Every one of the thoughts we think, the words we speak, and the actions we take contribute to what unfolds and creates our lives. This friend of mine was married to one of my best friends. I was the best man at there wedding. I came to know her during my late 20’s well as a friend. By way of some other friends. Boy that is going back in time...
She called me the other day. We had met up before when I arrived here and then we periodically kept in touch. Being one that is up and used to waking up at 6am everyday, I did a few things and thereafter I called her. Obviously it was much too early as she is a nurse and this was her day off, so then I trekked off to get some groceries and then arrived back home to have a conference call with one person that I had been previously arranged. That all went well, and thereafter .......I had one call with regards to my MRI, the silly doctor office manager indicated that I was on a two week wait along with the new doctor I have. "Practicing doctor shall we say?".
Well it ends up before I was leaving out the door, the date came in and it’s for the end of August. So I left off to see Brenda. While en route to meet up for a very long brunch, much longer and much more enjoyable in all that we talked about and laughed about - I called into my “new practicing doctors office” and asked how this all works here in Alberta. The medical office manager explained that if I wished to do this privately, then I would need to pay out of pocket. So that is what I am doing and I will have to tend to some signing of something tomorrow and hopefully between now and then there won't be any more surprises.
Done, fini, over with....
Returning to my dear friend Brenda...We talked about this during our talk, she told me that this is a private and socialized medical system here in Alberta where you have the choice of two – but with insurance plans will not cover an MRI. Then we go off of that topic, and we talked about other things. She has one new horse she has just bought. She has acreage out here. She remarried. For some reason she is not happy with her marriage, she had mentioned to me some of the things that were taking place. And she asked me if she remembered when she said that she would have rather married me – when we were much younger. I said I did. But I said that was then and this is now. She has a friend that she feels is the one for me. But I don't wish for that at this point...I don't know when that will be, but this writing is not about that. Not at all...
The most important thing that I found is that there were two people that regardless of time had never forgot each other, and in many respects never really had changed all that much. Certainly our lives went different directions, but somehow we are connected with a respect and trust. As well, we still laughed about the silly things that we did before.
Brenda beat what is called binging and purging…. she used to only weigh 80lbs and then after they found her unconscious she began to face up to her problem, and she resolved it. You would never know it. She is a great friend and success story. And I am paying out of pocket for an MRI as I am not waiting till the end of August.
Lesson of the day - Never get surprised nor get overwhelmed with anything, ratherly enjoy the moment and tend to what needs to be tended too..Why I am not pulling your leg is because I can't touch it from where I am...
Jack, you two look awesomely goodlooking there ;) Really, love the pic posted. And great you are having happy time despite some setback at the doctor office. Hugs for now.
ReplyDeleteRegarding her - she truly is someone that is a very decent person and she had a huge set back. All that said, there was a gap of nearly 8 years that I had never seen her. And yet in many ways nothing has changes - she is a great friend, of another friend whom she used to be married to that resides in Drumheller.
ReplyDeleteAs for me, I know my direction...
Wonderful and informative post Jack, very nice pic of you and Brenda. blessing and hugs to you both..It's really great.
ReplyDeleteThanks - it's a share...
ReplyDeleteG'day Jack,
ReplyDeleteAn old friendship restabilised, what a lovely story. Meeting up with old friends after a long separation is always a surprise, yes we all go different ways & have different experiences therefore we expect to have little in common when we meet up again, once one realises it is the external events that are different, people in themselves don’t usually differ too much, I wrote a story once about a reunion I attended involving my sports team that I was a member of 20 years previously, I couldn’t get over how little the basic personality of the people had changed, all the trials & tribulations of every one’s lives seemed to melt away as the old familiarity takes over. Smiling at you Jack
Thank you Wendy,
ReplyDeleteTo have encounters as such is something that is amazing but when you find that time has passed but nothing more except some of the pathways that each have went and are going it's really something special.
