I think it`s fair to say that I do find that things are worth the making between two people. One never just throws in the towel. As two people people may start of in all different manners. Yeah I remember this saying of if it jells. The key is within listening and at the same time you give it your all. Yet perhaps I have been single for some time and yet a very decent one that is within my life here. Is someone that I find to be a friend and things still are moving slowly more so by my own part. I have found that there is a compromise as well as it takes two and well for the most part it has its ups and downs yet I enjoy all the things in which I love to do. So we are still going slowly. Maybe I am going slowly however it is what it is and no two people are alike and there is that self time that one enjoys in having. I have looked at things from my own angle and find that sometimes it can be trying yet I am not one to jump and leave someone. It`s not my way and my hopes are that for the next two weeks that we can work things out. I have a few friends on here that are much like myself that are married and they find that time to write something and enjoy the end of the day. Men. We men are all different. I have often said that there are boys, men, and gentlemen. I still believe in that and I am certainly not one to look to control things. As I have found with this friend of mine that is not on my blog yet is within each and everyday of my life that we are within an impass. I hope a good one. I don`t wish to take much time with this but maybe I am an idealist yet there is something to not throwing in the towel on someone that is within your life. You start off as friends and when both can learn or come to some reason of compromise and the understanding of the other one and that it`s not the past - then there is that chance. That very chance of something. Something that may very well lead into something good. Yet it does take two. Finally I have arrangements to get what was intended sent over to me from my home. So it`s been a busy weekend, yet one that between two people will require a little help. I appreciate your privacy with this as I am not down. I just feel that my hopes are that for a little more that things will and shall work out. As I think we tend to get to a certain age and we are used to doing things within our own manner and way. Just a little time and my hopes are that it shall begin to work out in a good manner. As mentioned this is a long ago friend that I regard highly as she is precious within her own way. If that was not the case I would not be here any longer but I do believe that all good things do have there own way of working out. I do hope that this is treated well by friends. Things just take some time, some a little longer than others. Yet where there is a will there is a way when two people can perhaps take that time out and render things back in a good manner. So my own hopes are that there is something that can be rendered in the manner that there were hopes with as we intended them to be. It`s just going to take a some from my part as well as hers. It`s proven that two people can work things out if they wish too and I certainly do. I am not one nor is she to be walking on eggshells. As there is something abundant in what can be. Love is not easy, nor is friendship - yet validity lays within the manner of what we do and how we do things for each other.
Between two it`s more worth the regard of knowing the other and as well the allowance to blend. No one is every completely right and yet it takes that render of compromise....and then it renders the best within two.
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laughter amigo----when you can laugh while making love and laugh in the middle of an argument---when you can find a moment to share a smile in even the most troubling of times-----when the memory--- be it one of long ago ---or a moment ago ----is of laughter----then amigo ---you have arrived..........................................
ReplyDeleteHope it all works out,everyone needs love in their life.
ReplyDeleteYes this is more about not just one but two. It takes two in every situation as this is the arrival of what is of good worth...
ReplyDeleteYes it does Tee, and all good things do come with looking beyond oneself. I have never just sat at this computer and wrote but I have always enjoyed writing as you know. Yet again love is more than just one, it`s that synchonicity of two. Even frienship for that matter. Sometimes perhaps its best to be friends and slowly groove within this areas called love.
ReplyDeleteon the other hand sometimes to slow is not good either :)life is short at best my dear friend
ReplyDeleteIt's good that two people can really know who they are as individuals. I have another friend who is in a similar position, Jack. Always remember that you can only be responsible for your own feelings and actions. You probably now that already, but it took me a while when I wasyounger to figure that out.
ReplyDeleteI believe if it's meant to be, it will be. Just let it happen naturally, and, in time, you will both know the answer. You have a beautiful heart, Jack, and love is waiting for you. If not with the person you speak of, then surely with another. :)
ReplyDeleteI think one has to remember that we are individuals ... and even when we come together, as friends or more .... there is still space within that connection for seperate things. We all need to be who we are in order to be with another and a lot of times people forget that and try and become one .... time, love and communication are whats needed in any relationship ... friendship or other. Its not easy especially when one has been living alone for so many years ... but with understanding ... it will flow .... and if it doesn't ... with communication, at least then there is still the friendship!
ReplyDeleteListen to your heart .... go with the flow of your feelings .....
I know Doug and I look at you and see that you post and write not only on a blog but you have that self time. When I was younger I did as well. And seems to me that you have it all complete with regards to how you have come to do as I shall. Yet there is that mutuality. Thanks Douglas.
ReplyDeleteMaryanne, yes and this morning we set sails out of town and I think this shall be a good time. Love and friendship are never forced - they just are there. I am not much into jumping from one relationship to another. My best friend did and he is out west and I am not sure where or what he is doing. He may have done that good old jump to another for codependant reason or what ever. So I see it as something that shall or shall not jell. Meanwhile you give it your best but you don`t get lost within it, nor is one too stubborn. And I don`t believe in hands, anger I believe in that compromise that two have a regard and respect to each other.
ReplyDeleteSo it shall or shall not be. Within my write I truly believe there is more hope.
