Goals are not only absolutely necessary...

They are essential element in living life...

 

This write is founded on things that I have come back to understanding within myself and the areas in which I wish to pursue. This writing is enticed by an email I received back one year ago that I never had the chance to expand and write on. When the theme was suggested I started trying to notice some of the things I was going through and have gone through as well as the other side of the story with what I'm having to do related to the numbers of people wanting on to join as friends. Having to say no.

To begin the question of how to manage in your own dynamical way. I suspect it is common to feel a lowering of energy when one has put in the effort to try to connect in some manner (going for a job, getting a date, getting a book published, breaking up after various levels of intimacy and many more). One has most likely a deeper reaction the harder one has tried and found this final outcome. I'm no expert here as this is any area where I've still a lot of work to do on myself so I'm sharing from things I've picked up in my reading and observations and putting together here for the first time for me.

 

Remember the core goal. What is the burning desire behind the attempt or intention when weaving one's way with a motive of what they desire to accomplish? There's the famous story told of Colonel Sanders going out trying to find a backer for his Chicken recipe. In his attempts he was knocked back over and over. I've forgotten the number but believe it was in the thousands. The point of his persistence was a belief that he had something unique and of value and that others would want it. He recognized that only a

few in the population are risk takers and that if he was right in his belief then it was a matter of time before he would find the help he needed.  I suppose what I've just said in the last sentence is the second point. It is a matter of statistics. If you keep working towards the goal eventually someone will come who can connect.

The Law of Attraction. The more energy you put out in regard to something the more we will attract similar energy. This law seems simple but the reality behind it takes a bit of understanding or perhaps belief to make it work. Part of Visualization is getting energy in to it. The key word they used was working the visualization.

Example: One is giving a speech so they write what they want to say and then later give it. Someone else writes the talk then reads it over several times and then presents their talk. Given that both people are equal in ability when starting the odds are that the more successful speech would be the second persons. Now in this day and age those that often give the most effective speeches or presentations also put time into things like using powerpoint with pictures, graphs, illustrations, Often the speaker has learned to breath correctly when speaking and vary tone, pitch, speed of delivery, appropriate pauses for emphasis and possibly have a team of supporters helping to finesse it. Wardrobe advisers for instance. The whole point is to notice how much energy goes into success.

It doesn't all have to be physically done. The mind doesn't know the difference between energy expended in the mind and that done physically Studies show that basketball players imagining themselves shooting free throws can gain more improvement then one shooting at the basket for real. Part of what isn't shared in this that it is important is that the one visualizing the free throws has to remember deeply and fully every aspect of what their body does when they have thrown the perfect shot. There is a lot of energy put into those visualizations.

Faith/belief: This is going into a variety of areas of value and substance. The universe is waiting on us to be ready to receive the abundance that is there for us. There are life lessons connected to this faith. If we have any doubt lessons pop up to challenge us to accept faith. We are gifted with faith as we learn to trust and stop controlling things. Perhaps that's why we are getting more and more lessons about getting rid of the word try in our language. Trying suggests doubt.

 

Learning from mistakes: With every rejection we have the choice to use our wisdom and go over what we did and learn what went wrong so the next opportunity brings adjustments. One of the interesting things related to this is that most of us tend to get stuck into doing the same thing that doesn't work over and over in the belief that if done enough times the statistics rule will come into effect. Judgment generally brings us to a stop in our movement towards the task. It takes us out of the present and into the past. Keeps us from opening to the present and the blessings available. We lose energy that is better used on working towards the goal.

 

Allowance for free will: I'll illustrate with an example. Often in love one will fixate on having a relationship with a specific person who has free will. Goals that require changing another’s will generally don't work and when they do are most likely temporary. To attract love it would be better to work on being open to have the right person come into one's life. Focus on the qualities that person will have and make sure one's own energy is congruent. Living up to ones own standards are what give way to a pathway when free will is taken away, there is jeopardy in the will and what a person’s inclination as well as direction is. We all have that right of our own free will. It allows rather than forces. 

 

Allowance is the ability to know - which leads to what to do.