It's life and a manner of whom we are at this very point in time. Smiling back at ya.
I was once told that the sign of real friendship is that it does matter if it is two months or two years since you last saw each other it is like it was only yesterday.
ReplyDeleteLorna when I was a kid, I moved away from two very good friends. At that age I would look up into the stars and just think about how they were doing and then 8 years later I met them back in New York State...And not one thing had changed we even recalled and started the same jokes that we used to do. A real friend is with regard, and without a disregard.
ReplyDeleteFor the one that say's they are a life learner, I think equates to a very intelligent, wise person. Yesterdays perhaps equate to tomorrows...in a good mean full manner.
For me life is about learning.
ReplyDeletewith real friendship, time and distance doesn't really matter or count...
ReplyDeletefriends always pick up where they left of.. or simply move on to where each is going... most of the time not together but always with each other even when apart... that to me is what friends truly are....
thanks for being a friend too jack... and yeah i think that picture is really sweet!!!
Love or friendship does not die because of the distance that seperates two persons. What joins two persons is the bounds they create, and the mutual respect they show to each other. Glad you will be able to get the MRI so you finally have a clear image of the situation. It is always reassuring to understand what is going on. A good weekend to you Jack.
ReplyDeleteIt's so nice to just be able to be who we are with our friends, no matter how long it's been since we saw them. How nice for you to have had that time with her. Have a good weekend.
ReplyDeleteKudos to you Lorna....for me life is learning many things, but the curved dropped significantly for me - I mean the learning curve. Kudos to you.
ReplyDeleteWell it's just a picture but it does merit some authenticity. Now and then you have to show that you stand 4ft tall, and have grown a white beard and are a modern day Howard Huges. Without the money that is. I am kidding, I am pulling your leg! Actually I am not.....your to far for me to pull it..... : -)
ReplyDeleteThank you and now when I knew that I needed the time, I know in handling all this I did and am slowly getting back on with things. I thought the pain in my legs were stress sometimes they would make me feel as if I was in some super high stess mode and I am not saying that I don't some emotional areas. But by way of my "mental coach" that I see each week and if it was not for him I would not have had this even considered as now I am saying it. When things were tough - I went to a mental coach - pychologist. And for right now, he is one that really makes my week. But he was the one that got on the horn to my doctor and if it was not for him. I would still have and UKP. Undefined Knee Problem.
ReplyDeleteDaniel you are a true friend. A good morning to you and let me let you know that slowly but surely a promise still is a promise. What that promise is. Seulement vous comprendre. Un grand jour pour vous.
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And the same to you...
ReplyDelete*giggles* c",)
ReplyDeleteIt's great to see the folks who " knew us when, " isn't it? It brings back the life we were living then, and the people who shared it with us.
ReplyDeleteBeautiful story ! I have a similar version with a friend I first met in grade school. He married a dear friend, nasty divorce and is now married again. He is happy, she is a doll and we met up again over the phone when he called a friend whose birthday party I was attending. The friend knew I would love to talk to him and put us on the phone together. He lives in Florida and I visit him and the missus from time to time.....it is also as though we never parted............true friends can do this.........great to hear you are happy :)
ReplyDeleteAs well it brings about what is now....which can be a great thing when you have someone or a few that have known you for more than a decade or two. Yes.
ReplyDeleteI am happy for you to be connecting to others, in your new nest. Karma is a weird thing. You are an intelligent man, and you will find a partner with integrity to spend the rest of your life with. May Our Creator guide you in your decisions.
ReplyDeleteI do believe that I will, I just don't think that I wish to at this time Krun. I have merged with many people more so offline than online I find the time to write here and this is a true story. Right now I am in a new nest as you say and yes I understand fully what you are meaning with the Creator - which is a little different here in Candian culture to some extent.
ReplyDeleteThank you and I am not writing it correctly but is na qupidis...
Meaning all good things be yours. In a dialect of what I find to be something that we share.