack. Where you find peace ...
ReplyDeleteReady yourself for any eventuality. Your dad is a fullfilled man. He had given his youth to be in service for others ... our loved ones are our foundation, but there's this thing called"not forever" and that is life. It's in our God's hands ... if it's our time, we must accept it with a smile and an open heart. Yes, sorrows will filled the air at that given moment. And that is exactly the changes that we should accept no matter how painful it is. Hugging you tight, Jack. Be bless my dear ...
the universe might have a plan for us amigo but we do not have the luxury of "plans"---we go to where we are called----and that is where we should be for that moment---hallmark makes a lot of money using the word "home" but truth knows that who we are is all that matters----i have never met anyone who has known how to act or feel or what to do when the "call" comes----none of us amigo----we react and then we act---for me i find that just being honest and saying "i don't know what to do" ---relieves a lot of pressure...........there are times amigo---when we are truly alone with our self-----but we are never truly alone if we reach out ..............circumstances differ--si----but emotions not so much...............................
ReplyDeleteYes, sometimes it is better to be still and wait.
ReplyDeleteyou do what you need to basta !
ReplyDelete~huggs~ ... just remember, you carry YOUR home in your heart ..... go with your flow Jack .... whatever your soul feels .......
ReplyDeleteWe must each deal with these issues as best we can, all things considered, keeping our hearts in a space of love.
ReplyDeletewishes for your dad. ciao
ReplyDeleteMy mother died of cancer on April 20. I spent a lot of time with her while she was in hospital, and the last week daily. Towards the end I didn't want to leave her side and my family felt the same way, we all wanted to be with mum. It wasn't an easy thing to do, watching a loved one die, but I am so glad I did and I will do it again if I had to in a flash. I wish all the best for you and for your family. Many blessings, may peace be with you always, Michelle
ReplyDeleteThought I would post an old write while and when in Edmonton, Alberta, Canada.
ReplyDelete(Have read every mention here and I do thank you).......
http://initiativestain.multiply.com/journal/item/218/Acceptance_is_the_Key_II
Yeah I know Doug......so I am awaiting a few calls and you know on Father's Day I just knew there was something wrong. So here we go decisions and all.
ReplyDeleteWhat is predictable this day? If you know what I mean Doug.
si....there is not one thing that you don't write that does not captivated me - and I have never seen you yet I have known you for many years. Go figure.
ReplyDeleteGG that is the plan for today, if I was there (it's 3000 miles) I would kind of have more of a feel on where things are at. Right now it's all based on things of yesterday so I have seen and heard false alarms before so I am just going to give it one day. And then tomorrow take it from there.
ReplyDeleteYes much so Maritess I don't feel all that terrible yet, this combined with other things one has to ponder where is home. I have never had it where I have had so many things all at the same time. But maybe just maybe there is a reason for everything. I am awaiting a call from the USA so shall log off for a bit and come back - you would almost thing I am doing the night shift....
ReplyDeleteThanks all the same.
Shall Lynne.
ReplyDeleteThanks mucho Nico.....stay as a friend as this all will pass. I am not that down I think that there has just been many compounded things in the last month.
ReplyDeleteyes believe you me in the last decade I have DJ....for my entire family. The space is what I think I do need at this time.
ReplyDeleteMy own space but we shall see.
Very sorry, Michelle I there is something good that will come from all this. I am sure of it......
ReplyDelete(I will and shall get to others blogs as time permits) I find that I used to get home and within the eves I would write now I am doing the opposite.
That is a subject within itself....
Thanks and hugs there to you and blessings back.
Jack, please allow me to put these Bible excerps here ...
ReplyDeletePsalm 23
The Lord is my sheperd, I shall not be in want.
He makes me lie down in green pastures,
he leads me beside quiet waters
he restores my soul
He guides me in paths of righteousness
for His name's sake
Even though I walk
through the valley of death,
I will fear no evil,
for you are with me;
your rod and your staff,
they comfort me.
You prepare a table before me
in the presence of my enemies
You anoint my head with oil;
my cup overflows.
Surely goodness and love will follow me
all the days of my life,
and I will dwell in the house of the Lord forever.
hugs tight, Jack.
My Dad doesn't have cancer but yet along with his age and numerous other physical conditions (serious ones) I also do not know what to expect day to day. I got to spend a few days there and arrived back home last night about 8:00 PM after a 13 hour ride..Rather tired today but glad to be back , mixed emotions..The distance is difficult but I believe in a lot of ways I have it easier on me than my sister and brother who live minutes away..they have to deal with all the stress weekly , some good days , some not good ..
ReplyDeleteGreat to encourage each other . My prayers are with you my friend. Glad you are able to share some here..I think it helps to write.
Thanks Cheryl.......today if all goes well is the "arrangement day".
ReplyDeleteIt does and then it doesn't. Yet I have no friends here within Quebec and well it's an outlet. Today I have much to consider...many things.
Thanks there Maritess...
ReplyDeleteParents' home is forever there for a person but he/she must have one for themselves.
ReplyDeleteI think you look very much like your father. I hope he wont have too much pain like my mother had. All the best to you and your family.
Hi Jack, I empathize with you for being far from your family at this time. You would want to be there, and yet there are all those factors to consider. Do what you feel most at peace with, and that shall be the right thing. All the best to you and your family.
ReplyDeleteJust reading and I am much like him yet more like my mothers side. However I don't really look like him at all. I take after my mother's side. I received a call yesterday and I am not sure what to make of what he had told me. So Fatos I am now looking to fly and there. So it's been a real down time to say the least and I never thought within my life that this time would come but so be it. As mentioned, I will do a small writing on him at some point in time meanwhile there are several things to consider. Very large decisions and I think that most think that I have already left yet I have not left back there yet. However as of last night it is now planned.
ReplyDeleteI think that everyone has that ability to make choices for themselves and take into account all factors. As you know, I have not been on here since last Monday blogging. And right now, and within the past there are several things to take into account. To be this distant is within and along the lines of adaptations. I never thought that it would happen however that is just the way it goes.I am at peace with this.
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