Roles ----- Gosh this is a hard one. The way I view our roles is we define it out and we make it as real as possible. But a role of a parent, a role of a spouse, a role of any human being isn’t that simple.
When you take on the role of a parent your taking on an invisible contract with your children. And I certainly don’t feel that means of a material manner. At best I think that parents these days give too much to what we call – or they themselves call “The Lost Generation”. Focusing on this for a moment. I do believe that there is a point where within the role of a parent you do the best that you can to nurture your children during the formative years. Thereafter there is a time in which needs and wants come into play. Generalizing this, some of our new generations are growing up in a world that they believe that everything should come to them. Of course, I am talking about that point where the formative years are over. And for some parents it’s a hard go at that stage where the invisible contractual agreement should have some rate of return. So often a parent feels obligated as the role of a parent to give, give and then keep giving. Mind you on the other hand there is a vast new younger generation that seems to be advocating things in a manner that they are doing things that highly surpass the things that were done before. Is functionality an obligatory throughout ones entire life as a parent? I don’t think so.
Our own roles in life are something that we are always adapting with. Mind you I don’t know all the answers in the world and never have subscribed to the feeling that I do. However, the one thing that I certainly do know – is that whatever we seek and what ever we wish for, should be an authentic wish. We carry out our roles that we have set up within our surroundings and we abide by our own needs and wants. I think we are all closer that what we think. If one would track back anyone’s history from this date backwards – I am sure that it would show a lot of different communities as well as ethnic groupings. None of us is pure. The entire time of our lives to this very day has been nurtured from the day in which we were born. More than half of the European males carry a line that can be traced back to Genghis Khan, whom came from Mongolia. My point, it’s useless to judge people because we all are humans drawn from different and yet all within the same lot. I think that is more of regard rather than a role. Perhaps this is just a thought.
The transitions that are going along with society in our day and age are perplexing at times.
Speaking of time, that is a commodity that is something that is so hard to set some role towards, but there is always a will and a way.
Do we need to go back in time? In my opinion – no, but is there more of a need to plan and have an outline of what we see as being a role for ourselves. Definitely. There are some things that will throw away good time which takes away what we desire to do. Over the last week, I have thought about a few of these areas. Today was a lazy day – well earned and I enjoyed it. However at the same time I understand for myself that, there are some hard choices, decisions to make and sometimes that isn’t easy. However in abiding by what you believe in, and what our roles may be are very different however what we all share in common is freedom. Freedom of choice, decision making and freedom speech. I have a high regard to some of the people that are passing by and are taking the time to write something, mind you I am not looking to do anything more than just give my slant on things. But roles are something in which we do have and when we abide by what we believe in – that is the best that can shape where we go. A challenge is a positive one that tests ones foundation within what they have set out as roles.
My role today was to get a few areas done for myself – which I had however that being said sometimes you bend, and sometimes you stand firm. Regardless it really comes down to being a human. For some reason I see a connection with roles and rules - but I don't think they are the same thing exactly. Regardless we role along...
Role along......pun intended? For some reason, the quote " all the world's a stage" popped into my mind when I started reading your blog. And we, as we take our turns on the stage of life, we are the actors , and our roles are numerous. We don't always get to audition for them; sometimes they are thrust upon us. Sometimes we have to play many roles at once and juggle them as best we can. No matter how we obtain our roles, the interpretations of them are solely in our hands. Let us emote! ( I have been teaching drama this year, can you tell? ) Figuring out how to interpret our roles is entirely up to us. It can be fun, and it can be exhausting. Good post!
ReplyDeleteRegardless we role along... this punching line seems to play its role... right on! Very interesting Jack. ``However in abiding by what you believe in, and what our roles may be are very different however what we all share in common is freedom. Freedom of choice, decision making and freedom speech.`` With all of that, we define who we are and adjust to our different roles in life, may they be self-imposed or consequences of our place in society. I suppose that is what would be our interpretation of them.
ReplyDeleteYou said something that caught my eye, Jack ... "My point, it’s useless to judge people because we all are humans drawn from different and yet all within the same lot. I think that is more of regard rather than a role."
ReplyDeletePerhaps it is in the interpretation and investment we put in those roles which makes us who we are ... uniqueness and diversity: it's what separates us as individuals ... Nice post, Jack ... Have a good day and be blessed ...
Rules are made for being broken, roles are made for being played...Let's play and broke some things around here!!! :P
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Most of us have so very many roles and with each come differing duties and expectations. As Susan pointed out, sometimes we don't get to choose these roles and juggling them can often become complicated. I think it is really easy,sometimes,for one of our most basic roles (who we are to ourselves) to get lost in the tussle. If not totally lost, sidelined in favor of all the others.