Yep and right now I feel that there is a grand think here and people do tend to forget the importance of another. Ironically Lynne all to often as we `grow ahead` we seem to become set within our own ways. Not all but pending the two people. I can honestly say that the future now will uncover if this is meant to be as we got off to the wrong start. Yet there can be a a unison - if it`s wished. So I think it does take two and I know my own folks have been and are together for some 50 years and they made it thus far and literally through some trying times. As back in those days cultures did not mix. Yet they did it. So the same applies here for me. Either this works and jells (got that term from you my dear). It`s an adaptation yet here I go again as it is at first a compromise that then blends and does not come over night.
ReplyDeleteLife is compromise ... we compromise all the time really .. its the acceptance and understanding of others around us ... but one has to be careful that the compromise doesn't change the essence of one!! Adaption is about change and that would need the mutual understanding of two .... adaption is a lot harder than compromise ~grin~ ....
ReplyDeleteI guess the heart has to talk to the head ... and the head has to try and understand the heart .....
Good morning Jack! My first visit on blog in a long time. Your blog gives food for thoughts. I have read somewhere that in any situation that arises, one has to consider upon `What would love do in this situation?`. If we act with that question in mind, then we should know what to do at any given time. Within everything we do or feel, our perception might differ from the perception of another person. The communication is the key to make sure perceptions are not mixed with assumptions. The tensions often start with assumptions. Maybe you both have expectations which are unknown to the other. As you have written, when there is a will there is a way. All the best to the both of you...
ReplyDeleteI've been married a long time, 26 years June 30th. Very happily,,,, most of that time LOL!! It's about compromise, sometimes giving more than half, laughter, kindness,loving ( lots of it), & although connected yet still an individual. I wish you love Jack, and Maryann is right, if it's meant to be, then it will be. ((Hugs))
ReplyDeleteAlso, communication, oh boy is that a key ingredient to a good relationship. Giving each other their own space & time too. My hubby loves motorcycles, & is a member of a riding group. It's nice when he goes out for the day, & comes home to tell me all about it : ) And I have my own interests as well, then we meet up & discuss it. Ok, I'm done LOL!!!
ReplyDeleteMy husband and I got married at the young ages of 20 and 19 so now 33 years later at 52 I can't imagine ever being without him..Just as friendship grows into love marraige is also a growing process . We don't have all of the same interests but that is OK . It actually makes things more interesting. I've got to experience doing things I may not have otherwise and some of those things I've also "grown into...like a simple example of sitting and watching a Super Bowl Game " with my husband & actually getting to enjoy a little football sometimes. I love to write and take photos, he likes to fish ..I go fishing (just a little but mostly take pictures while we are fishing :) There are disagreements of course at times but so it is in any relationship. It's good not to go to sleep angry and to keep in communication even through the times of not seeing eye to eye and not let those things effect the GOODness of the relationship..I like what you said about compromise . You have a good attitude . Best wishes for you
ReplyDeleteWe do within compromises Lynne and yes it`s that understanding. That sphere that embraces oneself as well as there is that old saying that you can only be as good towards others yet first come self. Adapting is certain as you have described. After a fine day indeed it`s the logic of ones own thoughts and the validity. It`s never been something that I wrote about but yes in this case I have.
ReplyDeleteAssumptions are so often the mindset of what we write within yet tensions happen in all my time I have never been one to look at things from a vantage of tension. Tension within this area is one that is temperant within what is and what can be. There is always a way and I find that great expectations are not one that I surmize. Rather it`s more of a manner of the art of respect. Communication is certainly the key. Yet each and everyone of us do have different ways that we hold a key. It`s evening now as I have been gone for most of today yet there is a ying and yang within it all...
ReplyDeleteKudos to you Catherine as within all things you are very fortunate. I can certainly say that you have certainly said much. What is meant is meant and it`s all about what you have just literally uncovered. You do your writes as while at the same time your are married and live a fulfilling life.
ReplyDeleteFullfillment there is a topic as I feel full and not empty.
That would be a key ingredient - you have a very decent husband there Cath. As well, as you seem to be a very decent wife.
ReplyDeleteCheryl how I know this from times that literally I have read your blogs within the past. Seems to me by what you say that you both do your individual things and then at the same time have that time together. It`s ironic as there are people on here that do have that self time that they do write. Seems to me that you have had the trails that come with a long term marriage yet ironically it`s much like a few of my friends and friends that are not on this blog. We do grow into things...yet I find that there has been a adaptation of which in this time of my life what is one month. So I figure that there is a good hearted manner in not living on the edge rather living. Easier said that wrote yet as I mentioned it`s really something regarding a groom into. And it does or it doesn't. I think it`s as simple now as that and either it shall or it shall not. I am not one to get into the infighting within a relationship for a prolonged period of time. So this is where I feel it takes two.....and yet within each it`s one looking at things from the other persons perspective. Some are happier being alone.
ReplyDeletewishing you the best!
ReplyDeleteThe best is yet to come :)
ReplyDeletebut it will when you least expect it, just make sure to have your eyes open enough to know it!
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