I know that I wrote on some areas that came to be and at the same time I am working through them. I see that there is a time to forge ahead and not fester in one’s own situations. There is never a resolve to any situation if one keeps thinking on it. To be honest I vented in here and now I wish to just write in a manner that is not avoidant but is something that I find to be of value to me.
We all have went through ups and downs in life and I am not the only one there are a few people that do know me in a sense from a long time ago and as well there are people that are completely knew to who I am.
I know where my placement is and ironically the first thing I saw was Scott’s mention that a new day will shine. And it does. And slowly but surely it will entirely. I know one can go on and on with what how they feel, hey I have been held back for nearly a week and within today I found a new car. Sometimes life just goes that way.
I have never lived on the Internet. However I have found that there are some people that are tremendously interesting. I have sent cards and I have received gifts and I have found close friends that understand that there is a time to expand on things rather than continually write on one area.
Each one of us have went through something in life and we all have that hardship in writing it, as well as the joys that have brought us in life. There was a time where my daily routine in the evenings where to run a group that was in my name. I found that it was a cathartic situation whereby there were many people that wrote in a private manner. And then thereafter I went to 360 and it was remarkable what could be done in the power or writing.
I get all these emails to join different blogs but right now my “open gate” is within multiply. I guess what I am saying is that nothing is contrived yet at the same time there is a time to focus on the things that one has rather than what one does not have and build it from there. Is it possible when one has taken a fall of sorts? Most definitely, sometimes I feel as if I am in my own group writing as I used to, but that changes, and as far thriving on the areas that are negative, perhaps I have been a little held up for the moment – but it’s just within the moment. To each and every one of us that are sitting behind a computer during part of our day – we are communicating like a community.
I know it’s time for a change with all of this – like a self cognitive to get things going again in life. Soon enough I will have another car – which baffles me how sometimes so much comes on ones shoulders. And I truly believe that what the significance of each and every one of us is our own thought in our own words. But that is not for myself to say.
It is what it can be. And everyone shares some sort of feeling with that. I took this picture nearby this morning as where I have moved too. Which is an area in the suburbs in development - just within its beginnings. Life is sometimes not easy, I find that the more we gain and understanding of the persona within the write – we understand the inner sphere of which we are.
I am just an ordinary man, better yet...I am just a human being that is much like anyone else that has come to some area that is going to serve me well in the future. I feel that the free sprite is something that resides in each and everyone of us.
As it can be...
The only manner from which to deal with something is to not harp on it too long and go about what you enjoy. My thoughts.
ReplyDeleteDo you have any?
In cognitive therapy I've learned to think about a situation as far as I can take it then leave it be. Too much energy can be wasted on dwelling when it doesn't change the outcome.
ReplyDeleteYou are not "JUST" an ordinary man and human being....you "ARE" an ordinary man and a human being.
Life is for living. The glass is always half full Jack!!
A good weekend to you....glad you have found another vehicle..
My experience allows that there are two sorts of people.
ReplyDeleteHopefully BOTH think, analyze and reflect upon life's events but one sort then DOES something to change the situation, decides to continue within & stops torturing themselves by ruminating about it. That sort of person accepts, adapts and/or comes to peace with things.
The OTHER sort of person just keeps wallowing and wallowing in the ashes of life's downs. Never letting go or moving on...
I hope when friends think of me, it is as the former type who allows the fire to burn clean and then rises from the ashes. If not a Phoenix.........then at least a Robin that senses the change of the season and moves along with it. *smile*
No apologies necessary for sharing your feelings in your recent struggles---that allows us to celebrate in your success as well----when the clouds on the horizon clear and the change for the better can be shared.
Take care and be well Jack!
Be ordinary man and human being is the the way to happiness in the life..Accept the life as a gift is the ability to enjoy every day as the last one// ..don\t waste the life in stupid imaginary aspiration .. simple said .. live the life..I do it indeed but I am old enough to know it now.. but when I was young.. hmmmm,,, it was different..
ReplyDeleteI learned to let go a long time ago. The more you allow something to fester at you it only becomes worse, it is like the old saying, "It is what it is." There is nothing in the world no matter how long you talk about it or think about it that will change it. The best thing I have found over time is to learn to accept people and situations we have no control of. Life goes on as planned everyday, the sun comes up in the morning and the moon at night it is what it is...we just have to learn to accept and go on. Another old saying that comes to mind is, "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger." I have found this out to be true many times.
ReplyDeleteLife is too short to dwell on the past. Move forward, is what I say
ReplyDeleteG’day Jack,
ReplyDeleteI have been following your inner conflicts here for the past week or two and can see you’re on the improve. Having been in a similar mindset many years ago, I do understand the struggle that goes on. For me personally it was a matter of working through what had first caused the slip (with help of Professionals) once this was identified it was then a matter of accepting it for what it was, not something I was responsible for or could have prevented, my involvement being circumstance, not choice, but it did compound every other negative event that under normal circumstances wouldn’t cause such an upheaval within my reactions or thinking. It was that understanding that gave me the choice of either continuing to reflect on it & let it colour all facets of my life or I could change the way I let it effect me so I could move on. Sounds easy, I for one know it isn’t, but with determination & patience it can be done, dwelling on the unchangeable is standing still, time to move into new and fresh territory.
Want to go dancing, Jack?
ReplyDeleteI'll get my shoes.
And I'll try not to step on your toes. Promise :)
If I find myself in a difficult situation whether I have caused it or not, I will try first to correct it if at all possible. It will be on my mind for a while but soon afterwards, I will tack in on to "a life experience" and will go on with my life and will not dwell on someting I cannot change.
ReplyDeleteIt's good to move your mind on to something else and let "what is" settle and find it's own part in your many facets of life. Glad you are on the mend.
