~ LOVE ~

We often mistake LOVE as generally just being romantic and never really appreciating the other kinds of love that do exist. I myself had to look it up myself.

LOVE OF SECURITY: This love is the love that everybody needs to survive. It is that feeling of being cared for and nurtured. Some people would describe this as the type of love parents have for their children. Or children, which have a love for their parents. Which I would deem more of the natures of respect as when we get older some come to have that parental value for their parents. I myself thought there was a different meaning as there is a differentiation between an honor, I can say I love and respect my mother yet I would not call that a security manner of love unless I was still within my youth.

FRIENDSHIP LOVE: This would fall into brotherhood, and that manner that you feel at ease with those, which you deem as friends. This is a love between yourself and someone that is totally honest, open and comfortable. You really only have this kind of bond with a few people. You might know a lot of people and be "friendly" with them in a group situation but they are not the best friends I am talking about here. I myself do believe in contradiction to many that friendship can lay between two of the opposite sex. Yet many believe within this theory that come time friendship as such does lead to romance. Hence brotherly love has never been seen or sought of as that friendship manner between the opposite sexes.

ROMANTIC LOVE: Which is often the most anticipated form of love. Most people experience this type of love many times in their life. It is when you see that person for the first time and he/she makes your knees go weak or gives you butterflies in your stomach.i.e. "Love at first sight”. Most people don’t even love the person they think they are in love with…they fall in love with the idea if being in love. This is more of a lustful kind of love, it wears off after a while and hopefully leads to...Yes, we have all been there in our own ways.

UNCONDITIONAL LOVE: This is the sincere love, the love that lasts forever. This kind of love comes when you have found the person you are destined to be with. Nothing can destroy unconditional love. It is like when you have an argument or disagree about something with that person and you realize that it doesn’t bother you because the love you have for him/her overcomes everything.

Then there is this word called honor. Honor is a form of love as well. I do care for my mother, I love her yet at the same time I have seen where a cousin of mine came to be so attached with his mother that she took the priority over and hindered his relationships with his wives. Needless to say, it took him years to get over it and I honor my mother within a loving manner. But it’s within a mode, which I assume would fall under unconditional love. This is no lure but I have loved, and I am not attached to my mother but she is much like a best friend. Yet if I may, I love women but I believe that one can be a friend with a woman. It might not be the same as the friendship between men as there is a difference within that.

Yet beyond these four traditional thoughts or definitions of love – is love really finite and can be rendered within subjective words. I honor and love my mother. I am not fixated on her. I guess what I am getting at is that I have my own life, which includes friendships, love, and passions. Would that not be of justice for thyself?

Perhaps it’s all within simplicity and people have their own way. No two being exactly alike, yet the render of that commodity of understanding. Yet family bonds with a mother would be that of honor, coupled with an unconditional duty. While the kindred friends would be that of understanding, romance would be within the toes curling up. And passions might be that of which fortifies.