ReplyDeleteYou make a good point about parenting. It's becoming more and more common for young adults to stay dependent on parents to a much older age than in times past and this seems to be an indication that the parents are doing too much, giving too much. This sense of entitlement you mentioned seems to come from their not being expected to earn what they want and have had it given to them. Good post!
yes, regardless we must roll along in our roles imposed, chosen, welcomed or not.
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G'day Jack
ReplyDeleteRoles we play, you have it in one, Brings to mind a book I read many years ago, “The three faces of Eve,” very similar in many ways except her roles were completely separated from each other, ours are all battling for centre stage. without a pre written script no punch line ending with very few accolades and the only possible reward is the knowledge you have done the best possible job you could with what you had to work with. Personally I feel the most important roll I have ever had to play was that of Mother, most other roles are self motivated one way or another, but I look at parenting in a very different light. In the beginning I felt the responsibility of caring for another human being almost overwhelming , that, I felt was never about me it was always about the child, what ever I did would effect her in some way, and with no experience at having a mother let lone being one I was at a total loss and actually terrified, I studied every parenting book I could lay my hands on, in the end it was a kindly doctor that suggested that as the child had no knowledge of what a parent should be or do, as long as I thought of the child & did what I thought best at the time it would be fine, But I go along with you Jack that the modern way is to give too much of the wrong things to them, maybe because we were a one wage family, ours weren’t as spoiled as some, we lived very much in the need rather than the want zone, they learned to get something, you went without something else, or you worked harder for it. We went through the “how come we are the only ones that don’t have this or that stage”. I am not saying we were
Reading all these and unknowning to me I have had a infection and near lock jaw - so I rolled into the hospital, Then I rolled my immediate supervisor, and now I rolled onto the couch!
ReplyDeleteOops too long the last bit didn't fit in lol....”. I am not saying we were model parents, and seeing how our son, is bringing up his little ones to have all they want (which means a working Mum), I wonder what is the best way. But that is what role playing is all about we improvise as we go along. So in retrospect I do feel it was a role I was playing one I gladly relinquished when they reached adulthood (meaning the responsibility part only)
ReplyDeleteAwwwwwww hope you feel better soon ,lock jaw is painful
ReplyDeleteWe don't always get to audition for them; sometimes they are thrust upon us. Sometimes we have to play many roles at once and juggle them as best we can. < So true Susan, and yes let us emote!
ReplyDeleteDefinitely as the one that points one finger has three fingers point back at themselves, Cindy
ReplyDeleteThere is a topic that blends Wendy - we improvise. But that would be a compromising of sorts, yet it wouldn't. Just thinking here as yeah I have an inner ear infection as well as infection in the upper clef of my mouth and gums. Thanks I have one day off and then Tuesday back at it.
ReplyDeleteInteresting - Interesting!
Hope you feel better soon, Jack!
ReplyDeleteThanks just got home and I am off for two days to allow this infection to end - so rest and relaxation ......I was place together with spare parts don't ya know! lol
ReplyDeleteHaha, Jack. At least your sense of humor is still intact. May you and all your spare parts be right as rain soon.
ReplyDeleteOkay, this blog I have shown to my husband. I typed about 200 words in response, but I want to think on this a little more. Your outlook and introspective response to your everyday life intrigues me greatly. I will post on your blog soon. Hey, what's that funny smell?? Oh...sorry, ya just got me thinking'. ;)
ReplyDeleteYour right on the mark Jenna, I just love to write at night and I do try to get around but I find that shares of what and whom we are do come out within the writes to some extent. We all think and but in different ways and at different times. No apologies required as we are Human. - Maybe something in the oven is needing attention? Gotcha! (just joking). Norma, it's always there, I just wish to get back to the routine of work and I love this. You know I do, thanks for the song from Olivia N. John - Great song and I have never heard it before. If I can say ironically I have never done much with Utube at all. Not kidding...
ReplyDeleteYou are very welcome, Jack. I love the dolphin song. Years ago I used to have it on one of those small records that only had one song on each side. I had never heard the song, but it had been added to the back of her big hit, "Let's Get Physical."
ReplyDeleteThank you for the invite I am glad I discovered this particular blog. I am playing roles I never expected to play and I struggle with the adaptation of those roles. I have choices that need to be made and I have been procrastinating on them hoping things will change of their own volition. I am praying hard they will. Your blog reminds me that at the end of the day, what will be will be, and picking my battles is a choice that is more imperative to my minds health than any other I have considered recently. My roles are what I want them to be and at the end of the day I know I have done my best as a parent and step parent no matter what others may think or feel, children included!
ReplyDeleteWhat happens to those of us who no longer play the role we once did?
ReplyDeleteBut what happens to those of us who no longer play the roles we once did?
ReplyDeleteRoles are things that I see we adapt with. As nothing in life stays exactly the same. Things do change there is not one thing in life that remains constant.
ReplyDeletePacificopal - we do what we can and we try our best and at the end of the day when we know we have tired - that is all that really matters.