To Exceptional Friends

It has been a hard weekend for me and I just wish to say that I will write but there are times in which you just wish to have your own inner silence.

Father's Day has hit me hard, but I am accepting it for what it is.

Peace

Look At the Label Before Using

I am not sure where and when a few decisions will be made but I know that I know that this week was one that was going left, right, and center. 

Just to mention one.  I had earlier took my vehicle in and had all the rugs cleaned out last week, after making a move I had taken out all the back seats and thereafter I wished to have them all cleaned there are a few different specialized places there that will do you entire car, truck, van.  One is called “Cupids Cleaners” but when you drive past it, on the outside of the building and around it – it’s so dirty, I thought this name cupid didn’t necessarily fit in the best of the best of this sort of cleaning.  So then there was “Bubbles”.  And a very neat operation that certainly did a great job with the carpet.

I thought I would take it on my own. Cleaning the seats afterwards. I had a bottle of rug cleaner – that I thought would work fine.  Prior to going to have the interior rugs cleaned, I had left the bottle of cleaner behind my drivers seat where there is a net to place things in. Little did I know that the cans would change after I left!

 

How this “Bubbles” place works there is a staff of about 15 people that clean your car, you sit inside or outside, and they have a variety of people working for them and they did a great job.  It's done in an an assembly manner, yet as my carpets did need cleaning and I decided that I was not going to take the full package but just have the rugs cleaned.  Some how by way of mistake, someone accidentally mixed up bottles.  my can of carpet cleaner had been replaced with some solvent that is used for tire leaks. Little did I know till much later...

 

So here I am happy as can be and I had gotten the can and brought down on the ground in the garage two of four seats to clean.  This can looked the same as my other, and I went to it like with such enthusiasm – as I was going to bring the seats to be as clean as can be.  Little did I know I was spraying them down with a solvent that reeked to high heaven.  And here I thought I was doing a might fine job!  I did it so fast and plastered them down thinking I would be then coming back to them the very next evening and, here before that I could see that there was something wrong, as a cleaner never will smell like this.  So off to “Bubbles” I went. 

 

I explained what had happened and they were able to get out the solvent and smell.  And over and above that, they cleaned the seats after and scotch guarded them. As well, they placed them back into position (which is a tricky thing to do).  But I do know that I am going to look at what the can says from here on in. As never spray down something with a solvent - it wont clean you seats, it could very well do the opposite.

 

Word of advice – look at the label before you use it.

The aptitudes of Attitudes

No one is perfect and there is always a resolve.  I find the best think with regard to what I wrote about was that life is not perfect and things take place that you should never waiver from.  Too each their own and I find the peace within my own life – maybe that is just simplicity to some extent.

 

But we all are human and each and every one of us has things that take place in our own back yards and for me I resolved the situation – by communicating.  So many times things can be mistaken – regarding the write that I made.  It was something that had been on my mind for a while and I thought I would write regarding it as I wished to voice it out.

 

I do waiver in what I believe in and the one thing that I do find is that in time the truth of any given situation comes out.  I have been so on the go this week I find that I have been doing several things at the same time.  In life that is...  But I am comfortable within my own shoes.  Anger never takes anyone anywhere.  

So you cast off any situation, and maintain a regard for one’s self and the people that are important to you.

The One Minute Communicator

Have you ever had a friend that is going through a divorce?  And in some manner they needed to play silly games?  I mean as they are in the midst of something while alone they have the need to observe and try to transfer it on to you, by way of doing all sorts of games?

I came to realize last winter that I had a situation whereby while I was doing things within work – I had a situation where one, would transfer things at times.  I heard it from both sides and I have a good inkling as to where and what all took place – but it’s not my place to judge who is write or who is wrong.  I would rather stay out of the dynamic.  I am not one to judge but there were times in which there was such a situation going on where there would be notes wrote rather than speaking about things and then there would be this tendency to try to make you feel guilty.  I think it’s called a controlling mentality that usually does not have much self esteem, and when just the smallest thing does not go right they are ready to go nuts with anger.

I recall the notes, and then the watching one that was silent but had anger in him due to situations that he was facing.  I stood by him, I still do, but what I find amazing is that now and then there is some manner that the communication is just not there.  Or it is, but it’s done in a fashion that is with the intention to try to show they are better than you, or that you’re not good enough.  And really when it comes down to it.  I just leave it be.  And I left it be.

