Yes I would suppose that life is about the converse of each person talking in some manner. When there is a trouble that comes around or when we are going through bad patches in life there is often an assumption that the person is not talking for a reason. Probably in some cases but all depending on the person.
Talking I found helps. I have had the ability to talk for three hours with someone that I had mention I would do and there was a cancellation so I had three hours to talk. And did I talk. I think I must have covered nearly each area of my life. But you know as well as I do that talking is good but it’s not the same talk. Meaning a therapeutic talk. I am not going back in time but as I mentioned I have found that I am learning more regarding myself.
Whereas in the mainstream of life if one is not talking so often it is thought that the person has some problem. But I think there is a time to talk in life and as well a time to listen. However I do believe when we talk the tone of what comes out of one’s voice is something that indicates many things.
As mentioned I have taken this time follow some guidelines for myself after meeting a cognitive therapist and I can really say that everyone at some stage of their life could certainly give this a try. It’s surprising what you learn about your self. I think that I needed that and probably all could, as its not some psycho mumbo jumbo, it’s actually the contrary. I did it and I am please that I have.
But I do think that there is an extroverted and introverted side to each and everyone of us. During my day today as I have been making the most of it while this global warming does not seem to be happening here (should be much warmer and was only 13c), I went to the movie Indiana Jones. Rather than think on anything for the first time in a long time I wanted to see how Harrison Ford at the age of 60 could actually pull off a final to a show that most of us saw some ten years ago, if not longer. And it was actually good.
Thereafter I headed to the airport and met with one person there with regards to some forms and then I arrived home to have a call that my mainframe computer was finished.
So I don’t have all things placed on it as I had a few calls, but I found that each and everything is slowly coming into place. Talking is good, and as well a silence without perplexing things is really good as well. It seems to be working.
I've done the cognitive therapy for nearly a year now and I agree with you Jack we could all give it a try at a point in our lives. What we can gain from the experience if we are open to it can help us move on in life and see situations from a different perspective whereby we deal with those same situations differently.
ReplyDeleteIt has taken me this long to finally have some sort of shift take place within but all the way through I have gained a little with each visit.
Hope you are able to go again. Sounds like all is going well.
Three hours of talking....hope you were able to have a coffee.
Talking is great but again like yourself I like to balance with those quiet and silent times.
G’day Jack.
ReplyDeleteUp until a few weeks ago I had never heard the term “cognitive therapy” but had a lot of personal experience with “psychodynamic therapy“.Either which way I feel that the benefits to me being able to actually tell my story to someone that wouldn’t judge, look shocked or uncomfortable was such a help, to me it was paramount to looking in a mirror & seeing my thoughts from the outside where logic had a chance to meld with the muddle that was within, resulting in understanding of the situation, forgiveness of myself for the way I felt, along with those (that had without malice to me personally) had promoted the twisted thought process I had developed. All this took a long, long time but worth every minute. I too still like my quiet time, but now I know it is not because I am “different“, it is just the way I am. as I still find it hard to completely trust others like I trust myself, but the secret is I now know why this is so & can balance it out. As for this global warming thing that is going on, I was surprised to hear on the news tonight, that this month of winter I have been whinging about is on a daily average 3 to 5 degrees warmer, highest June temps for 17 years, still not going outside though lol
So glad you are figuring out some things. I am a therapist and I think it's great that you let yourself be vulnerable to someone you didn't know and were able to make some progress with your issues. Things are looking up. Have a great weekend.
ReplyDeleteI hope you are able to continue this path as it is obviously doing you good.
ReplyDeleteshhh... hi from Ottawa. It is good to see all is well. Have a wonderful week-end Jack.
ReplyDeleteDenise, it was really good I mean I was not at all apprehensive and fortunate for me. I had three hours. I have never spoken about the entire areas of my life to anyone in that manner. He was not too intellectual and yet he was very smart. Ironically now that you mention it we had no coffee at all.
ReplyDeleteIt really was a great way to break the ice and at the same time as he is within a socialized of medical, there were two areas that he wished to assist me with. So I signed papers and allowed him to converse with my doctor as he thought there was much being missed and that throught it all I have really championed on several fronts.
Where do I go in two week? I return back. He asked me to just do the things I wished to do if I am able to. That is to actually take a holiday until I see him next. In an ideal world that is fine, but I am just taking day by day, and not thinking about tomorrow and yet keeping a priority with the realities of life, work and play.
I gained an outside perspective most definately and from what you told me in the past. I am going to continue with this and not stop it. It's actually helping me move forwards in my own manner.
Temperature this morning as at 7am is 10c going up to 25c! Strange weather. Cognitive therapy has been around for a long time Wendy. It is one of the foundations of psychology. As mentioned to Denise, I find that or I should say I know this was an introductory session. He asked about several things for the first half hour. I have had a sinus surgery, I have had a thing where they slightly expand your throat, and I have had a orbital fracture and ........I am sounding like the hunchback!
ReplyDeleteAll said fortunate for me as mentioned above I was able to cover with the three hours what most would do in three sessions if not more as from 1:30 till 4:00 we just talked and that is not a typical session. (Note this took place a few days ago).
I embrace my differences. Yet there is something within "Jack" that needs to grow. He explained to me that there are three stresses that I have been working with and that he has never seen someone do so much all in one time and keep it working. The one thing that he wanted to hear was my knees. So there was much covered and he explained that I am a man creating a new life while moving past some very traumatic times that were not just one but several as you know. So as I have refrained from mentioning it. I have a situation with my legs that fell between the cracks in the medical system. So I think it can hurt that he is assisting on this.
What do I get out of it. It's hard to explain that one. But I really did get something out of this and will continue with it. And I will continue with living in the manner of my own choice while learning to love life and not place so much on myself.
I had a "PM" mentioning "I can feel your pain". To the contrary, I don't feel that bad. I just write. I am not on here to do anything more than be authentic and as well creative. I am different. We all are different. Within all of that there is something that we all do share and maybe difference equates to uniqueness.
When I look at the temperature in Fahrenheit it will be going up to 80. Right now it's 54.
Vulnerability is like taking risks or not wishing to change a routine. All to often when we hit a certain age we find it more difficult to make these changes. We say we are, but placing the words into action are two different things. A great weekend to you and thank - however I am not looking up unless I am on the ground : ), ratherly I am moving ahead and looking ahead while knowing how to place the past up on the bookshelf and come back to it when I deem it fit.
ReplyDeleteWe all live life within a path and within that path comes choice. I think that when we are teenagers we can learn from choices and mistakes. But there comes a time to go deep and come up simple, and when you don't think much on things, you have commenced a path. To jump into things and walk out of them with areas as such would be like joining and paying for a gulf club membership. And then never playing golf.
ReplyDeleteThank you I am and I will be.
Have a wonderful week - I will, and the weather is finally here and there is a holiday coming up in Canada. So I wish you well. I could say more, I won't as this all stays within here as we all have our own ways and I know that I am and need to get on with things in a manner that I am comfortable with. I am going about what I deem fit and I am not surrendering from it.
ReplyDeleteSo from here in Edmonton to Ottawa the capital, I wish you a great day. Time for a cup of morning coffee.
I'm glad things are falling into place and looking up for you. I think you're on the right track and will continue in that direction.
ReplyDeleteHave a great weekend.
Thank you much Lise. I believe that the one thing is in just allowing oneself to come to an understanding regardless of what the circumstances are, there is always a way.
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