ReplyDeleteGood day Jack. I have enjoyed reading you, sensing the positive energy that is taking over. I have a feeling you are on your way to promising better times. I am glad you could change your vehicle. A good week ahead to you.
ReplyDeleteI've found that the Serenity Prayer helps keep me focused, Jack. It says, "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference." Sometimes it's easy to get too focused on the problem at hand and we loose our perspective, allowing the problem to take hold of us rather that us taking hold of it ... Given time, most things work themselves out ... sometimes we are called to take action to help alleviate a problem ... personally, I have to give it to God because there's just some things too big for me to handle and try to stay sane ... *grinning* but rest assured that I'm not throwing in the towel in defeat- I'm simply gaining strength by resting in faith ... have a blessed day, my friend ... it's going to be okay, Hon ...
ReplyDeleteGa, that is exactly the manner that I see it. There is a time from which to forge ahead. Or one can keep doing exactly what you say - the old wallow syndrome. I don't have any worries or concerns of what I wrote and with all being said I am working out of my rut but I do wish to write on other things. I think the venting is over now and where I place the "half full cup of water in the glass" as DEE mentioned is in a way that I can drink from it.
ReplyDeleteI am well, and thank you very much as I just got in and purchased a car - in the midst of a very cold raining day. Hmm, thinking, but not thinking in a negative manner. Gaining an understanding by way of different thoughts from different people. And moving along.
Thank you - you hit the mark.
Wendy, you exemplify much experience and obviously the past is the past for you in what you accomplished. I think many can relate to this and as well for myself, I feel much better and as well I have taken care of several things over the last frew days and as Lise mentioned - therapy. I believe in that and am partaking in it. And I think that there is the place for it to be said now. One thing I don't do well. I wish to do many things and I think it's learning on how do accept more. And dwell less. I did dwell and it was needed. And I throw out the door this word we all call "shame". As we all are worried about what another person does think of us to some extent. And you know what - again thank you. As I am turning a chapter. On this blog and within my life. It can be done, but it is not done in a 48 hour period.
ReplyDeleteI moved to a fresh new territory at an age where most people are married. And I found that I was chasing after something that I was not too sure of what I wished for. You are a definition of understanding, wisdom - as your one of a few that I have ever had the opportunity to talk to online. It's is not easy but it's worthy.
Lise, that is how I am and have been since I have made a move back some 8 months ago. For someone that has accomplished what you have in life. I think you have the experience that comes a mature understanding of the true meaning of what needs and wants are witihin one's own inner self. I am very glad we are connected as I know that with many there is a reason they are online within their own manner. This is Sunday and tomorrow is Monday - you had mentioned a few things in the past that have always stayed with me. And you know what - there is (within balance) something within all of this. There is a community of people that have wisdom to lend out. I am going to leave it at that as I wish to turn the page, and enjoy what I do on here while I do take care of the areas, in which more than 45% of each person has gone through at some time.
ReplyDeleteYOU KNOW ME...
ReplyDeleteAs a person that has run an old group and enjoyed it way back as well has known things during the good and the bad. DEE I do consider you like family. And the glass is half full but with all that said...what is most important is that the water within it.
As of tomorrow I will be driving my second since arriving here. But that is not the resolve to everything. As Wendy mentioned, the combination of circumstances and as well thinking too much. Lead to the past writings. And Dee if anyone knows that it's you.
"If I can think it, then I can do it, but the manner of doing that is in a way that there is clarity." I like that thought of ordinary man and human being. I really do.
There, "I am old enough to know it now"...
ReplyDeleteGuess what? Most of the people I find the greatest wisdom from are people that have experience...
I think we are always on some mend or some voyage of some sorts. (oh boy she is going to think that I am really gone LOL).
ReplyDeleteI mean life is a path and the most important thing is to be human. A friend of mine said this the other day, and as well several are saying that. If I may say one thing. There is nothing perfect in life but at the same time there is the worth that makes it worthwhile.
I met an italian man today. And at first he asked if I was italian, as me and my friend went looking to finalize things with my car.
He said that life is too short and he asked me to come into his office. (I am not kidding) Armondo talked to me of his father and as well two brothers he had that went through hard times. He told me to come back next week as he wants to keep a communication going with me. He thinks I am italian, I did not mention my last name as it would be obvious but life is about people mixing with people in expression...
I will come back to this page with all peoples thoughts and look at it from another vantage in a few months. Why not?
Daniel, I enjoy how it all can come together in a manner and way that this just illustrates. Thank you regarding the vehicle, it's second hand, but it's grand and tomorrow I will be pleased. There after I am taking one week to do some photography as well as apply myself and face the new things within this city. As well as learning to walk on my own. For the moment, thereafter I think that once one can walk we all can dance! But one leg goes in front of the first one. Step by step...
ReplyDeleteI square dance how about you? : )
ReplyDeleteIf I may say Cin, there are times I miss blogs and what they all are saying. Literally my attention span is not that great on here, it's not because I dont care. I read yours last night and I missed a few things. I never had to used glasses as much as now.
ReplyDeleteI do believe in faith. I am a spiritual person and I think that is as far as I will take it. We all do what we need to when we find we have that need, as well there are other thoughts in regards to faith.
As a human being sipping a glass of water (half full) - I thank you!
:)
Toni, yes we all in our own ways have found things that have taken place in life. Perhaps life is an endless loop of learning many different things. Most of all always regard what is of value and I think that it's human that things happen and we react to them, but most importantly I find that situations came to happen but that is past now. And I believe that time is a precious not hectic commodity. Yet I am realistic. And there are things that we don't have control of or we expect them to be perfect. Thanks much.
ReplyDeleteSo I am moving the direction of the past writings back into something that I enjoy. That is just like life we always have choices maybe not all of the ones we want but they are there.