I know that I went through some things and I challenged myself but I never took it out on someone else.  While I was back in the city I used to live in, I had a few words with my folks on this.  And the first thing was look the other way and sooner or later the one that wishes to observe and criticize you life, really isn’t living there own, when there alone.

It’s interesting what takes place when people get older.  For myself, I prefer direct communication.  If there is a problem – say it talk about it, when it’s retained, and there is some manner that one needs to try to place you down, or do what is called a “mind F” excuse the word.  I think that the person really has to take the time to look in the mirror and understand that maybe where while he was pointing fingers in a passive aggressive manner – he didn’t that while when pointing a finger at someone – there are three fingers that point back at one’s self.

Perhaps now and then those three other fingers trigger a passive aggressive nature and as well the finger points in directions that it does not realize where it’s pointing.  For the one that thought he had some upper hand or something, now he just has what he has today.  And I have my own life.

Interesting enough while hearing all sides of the story – I just understand that we all go through out own trying times in life.  But somehow the friendship has become what it is.  And for myself that case is closed.  As I won’t be nor go through it again, not the unfounded games and the transference that took place.  Denial is something amazing to watch…not.  And I never wish to enter into that place nor shall I.  I am too busy building on my life.

 

“Just never point a finger in the wrong direction – they might be surprised on where it’s been pointing.”  It is what it was…I learned that and gained that when I returned and met with my father.  Actually I knew it all along - it was good to just understand it from another. 

 

It's my life an no one is going to change that...

What Time is It?

I really despise is time zones. How it is that various people from different parts of the world are predominantly offline during the times that I am on.

Truly if there as one thing that would be tremendous - it would be that everyone lived with the same time zone.

Just my thoughts.

 

A Monday in June

I arrived home this evening, prior I was getting groceries, and while at the check out I bought a magazine, as most of you know was about this country singer named Kenny Chesney.  He is a tremendous artist and the story was more about what he had gone through within a period of his life.  It’s not often that I get that time to just sit back and read.  While getting groceries and at the checkout, I looked at the cover and aside from all the topics which I don’t really take to as it’s all about celebrities saying something and then next thing you know it was all just said but not the truth.  Not all but seem for a good portion out there in celebrity land.  Later you find that all the areas of there life exposed.  Chesney – sure he is rich and is one of the top country singers out there right now.  It was about how he was happy being a bachelor.  I guess when you have the income that he does – why wouldn’t you be happy.  But he found himself after a divorce with an actress – I forget her name, but it seemed to be interesting.  I think that he came from nothing and made something of himself.  I like a few of his songs, but the interesting part was on how he has learned something after a loss.  We all do go through that.  I find that there are some that have learned over time, some have learned over loss, and some have just been groomed or lived in a manner that something has gone right. 

I had a situation like last winter where my car completely went on me.  And then I ended up having another situation with another vehicle.  I went to a large car repair chain told that I needed a new motor.  I thought to myself here we go again. 

I called a friend that owns his own shop and he is one of the few now here in this end of the city that is an independent.  Terri is his name he is 50 years of age and had 15 gas service stations and then for some reason he had to shut them all down.  I was at his service station at 7am and rather than an engine replacement being necessary, it only needed a few things.  If forget the name of the one main part, along with only a few seals needing to be replaced.  It cost some but it was not time to buy another vehicle.

I caught the time to an article and then I received a call from a gentleman that owns a very large company.  While right now I am awaiting to see what happens with something very special with the airport authority several things seemed to happen after getting home.  So from 7pm till now I was doing some other work.

I always love to head out on the porch and just watch things and I write on various things, walking by the television and seeing what is going on with the election in the USA, turning quickly to the weather channel while I grab a bite and see what the forecast is going to be. And then I get into that mindset of writing.  Of course Mondays are Mondays and it’s the time where it’s all work.  But I come on here and think of a few things to write on.  One very good friend of mine that I have not seen since went on my own retreat back 9 months ago was my friend Syd.  We were talking and we were talking about several things.  He lives in a city called Calgary and he used to be in a band I had when I was younger.  We talked about several things, and he asked me how I see things now.  And I told him that I see things much different, I indicated what came about with my father, and then he asked me if I was religious.  I told him what I feel about that and he said that he lives an ordinary life and with his wife and family he found himself after he lost his business.  He works for a company that sells bread across this country.  I asked him about all this religion and how far he takes it.  He said that he does not take it as serious as I probably assume.  He said that he just knows that there is something about faith.  It always left me thinking much differently of Syd, as I never knew he had that feeling with things and much like myself we are moderate in what we believe in – but we are both on the same page when it comes to respect.  It was a day and then some.  I find that there are new people to meet in life as well as there are people that have some sort of inner thing that keeps them well founded.

