Tuesday, March 24, 2009

Taken People For Granted…

This is not my own write it’s one that I aided in getting a book deal a few years ago, but what she does write does give way to some thought and regard….

I guess it happens to the best of us, we go around life doing what we are supposed to for others and then even more if we love them. But do people tend to take for granted those attentions? I think we all do. I say we, because I’m sure I have done it at times but when it is done to me it is very hard to come up with a long line of excuses to justify the act. I try -I promise- to look the other way, to keep busy with other things, to understand that work, family, studies and everything else can come in the way but in time I have to accept that maybe I’m not being appreciated like I should.

Time to step aside, to give some room and to see what they do to demonstrate if I have a place in their life or not, that’s it. It’s not that I stop caring or loving, it’s just a moment to let things get back to normal. What I give is usually what I want to get back even though I realize it must come from their heart.

I guess all comes up to self-value myself and not be afraid to said it or expect it. When that moment comes I accept is not easy, but is even harder to stay there waiting hoping that they guess my needs. Not too many people can read minds so it is my duty to be clear and to the point, even though I also believe that at times silence can speak volumes both ways. It’s a matter of intuition and who I’m dealing with and for how long I’ve known them.

Let me tell you, outside of business calls I don’t call that many people, I can count them with only one hand. I like to dedicate myself and make relationships grow but I can’t do that with a lot of individuals, so I hand pick them. I can’t also do it if the other person don’t do the same with me, it’s a two-way street. That’s why I say that “I like to travel on a two-way street” and if it’s not I might as well get on a one-way street.

I hope you understand what I’m saying here; don’t take anyone for granted and don’t let others take you for granted either. She literally says things that way they are and at the same time is one that does make much sensibility as she is a spiritual writer that is not on this blog. I found it interesting after reading some blogs and then as well thinking about blogging - as you know I do think...:)

By writer Clarey Lopez

15 comments:

  1. Sounds like she spoke from her heart and that is always best

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  2. If the two-way street is not working, then it is time to find a different highway or a country lane

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  3. I would have to say, in a most respectful way, that love is a one way street. Not in taking, but in GIVING. I think that when we love someone with the expectation of it being returned, we are really not loving completely, or the way the Universe intends us to love. I have everything that I "need" fulfilled inside of me, so any interaction that I might have with another being is total icing on the cake so to speak. So...I will be LOVE...

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  4. Exactly Had, exactly....There is a write that I want to do but I will do it as I am sure that it's a something delicate to write for women. But I scratch my head and say why is this so or is it Jack.
    Naw - it's time for SOME new energy within this sphere.

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  5. Give you an exemplary Karyn...I sit down and there are two older ladies one that has played such a game, that when you thought that we were the best of friends that those old two birds have played it on me like you have never or would never believe. Hence, I did read your blog.

    A great day to you down in southern US...

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  6. Jerene, I love ya!

    I am saying that as you said it as it is. I am not searching for love on here. With a sip of a morning coffee and the sun now just rising I do wish you a great day as to live within an abundant life, it's not about the money you have it's about the people you shape within your life. Family, friends, and social networks....

    What you give, is what it abundant and if I may say you are rare...

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  7. It's the only way to fly, Jack. I'm just as plain in life as I am in print.

    :)

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  8. Hi Rhonda, yes this is print - your point?

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  9. Yes, sir. Plain as dirt in a garden in spring.

    :D

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  10. In one month we should be there :) Who is "Sir"?

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  11. Sorry, suh. I's southe'n, an' we's be taught t'be p'lite an' call y'all "sir" when we's talkin'. In goo' Ainglish, y'see.

    ;)

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  12. I agree that one can't go around ONLY loving with the expectation that it'll be equally returned. In some relationships, we will be the one who gives more and others we will be the one who gives less.
    However, I also agree with the lady's point that you simply cannot continue to give, give, and give to those who never return anything and only will use you, either.

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  13. I agree with it -- and Rainy said why about as clearly as anything else I could say. Let it stand for me too. :)

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