Within A World of Being Proud

Pride is the energy level aspired to by many of our kind in our times. In contrast to the various levels of energy levels within that nature of mankind – pride is far enough removed from shame, guilt, or fear.  Pride generally has a good reputation and is socially encouraged.  Yet pride is only distinguished due to its contrast shame, guilt and fear.

The problem, as some may know is that “Pride goeth before a fall.” 

Pride is a defensive and very vulnerable.  Due to the nature of how pride is dependant on being dependent upon external conditions.  The inflated ego is vulnerable to attack.  Pride remains week because it can be knocked off its pedestal back to shame, which is the threat that fires the fear of loss of pride.  The downside of pride is arrogance and denial. These characteristics lock the growth pattern of any culture, person.  I thought I would write this as all to often we all have something to be proud about, yet within the growth of being proud of what we have done. We never wished to become locked into an area where by we find ourselves hindered by our own making.

I met with a person that I knew recently that knew me. He knew me in business from some years ago. And we sat down and were talking and his desire was to get the inside of which I knew with regards to some people that are rather successful in business. And as well, he was inquisitive as to where and what I was planning on doing. As he asked me about these men, I just listened and moved around the questions in a manner that didn’t really tell him anything regarding them.  As for myself – without being arrogant, or coming across this way, I laughed to myself as I understood that this person merely wanted to know more regarding whom I was – what I was now, and where and what I intended on doing within business. 

How I have changed since the times in which he had not really known me but had seen me speak and as well ironically worked with some people that worked along with me.

Coming back to the area of neutrality…sometimes one reaches a point of maturity, which brings about a change and growth within what they do, and how they do it.  Am I the same person I was – no. Am I the person I am now? Do I enjoy things in a much different manner than I did before? Will I bring about a change that I find to be of satisfaction without the need to be noticed in life?  In my own manner and in my own way I know the answers to my own questions. Why? I flow with areas in a manner that I didn’t earlier in my life.  And I am not in the same "rat pack", I am different in some manner. It’s not about pride - it's about something more.

I think that when we hang up the pride factor, we continue to learn and we move in a manner of “quality surplus”. We collect things that support what we are doing within what ever we are embarking on and we don’t need to tell the entire world. Business is pride based, to a large extent position is everything. How many times I have seen men – aspire for titles and younger men look to aspire for that title. However when they retire, they don’t know what to do with their life. Still to this day there are two older gentlemen that are competing with each other to see who takes the most with them. They are very proud, and as well their son’s have come to be very proud.  I wonder what would take place if their entire empires fell down.  Would they be able to survive?  Would the second generation be able to bounce back up? Some would and some wouldn’t.

Within a world of so much pride – I think that women generally don’t thrive on this pride factor.  Men often thrive to have a worth that is based on many things – but most of all pride.  I am a man but I enjoy life more than I did one year ago. I am not a people pleaser, but I do find the satisfaction in stepping outside of my own realm and mixing with all different people. Of course I have the same basic needs and wants as any person. Everything in life is not based on entirely on titles, or too much pride.  Maybe it’s more about understanding the value of life while continuing with what we all do in life. A high energy level would include love, friendships, aspirations, and understanding.
Yet we all are proud to different extents. It’s the nature of a person, but perhaps all to often we get so caught up in our own selves that we forget who surrounds us – during all times and occasions within our lives.  For we each have our own prerogatives, and we all have the ability to be so into ourselves that we can’t enjoy the areas that are of importance to ourselves.  Thriving on pride seems to be something that would bring about a downside.  Living with a variety of things within life – give way to something more than thriving on pride.  Efficiency is doing the thing right.  Effectiveness is doing the right thing.