For myself, I get onto things within the day and when the evening comes – I there is something about it that I just like to reflect on.  As it's a part or fraction of what all is happening within my life - as it is with yours.  It’s that calm.  Within my world things have changed a tad, but yet they haven’t.  I don’t wish to be anyone else but just myself. 

Summer is coming and it’s interesting how life does go.  Each day you really don’t know what is going to happen, what is going to take place in your life.  But if there is one thing I feel certain of – it’s something that I had mentioned about before with the actor Mr. Portia.  He was asked if he would change anything in his life.  And what seemed so interesting from a person of his age and caliber he mentioned that he felt that he has a belief that everything that had happened in his life lead him to where he was.  And if any portion of his life were to be modified he would not be the same.  He would be someone different.  Actually all four people have something, as they live not in the need to get something, but for some reason it comes. 

Monday it was...

"Petals For Less"

Yesterday I had this strange call.  It was “Petals for Less”.  I asked them if they were sure they were or had the right person, and they asked my name and sure as it can be – it was for me.  I had been up yesterday at 6am, by 8 the contractors needed the garage door to be open to pour the concrete after we finally had some really nice warm weather.  As earlier the entire area surrounding the house was mud, and if you didn’t step on this metal pathway.  You would literally sink into the ground right up to nearly half a foot. So here I had these contractors and then I had “Petals for Less” asking for someone to be at the house between noon to 4pm. Well it was Saturday and I love to head and do things and …I quickly drove off to get the Saturday newspaper and then rushed back.  Still no delivery.  So I did several things around here that need to be done, but again it now was 4, and I wanted to go out.  I was going out later, but I called “Petals” and asked them where what ever they have is.  And is it going to show up or not.

 

Making a long story short, they indicated that they would not be able to deliver by way of their sub contractor delivery person.  I told them that then if the person that sent it.  They should be redeemed and have their money back.  At this time I had a hunch as I think I knew who had sent what I had yet to received.

 

I finally left again and returned around 7 pm.  Here I have two nice neighbors that came up to me and asked if my name was “Initiative Stain” – just kidding, they asked if my name was Jack, and I said yes.  David and his wife then introduced themselves to me and she rushed off with a smile on her face and came back with these flowers.  She smiled and asked me what is the occasion.  I told them, and they wished me a happy birthday and it was the first time that we had met.  I don’t know too many men that receive a gift of flowers – but it was nice as not only was “Petals for Less” – the petals/flowers were much more.

 

I got on the telephone and called long distance to a very good friend of mine.  Not going to mention the name as with many I do have a few very good friends and this one in particular amazed me that she was so thoughtful.  And the flowers are an arrangement, there is no grass laid down as of yet – but over this summer they will be on the front porch or on the back patio.  I will be the first to say – I do love plants and flowers.  And I do like tending to them and watching them grow.

 

I guess what I am trying to say here is that yeah it was my day of celebration, but I was amazed with a few things that have taken place – and if I can fit in a few pictures of these, they are really nice, and yes they are yellow.  Friendships that have meaning and acts as such tell me one thing – there still are amazing, special people out there – even online.  And fortunate for me, I have a gift that came from a very incredible person.

 

Ironically in the manner that I received the arrangement – I met my neighbors, had an interesting conversation with a man from Portugal that explained to me how he and his family operation do there trade – with the pavement.  And then I had a few calls as some from various corners of the world, as well as one with a very good friend of mine that lives in another city.  And as I am writing this I see the array of people wishing a happy birthday.  And I really wish to extend a thank you back to this person as well as to everyone.  It’s a part of something within my life that I do enjoy.  And I sincerely thank you for the gift, and as well the gift from various people by way of their fingers typing out a happy birthday.  I can tell you – it was not some big celebration – but it was an enjoyable time to just have to myself after the last two weeks that have taken place.