I wished to say that I certainly do appreciate all that has been said and as well that I had one failure when I arrived back as well as some other situations and it threw me completely off. Where do I go now? I take it easy as where there is a will there is a way. And I will not be working from my old office as I resigned for good reasons. This happened a while ago as there were breaches that were going on, that I was signing for and it came to a point where I had given it three opportunities. So I am being totally honest as well, as I have been fine except a few more things happened and that took me totally by surprise. As well, several things came up and this week will be one of doing things for myself slowly as I know my own self and what I can do and when to learn to relax with so many things on my plate. I guess within my contacts I am taking my pride hat off.
I know the first thing that I have to do is focus on myself. Ironic how we all are, and within all. But yet I think the bottom line is that one person comes first. And yes I do miss my father and there are times in which I do wish I could see him more often. But that is not in the cards right now. What is within the cards is myself.
Life comes and goes and somewhere within it all there is something, seems that I keep having challenges - or maybe I tended to long with family prior to embarking back into life. I am not sure. But I know I will see clearer each and ever day of this week.
Have any of you been in a situation as such? Sometimes it's very lonely, as well sometimes it totally takes you off the trail that you desired. All that I can say is that for a few days I was totally exhausted and I am slowly working out of it.
Again thank you.......(nothing is contrived)....
I don't know your situation exactly, but from what you have been sharing, it sounds like you have come to some decisions about what route you want to take and you are slowly working toward it. I understand this to a point, my father passed last year on 6/24 after a long illness with many ups and downs. I was a long distance caregiver and decision maker for him. I was exhausted and stressed much of the time, trying to help him make good decisions and with talking with others who were there in the area with him. He chose not to live by my sister or myself to help with his care, so we went on with our lives and helped as we could. Giving up our lives and jobs to go to him was not an option, although he did mention it several times to me. I had to choose myself over him to be able to live my life. It's a hard thing, but must be done to survive after they are gone. It was the same way with my mother 30 years ago, 'give up your life, come take care of me'. I had to take care of myself, whether it seemed selfish or not. Don't know if any of this applies to your situation, but this is what I had to offer.
ReplyDeletejack... i dont know what to say.... not a few days ago, you helped me back to sanity!!! I wish I can do the same to you but I dont know how to.... all I can offer is that I have ears here, who can listen for hours no end if you need some... if you don't, well, I will still be here until you don;t need me to be... whatever it is jack, i'm confident that you know how to deal with it after sometime... and that the answer is just inside you... as that is what you told me.... be well and be blessed, jack!!! Hugssss!!!!
ReplyDeleteG’day Jack.
ReplyDeleteI think every one at one time or another goes through a period in their lives where they feel they are being pulled from many different directions at once. The only way to stop the strain is to cut all strings & stand resolute to regain your personal equilibrium and realine your own personal priorities. This appears to be the tact you are taking, not easy but well worth while, we are all here for you when & if needed
I can only wish you well Jack. Remember when your parents used to tell you do this, don`t do that. You would think I will do as I please. You may at times have thought, I will do my own experiences and I do not care what they think. I could tell you that I have had similar experiences, either by being there or by helping others going through a lot. It needs a little time, and even though these are times when one tends to withdraw, it is also times when we need our friends, and to get close to nature, take walks. I have found also that for things we do not wish to discuss with friends for they are too personal, a therapist is good because you can express your concerns, and they can offer good advice. In the end, it is you who decide which avenue is best for you. This is only my opinion for what it is worth. Hopefully, the little we offer may sound good to you in one area or the other. Every bit helps. Hugs and good week to you.
ReplyDeleteI might not understand exactly what you going through Jack, but I would like to share : .... when you least expected from all situations and circumstances in life out there, at end at other side of the road, there is a light, there is an answer, there is hope, there is love, there is some strengh coming back to us and help us go through step by step and makes us continue to success to better health to greater achievements to better relationships...... Be Strong my friend and continue the path you have chosen to follow. Always with respect and confidence, with love and a smile....... Be strong, your friend Elizabeth
ReplyDeleteYes it certainly applies, however I was a caregiver that lived in the same city and now I have moved on and well a few things happened as one can see, but I am slowly working things out. Yes it has been much stress. But I will get beyond it.
ReplyDeleteKnow I did not I was merely telling you things you already knew and I am applying the same things to myself.
ReplyDeleteIndeed Wendy as I have talked to three becoming good friends here offline that have told me when stress hit them and why. So I have my work cut out for me and when stress hits, it's a very hard thing. I did not realize that I was doing too much all at the same time and I will be learning again how to decompress. It's not easy but it can and will be done. I do believe in that.
ReplyDeleteI know you'd know what to do jack! I'm pretty sure about that!!!
ReplyDeletehuggssss, jack. And no matter what you say, you really did helped me out, and I wouldn't have realized it all without you!!!
Miss you jack...
There are no two people that are exactly the same. But I think that some that have known me from the days of 360 know that I did once in a while write it how it was. I appreciate your thoughts. And at the same time one from which to talk with is in line.
ReplyDeleteI am human... A good week to you as well.
Thank you Elizabeth, I always like to write on here and then when everything started to seize up on me, I knew that I was burning the candle too much and much had taken place.
ReplyDeleteNow it's about having the courage to get help and assistance in which I am doing. I will be honest this is embarrassing to write about kept this post just to "my contacts" as I am rather reserve. I think some do understand me and some don't but I do believe there are some tremendous people here - and as well I do believe that life has been a challenge recently and this may be the after effects of a trip back as well as things that took place in the past.
So thank you. Strong is in being flexible within one's own self. And that is what I am doing now along with learning or going to learn to expell out the things I have kept in.
I really appreciate your comments. I really do. And for now this is where things are and in the future possibly I need a new change in the way I have recently been - stressed out that is.
ReplyDeleteThings did take a turn with one job, I have a secondary backup, but right now I know I have to take it slow for a while and get back up.
Thank you for your understanding!
There isn't much that I can add to what has already been said. I didn't reply to your recent posts as I was away for a few days.
ReplyDeleteRealizing that there is a problem is the first step in the right direction, as for the rest, it will be up to you to relieve yourself from the unnecessary stress and get back up. I know you will do fine. I have faith in you. Take care.
Yes Lise, I just kind of had too much going and emotions hit me. And so I am slowly bringing it back with two very good friends. I will take care and it all will come back, I can't explain it but I am optimistic and determined.
ReplyDeleteHas anyone been in the situation? Kind of, yet not quite. I feel extremely out of step with my own life right now and don't know what to do about it. There are some ways in which I am putting myself first, and other ways that I cannot and am trying to patiently accept things as they are and as they will remain. It's hard...yeah, it's hard.
ReplyDeleteSometimes it can be hard - but with a determination and a reach out and as well slowly finding oneself amidst everything that lead us to here - leaves the door open to a new avenue.
ReplyDeleteThat's a fabulous attitude...looking for the next open door!
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