I have been very cautious, as there was a time that I ran into someone that was close to me that had two sides to them in the way.
I was talking to a very good friend in Ohio tonight, and then I had a call from a friend back in Saskatoon.
My friend in Ohio, is one that I have know for some time and we don’t talk that much but I really needed to get some things of my chest as today again I had several calls from my folks. Here it’s one year and this keeps happening. So in my life as well as offline there were several things that took place. I just want have my own life. Then again I am going to say it as I have been told here online that I should look for a soul mate now. Once came from a very smart lady from two blogs back and then as well a few others. I have been so cautious with this. The reason is that I know that so many are hit on - online. And that has never been my mission here.
Does love still exist out there or is it people with ton's of baggage and luggage that the risk does create a fear? Boy this could really send my blog down a few paces...
I guess I am talking about companionship...hmmm, go figure..
By this time in life, Jack---no one is "baggage" free. More than that is left to fate, Kismit or the ability of two people to get beyond the practical side of coupling later in life---and just take the chance more clearly seen through the eyes of those older and wiser.
ReplyDeleteIf you wish to find someone it's possible. I've a friend who met and married an ideal partner just last year. She chose E-Harmony as a tool to help her find someone with specific qualities/circumstance---and it worked. They are a very happy couple, committed to making the last (quarter?) of their lives the happiest. *smile*
I know GA. No way I just heard about this and GA what makes up love at this age? There is a question. I know how I see it...
ReplyDeleteLife is about union of a man and woman without but maybe everyone is afraid of risks where as there are some very forthright men that just rebound.
To me it's a miff...
Example Nothinghill I think that was the move he was not bold and .......well it was just a movie...
ReplyDeleteSome people feel life more deeply---the hurts, the joys---it takes them longer to heal when hurt or to open up when uncertain. Others are eternal optimists and detest a solo journey---they venture in quickly. Some might say, "Fools rush in where wise men fear to tread..." eh? I dunno' life is not a romantic comedy---though it takes some living to figure that out!
ReplyDeleteSome are reserve gents...
ReplyDeleteYep.........and gals too. So life is full of choices-------to quote another cinematic wise man (Yodi in Star Wars) "Choose wisely, young Skywalker..." *grin*
ReplyDeleteWouldn't it be fun to be able to "fast forward" to the outcome of such life choices, before committing to them? Like a flash forward in a movie script?
Smiling...possibly that was how it was when we were younger.
ReplyDeleteMy heart is mended from a long time ago and now, with all that I have at hand I have been told by more that you know that it's time to start again..
Women are the greatest things in the world - they think things out and so forth but I have seen so many of my friends go through devorce or they rebound and I am honestly writing here. I never went boldy after a women in my teens, twenties or now.
ReplyDeleteWomen are the greatest things in the world - they think things out and so forth but I have seen so many of my friends go through devorce or they rebound and I am honestly writing here. I never went boldy after a women in my teens, twenties or now.
ReplyDeleteWomen are the greatest things in the world - they think things out and so forth but I have seen so many of my friends go through devorce or they rebound and I am honestly writing here. I never went boldy after a women in my teens, twenties or now.
ReplyDeleteWomen are the greatest things in the world - they think things out and so forth but I have seen so many of my friends go through devorce or they rebound and I am honestly writing here. I never went boldy after a women in my teens, twenties or now.
ReplyDeleteWomen are the greatest things in the world - they think things out and so forth but I have seen so many of my friends go through devorce or they rebound and I am honestly writing here. I never went boldy after a women in my teens, twenties or now.
ReplyDeleteJust thoughts... some would never tought this one I am sure...
ReplyDeleteJust thoughts... some would never thought this one I am sure...
ReplyDeleteJust thoughts... some would never thought this one I am sure...
ReplyDeleteJust thoughts... some would never thought this one I am sure...
ReplyDeleteJust thoughts... some would never thought this one I am sure...
ReplyDeleteJust thoughts... some would never thought this one I am sure...
ReplyDeleteStange how this multiple will make many posts, hmmm!
ReplyDeleteNevertheless it was a great movie....
ReplyDeleteWell - I am 55 and I met my husband on line---I do not like eHarmony and I was scammed by someone on that site. It is not secure & they did not seem to care that they had a scammer on their site. My point is this -- you can find true love (soulmate) via the Internet--my husband and I are perfect examples. I found that you need to relax and not think that every gal you meet is "The One." Just make new friends...........love will come to you eventually..... (BTW - we met on Plentyoffish)
ReplyDeleteinteresting....I guess when you are ready to be found your heart will be open to it..
ReplyDeleteLove exists. People meet in a variety of places. Love can be found online, and so can deceit, but that is true of real life too. You can meet a soul mate anywhere in real life...church, school, organizations, so it stands to reason that it can be found here also in a place where people share like thoughts. It's just that a tad bit of extra caution must be exercised here due to initial anonymity. Love comes sometimes when you least expect it. You will know you have a good chance if a person is open and honest with you. That does not necessarily mean sharing the most intimate of thoughts right away. In fact, that can be a warning sign. Look for someone confident and self-assured, for someone mature and in control. Look for someone whose personality can compliment yours . Is the movie Fireproof there in Canada? Run, ( don't walk ! ) to see it. Remembr, love is not desperate, love is not needy and grasping, rather love is patient and kind.
ReplyDelete"......what makes up love at this age? " I just read your comments and had to come back for this one. Love is unique to each couple....some generatae instant chemistry...some seek companionship....some have interests in common.....some choose one another and build something out of it...the list could go on and on. How a relationship starts is not so important as how it continues. Love is everything; it is all the cliches! Mostly, it is unconditional. It provides a soft place for the other. I strongly recommend the book The Love Dare, author's last name is Kendrick, it was born from the movie Fireproof...run, don't walk! Yes, I feel that strongly about this movie. About baggage....sure, we all have some, BUT...it is their handling of their baggage that we want to observe, plus the examination of how we handle our own. Here is an area where that can tell us a lot about another individual and about ourselves as well.
ReplyDeleteHey, Jack - ditto to what susanthom said. Brilliant observations. Wonderful thoughts on love. I have nothing to add........
ReplyDeleteI don't believe true romantic love is something that happens to most people. It happens with a small percentage. Very small.
ReplyDeleteToo many people confuse "falling in love" with love, when it is just a temporary chemical reaction destined to last just long enough to get you mired in a relationship that should never have gone beyond 2 or 3 dates.
I prefer to just keep my distance, especially here online where anyone can tell you anything and so many are more than likely to turn on you like rapid dog, viciously attacking and trying to hurt you as much as possible from far away. No, that has not happened to me personally, but I have several friends who have been hurt beyond belief. I just refuse to go there.
I don't think age has any bearing on the need for love. From the cradle to the grave, we all need to love and feel loved
ReplyDeleteSmiling..Janis, I was quoting Jack.
ReplyDeletePondering cfbook's remark....no, romance doesn't usaully happen. It must be created.
ReplyDeleteI rather go along with cf's reply...
ReplyDeleteI agree as many do this but for my own self, I was thinking on this one as I have been told to do this and that and I have never seached since the inception of this blog to do anything but get thoughts from others as YOU HAVE. Thank you.
ReplyDeleteI know Sue, we have gone back many years....
ReplyDeleteJack...what a quandary, this thing called love. As I see it, our belief in real love must be the forerunner to finding it. The Bible says that the Lord provides for the birds of the air, but He didn't say he put the food that's available into their nest for them. My point is that it is wise to avoid an online love, since one can hide so very much in this medium. Conversely, as we widen the circle of friendship beyond our own self-imposed physical limits (fear, uneasiness, geography, etc), through affiliation, a new association is birthed---and perhaps love emerges. I believe we can be "love-minded" and intentional about that desire without being hyper-focused on love as an end in itself. My Christian faith has taught me much in this arena of affiliation, and having a safe place to "love and be loved, celebrate and be celebrated & to know and be known..". In the end, if I isolate, and the laptop is my only medium for new associations, I limit the nature of that endeavor. If I risk joining a church, attending an event in town, volunteering time to a cause I believe in locally, helping a neighbor, and the like, that association gives me limitless potential. We are all wired for connection, but like the aforementioned example, there is some responsibility that lies with our balanced pursuit of that type of companionship. Online is certainly working for some, but there are many cautionary components to that system that one MUST be wise about...or simply opt out of. As a resident of a smaller town than I am accustomed to residing in, I truly see the value of moving into new circles of influence in order to increase my options for healthy connection with others. Without that intentional effort, my life consists of a laptop, my backyard view, my sister & mom, and little else.(You read that right...I do not and have not owned a TV in years). Bottom line, we have to evaluate our "risk tolerance" in the pursuit of connections, and within that realm, ensure we are taking a healthy, balanced approach to those connections. Just a thought....
ReplyDeleteA great thought bro...
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